I'm a 32 year old woman, who has not had sex because of religious beliefs. I recently met someone who's given me a whole new world of experiences. Up until now, I've done everything except the actual act of intercourse. However, I'm not sure if I can hold that off any longer. I have mixed feelings, because all my life I thought that I would save myself for marriage, but since I'm still single, I'm getting anxious, and so is he. Now that this guy came along . . . I'm starting to change my perspective on the whole thing. I'm not sure if this is what I want, but at the same time, I want to experience it while I have the chance, because at this rate, I may never get another chance. Anyway, my question is . . . if I do decide to go ahead with it . . . will I bleed? At what point will I bleed? Will it be something that he will be able to see too? I don't think he believes me that I'm still a virgin. I was hoping to prove my point, but at the same time . . . I get sickened at the sight of blood. I'm scared, I guess. Any advice will be appreciated.
Loading...
I think if you have truly found the person to spend the rest of your life with they shouldn't question you about being a virgin or not. As far as the blood issue goes, most women will have some sort of bleeding during their first few times of having intercourse, most often the first time. I guess I could suggest turning off the lights and laying on some towels that you can throw away aferwards.
I wish you the best of luck :-)
I wish you the best of luck :-)
Loading...
There are women who bleeds and there are those who doesn't.... I think you are a very strong girl to hold it off for so long and still reluctant whether to have it outside of marriage...I wish I was that strong... It would have been the best thing I could give to my future (still out of this world) husband... now that I am not a virgin and have experience a lot of nasty things - I would prefer to be a virgin spinster... I wish I have more pride for myself...so cheers to you for still being a virgin... if your boyfriend thinks you're not - sorry, wish you could shove it up his ass but I know that you love him...and if he also loves you, he would value your principles and marry you before having sex... in any case, if you want to prove it without doing the act - then just see a doctor and she can give you a medical report saying that you...they could check this for you...
Regret always comes after the deed is done. Good luck.
Regret always comes after the deed is done. Good luck.
Loading...
Dont rush into something you're not very sure about. Im 32 also and i lost my virginity to a jerk. He cannot believe that im a virgin at age 32 also. But afterwards he left me and im devastated. You will only know your ready if you have a ring on your finger. Besides there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Just remember its your choice and you have to suffer the consequences afterwards.
Loading...
Hi there. I'm 29 years old and about to be married (3 months from now). I didn't think that I would ever find the right guy - then out of nowhere, there he was! Honestly, I am holding on to my virginity for myself and for God. As much as I love my fiance, he's just going to have to wait. If he didn't want to (or if he didn't believe me), then I would have just shown him the door.
I know you feel like the only virgin in the world, but I know from experience how difficult it was for you to get this far. Please, please remember why you have been holding on for this long. If your reasons for waiting have been outweighed by your reasons for wanting to "take the plunge", then I wish you the best. My guess is that you'll discover that curiosity never outweighs a sacred promise.
I'll be thinking of you. Let me know what you decide! XD
I know you feel like the only virgin in the world, but I know from experience how difficult it was for you to get this far. Please, please remember why you have been holding on for this long. If your reasons for waiting have been outweighed by your reasons for wanting to "take the plunge", then I wish you the best. My guess is that you'll discover that curiosity never outweighs a sacred promise.
I'll be thinking of you. Let me know what you decide! XD
Loading...
I am 27 and just lost it to my wonderful fantastic boyfriend and now fiance. It was not a decission for him to make, or because of god or who/whatever. It was me. Me knowing that I am emotionally prepared to, that I am strong enough to deal with the possible consiquences of sex and that I was secure enough with me. I lost it because of me and because I was ready too and I felt ok with it. If your not ok with it or doupt yourself or him, then dont do it. As for bleeding, I did not HOWEVER we did have sex the whole friggen day and well into the night I broke his peinis - he was some sore and I laughed at him...the next day I had HUGE friction burn around my vagina and was some sore. So a heads up on that one, if I had to do it again I would have only had sex with him once and not 9 times in a row.
I got him tested and I was on the pill a month before we had sex. Research too, it is your body and you need to know what will make you work and boss him around in bed, if it does not feel right or good tell him.
A
I got him tested and I was on the pill a month before we had sex. Research too, it is your body and you need to know what will make you work and boss him around in bed, if it does not feel right or good tell him.
A
Loading...
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24 and I felt like a late bloomer then. That relationship didn't last, but still, it was a decision I had made at that point, I was ready to have the experience of sex, and I'm glad I waited until I was no longer a teenager and a bit older.
I didn't bleed my first time either. I had maybe a little spotting, but it was not much at all. The first time it didn't hurt me either, but everyone is different. However, I agree with the PP: don't have sex many, many times the first night; it will definitely leave you with unpleasant friction burns the next day :$
I didn't bleed my first time either. I had maybe a little spotting, but it was not much at all. The first time it didn't hurt me either, but everyone is different. However, I agree with the PP: don't have sex many, many times the first night; it will definitely leave you with unpleasant friction burns the next day :$
Loading...
I'm 19. I know it's still young. I'm intending to keep my virginity as long as I can. I really want to wait until after marriage. It will be for a long time from now because I'm taking up Medicine. And I don't intend on getting married until i finish school.
I never had a boyfriend also. So basically, I had been single my whole life. It may sound lame but it's a matter of choice to wait for that someone. I have been pressured a lot by friends who constantly tease me about it. But I'm holding my ground. And just for the record, I'm one of the most popular girl in school. Please don't think I'm being conceited by saying this. I'm saying this to let you understand that the pressure is much much more for me.
I'm afraid though. I tend to be too idealistic at times. That maybe I'll end up with someone sooner and later and break my promise. My friends told me temptation is too hard to resist. I'm afraid I may not be strong enough to handle it.
I'm really glad that I found other girls who has the same beliefs as mine.
I never had a boyfriend also. So basically, I had been single my whole life. It may sound lame but it's a matter of choice to wait for that someone. I have been pressured a lot by friends who constantly tease me about it. But I'm holding my ground. And just for the record, I'm one of the most popular girl in school. Please don't think I'm being conceited by saying this. I'm saying this to let you understand that the pressure is much much more for me.
I'm afraid though. I tend to be too idealistic at times. That maybe I'll end up with someone sooner and later and break my promise. My friends told me temptation is too hard to resist. I'm afraid I may not be strong enough to handle it.
I'm really glad that I found other girls who has the same beliefs as mine.
Loading...
Cudos for you. Stick to your guns/goals and if you are not sure, don't throw away something that precious.
I am a virgin, almost 29yrs and was thinking about this whole sex thing..am worried if there is any danger of waiting to have sex later in life and if so what might it be? thanks for the responses.
Loading...