Hey, Im 14 yrs and im thinking of losing my virginity.Im scared that i might bleed and feel pain. :'( :$ I dont want it to be uncomfortable for my partner if i bleed, so my question is, can i reduce the chances of bleeding??
My friend told me that masturbation can insure that you dont bleed on the first time... is this true??
plz help! %-)
My friend told me that masturbation can insure that you dont bleed on the first time... is this true??
plz help! %-)
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14 o.O
Really take some time to think this through. You have the whole rest of your life to make mistakes, why start this young?
Really take some time to think this through. You have the whole rest of your life to make mistakes, why start this young?
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Whether you masturbate or have sex, it hurts the first time, and you will likely have some bleeding.
That is normal.
You are 14, you REALLY need to use a condom, and consider going on birth control if you are going to have sex.
You do not need parental consent to get birth control.
IF you are fearful of pain and bleeding, you can do other activities such as oral sex.
The BIGGEST thing is to protect YOURSELF =)
That is normal.
You are 14, you REALLY need to use a condom, and consider going on birth control if you are going to have sex.
You do not need parental consent to get birth control.
IF you are fearful of pain and bleeding, you can do other activities such as oral sex.
The BIGGEST thing is to protect YOURSELF =)
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:-( 14, please think this through b4 you do it. once it happens there is no going back. your virginity is a special thing and its not to be taken or given lightly. I lost mine at 17 4 years ago and after words i felt bad. i loved the guy and all but it want what i expected. To this day he is the only person i have ever been with. We split up in 2005 when our son was 10 months cause he had been cheating with many other girls and that made me feel nasty to know the the guy i loved more than anything in the world could do that to me. Sleep with the world then come home sleep with me and chance me catching something.
Do you know this guy well? Do you know that he is clean, and that you are not gonna catch anything from him? some things you can see or tell there is nothing wrong, but what about HIV its a silent disease there are nio signs no warnings...... one day you are fine you sleep with someone and 3-6 months later you can go to the dr get blood work for routine test and have them tell you that you have HIV an incurable disease that can be fatal.
That happened to my sister. She is 28 and pregnant, in a monogamous relationship, and she went to her prenatal visit they took blood work and at her next appointment they told her she was HIV positive. Come to find out her fiance had been sleeping around and she got the c**p and of the deal.
Just be very careful please! if you are gonna do this make sure you use a condom and get yourself on birth control. and if you are gonna go for the oral sex then get some dental dam protect yourself!!!!!!! you are too young to end your live over something as stupid as sex.
Im not some old lady im a 21 year old single mom that used to be as wild as im sure you are always out partying and even drinking. but i lost my youth by getting pregnant, at 18. I dont regret having my son but i do wish i could have waited till i was ready to have sex and start a family with my husband.
Raising a child is a hard thing to do.... but that is another post all together.
Do you know this guy well? Do you know that he is clean, and that you are not gonna catch anything from him? some things you can see or tell there is nothing wrong, but what about HIV its a silent disease there are nio signs no warnings...... one day you are fine you sleep with someone and 3-6 months later you can go to the dr get blood work for routine test and have them tell you that you have HIV an incurable disease that can be fatal.
That happened to my sister. She is 28 and pregnant, in a monogamous relationship, and she went to her prenatal visit they took blood work and at her next appointment they told her she was HIV positive. Come to find out her fiance had been sleeping around and she got the c**p and of the deal.
Just be very careful please! if you are gonna do this make sure you use a condom and get yourself on birth control. and if you are gonna go for the oral sex then get some dental dam protect yourself!!!!!!! you are too young to end your live over something as stupid as sex.
Im not some old lady im a 21 year old single mom that used to be as wild as im sure you are always out partying and even drinking. but i lost my youth by getting pregnant, at 18. I dont regret having my son but i do wish i could have waited till i was ready to have sex and start a family with my husband.
Raising a child is a hard thing to do.... but that is another post all together.
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NOT everyone that has sex at 14-15-16-17 is a partier.
I was a straight A student, NEVER did drugs, and I lost my virginity at 17.
JUST because you have sex does not mean you will get pregnant. That is what birth control, condoms, and the choice of abortion are for.
Women are never stuck with a pregnancy unless they choose to keep it.
I was a straight A student, NEVER did drugs, and I lost my virginity at 17.
JUST because you have sex does not mean you will get pregnant. That is what birth control, condoms, and the choice of abortion are for.
Women are never stuck with a pregnancy unless they choose to keep it.
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Well thats great for you but most are. A regular 14 year old(no offense to the OP) that went to school and that was worried about her education and making a life for themselves wouldn't want to risk everything by having sex and opening themselves up to many things. Every 14/15 year old that i know thats done this has been a wild child. not exactly saying that she is, this has just been my experience. I dont know the girl all i can do is speculate.
I was 17 when i lost mine also and i was a level headed kid, i didnt do drugs i had tried weed but that was it. i drank but not much by this time. I had wised up and gotten out of the party scene.
Pregnancy is always a possibility when it come to sex. Birth control is not 100% effective i have 2 friends that have B.C. babies. And have you never heard of a condom breaking? There is always a chance. Dont let her think other wise. But i did mention them to her as a way or protecting her self.
ok well i am sure that you and me are gonna bump heads on here cause we have totally different opinions on abortion..... I believe that if you are gonna lay down and spread your legs you should be ready to accept the consequences. Im tired of people using Abortion as a form of birth control! The only way i can see it being an option is in rape or incest. I dont think its right to take the life of a baby(yes a baby not a fetus!) just because someone didnt wanna take precautions to make sure it didnt happen. but thats not what this post is about.
i wasnt trying to scare her i was warning her about what could happen.
I was 17 when i lost mine also and i was a level headed kid, i didnt do drugs i had tried weed but that was it. i drank but not much by this time. I had wised up and gotten out of the party scene.
Pregnancy is always a possibility when it come to sex. Birth control is not 100% effective i have 2 friends that have B.C. babies. And have you never heard of a condom breaking? There is always a chance. Dont let her think other wise. But i did mention them to her as a way or protecting her self.
ok well i am sure that you and me are gonna bump heads on here cause we have totally different opinions on abortion..... I believe that if you are gonna lay down and spread your legs you should be ready to accept the consequences. Im tired of people using Abortion as a form of birth control! The only way i can see it being an option is in rape or incest. I dont think its right to take the life of a baby(yes a baby not a fetus!) just because someone didnt wanna take precautions to make sure it didnt happen. but thats not what this post is about.
i wasnt trying to scare her i was warning her about what could happen.
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