First off, sorry if this is a repost but I just registered and wanted to make sure that this is posted.
Hello all,
New to this forum... I saw a few posts about paranoid schizophrenic neighbors and decided to post my experience here to see if anyone has any advice. Anyway,
I moved into this apartment a few years ago. My neighbor downstairs was really nice for the first year or so but then she started changing. She began telling me that there was people in her car that were trying to do "something". I told her I'd keep an eye out and try to help her if I could. She rang my doorbell at around 10pm when I was getting settled in for bed and told me that there was someone in her car. I went outside really quickly and found no one there. That's pretty much when it began.
She began accusing me and my girlfriend of collaborating with the people in her car. She told me she needed it to get to work (she doesn't work) and needed it for other daily activities and she could not loose it. I sympathized and tried to understand. However, she kept accusing us, especially my girlfriend. When asked about specifics she doesn't know. She doesn't know what age they are, how many there are, what they're doing. I try to reason with her that people would not want to sit in her car at single digit degrees outside without the car on. She seems to understand only during the actual conversation and then forgets completely. I often see notes on the outside of her car with underlined writing and many exclamation points. I tried to give her suggestions on leaving a video camera on, or getting some more security for her car but she doesn't do it.
She then accused my car unlocker of un-locking her car. I've been trying not to use it but it's kind of a pain. I just don't know what to do now. I leave for work very early in the morning (4am) and sometimes she is awake just waiting for me. Sometimes she hysterical and crying. She rings my doorbell at like 11pm when I am almost in bed. This morning she accused my girlfriend of breaking into her apartment and stealing her birth certificate. She also handed her an envelope where she requests that my girlfriends child, she doesn't have one, stay out of her car. She also thinks that her television is talking to her.
I've talked to the apartment complex, written an official note to see if they could contact her relatives. No good, she just got angry at us for talking to them. She calls the cops but they brush her off because no one is in her car. I fear that it's escalating.
I can't take out the trash, I can't go outside, I feel trapped going in of my apartment and leaving. Please, any advice on how I should approach this? Do I really need to try and get her out of the apartment?
Hello all,
New to this forum... I saw a few posts about paranoid schizophrenic neighbors and decided to post my experience here to see if anyone has any advice. Anyway,
I moved into this apartment a few years ago. My neighbor downstairs was really nice for the first year or so but then she started changing. She began telling me that there was people in her car that were trying to do "something". I told her I'd keep an eye out and try to help her if I could. She rang my doorbell at around 10pm when I was getting settled in for bed and told me that there was someone in her car. I went outside really quickly and found no one there. That's pretty much when it began.
She began accusing me and my girlfriend of collaborating with the people in her car. She told me she needed it to get to work (she doesn't work) and needed it for other daily activities and she could not loose it. I sympathized and tried to understand. However, she kept accusing us, especially my girlfriend. When asked about specifics she doesn't know. She doesn't know what age they are, how many there are, what they're doing. I try to reason with her that people would not want to sit in her car at single digit degrees outside without the car on. She seems to understand only during the actual conversation and then forgets completely. I often see notes on the outside of her car with underlined writing and many exclamation points. I tried to give her suggestions on leaving a video camera on, or getting some more security for her car but she doesn't do it.
She then accused my car unlocker of un-locking her car. I've been trying not to use it but it's kind of a pain. I just don't know what to do now. I leave for work very early in the morning (4am) and sometimes she is awake just waiting for me. Sometimes she hysterical and crying. She rings my doorbell at like 11pm when I am almost in bed. This morning she accused my girlfriend of breaking into her apartment and stealing her birth certificate. She also handed her an envelope where she requests that my girlfriends child, she doesn't have one, stay out of her car. She also thinks that her television is talking to her.
I've talked to the apartment complex, written an official note to see if they could contact her relatives. No good, she just got angry at us for talking to them. She calls the cops but they brush her off because no one is in her car. I fear that it's escalating.
I can't take out the trash, I can't go outside, I feel trapped going in of my apartment and leaving. Please, any advice on how I should approach this? Do I really need to try and get her out of the apartment?
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Well, Having a couple of nut cases for neighbors myself, you need to look out for yourself. It may sound cold and unsympathetic but having been put in a position to protect my wife and 2 year old sympathy and political correctness need s to take the back seat to reality. Tell her there has been surveillance on yourself by some very official looking people since she has interacted with you. and you felt she had a right to know. She will avoid you like a disease.
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There are a few things that could have set this off. If she is schizophrenic and does fine sometimes she may have meds, thought that she was fine and stopped taking them. Another way that people display schizophrenic behaviours is through drug use. Next time she is having and episode I wouldn't suggest calling the police but maybe calling medical help. No this is not going to get better and no she is not going to stop until she gets real help. These are all just my suggestions. I have never had anyone call an ambulance on me but there have been times where I could have used it. In this case you have to be careful because if she holds you two responsible for something she is not going to let go or forget, its part of the disorder to not let go of things. Also you have to remeber that while she may understand that what you are telling her is true in the moment, her thoughts and suspisions are just as real to her as your words. Try handling it like you would a small child, she needs attention but it has to be in a form that doesnt leave you at fault or at the center of her issues.
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