Need some help. Can't find anyone with my problem.
I lost my virginity for almost three years ago. My boyfriend and I always had a good time making love. We've had it for several times, and we enjoyed it too much. But we have been separated for eight months now. He was not really the type of guy that I wanted to marry, but I have learned to love him over time, appreciated him despite his imperfections. Even at the time when we still didn't have sex, I already saw him as my future husband. No matter how much I wanted to preserve my virginity at that time, I was too innocent that I didn't get the clue that he was going to get my precious treasure. Though after that, I get to love what we're doing to the point we got addicted to it.
The issue now is that, I met a new guy; and he was totally the ideal guy I've been looking for. Mind you, the traits that he has been looking for a girl completely suits my personality. Except for one thing: virginity. Through our random talks, I've seen that a girl's virginity is a must for him. He' a traditional type of guy. There are these signs that he likes me too. So I'm really nervous that what if he finds out that I'm not a virgin, he might be too quick to judge me. Since he's a really conservative guy. And he'll leave any girl just finding out that she's not virgin. Now I'm really having great great regrets that I gave my everything to my ex-boyfriend. I will just cry at night and think about my mistakes. Just wishing I did not gave in, I was too stupid. Can't find any other option of comforting myself. It has been bothering me for many months and it's driving me really insane.
Though I still have this hope that ex-boyfriend and I will get back together, then it'll be fine. All my worries will be gone. But what if there is no other chance? and I have no choice but to tell my future husband that I am not a virgin. I'm scared that I'll end up marrying no one because of this issue.
I hope someone could help me out. I will greatly appreciate the help.
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medic-dan109453
Hi Guest,
To not tell your new guy that you are a virgin, if he asks, is wrong.
If he loves you he will accept you for who you are, in all aspects. If he can't get over the virginity issue he is not for you. Don't live your life in a lie.
Move on with YOUR life. It is normal for you to hold the man you lost your viriginity to to a special standard but don't "settle" because you lost your "precious treasure" to him.
There are many men out there that will accept you. You just need to find them.
