i'm 14, and i decided that i'm ready to have sex with my boyfriend. The only protection we use is male condoms. -- Is that safe enough or should I use other protection?
We've had sex about 3 or 4 times now and after every time I get really scared that i'm going to get pregnant. I've missed my period.. but only by 1 day so far. My breasts are kind of tender and they seem to be getting bigger, but i really have no idea if i'm pregnant or not. I'm to nervous to get a pregnancy test because the only person that knows about me having sex is my boyfriend, and he wouldn't do something like getting a pregnancy test for me...
So since i'm getting scared every time i have sex, and that i'm only 14 going to be 15, am i to young to be having sex?
We've had sex about 3 or 4 times now and after every time I get really scared that i'm going to get pregnant. I've missed my period.. but only by 1 day so far. My breasts are kind of tender and they seem to be getting bigger, but i really have no idea if i'm pregnant or not. I'm to nervous to get a pregnancy test because the only person that knows about me having sex is my boyfriend, and he wouldn't do something like getting a pregnancy test for me...
So since i'm getting scared every time i have sex, and that i'm only 14 going to be 15, am i to young to be having sex?
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i personally don't think so
but at the same time
i don't think you should have lost it to your boyfriend if he won't even buy you a pregnancy test.. not like they're expensive. lol
but at the same time
i don't think you should have lost it to your boyfriend if he won't even buy you a pregnancy test.. not like they're expensive. lol
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Your question really makes me wonder. "Is that safe or should i use other protection?" Do you know about the birth control pill? It's not up to your bf to buy you an HPT, it's up to you.
As far as you being pregnant, you'll have to wait a little longer. Swollen and tender breats are a sign, for sure. I would not put all my securities in a condom alone. Sometimes they are defective, maybe put on wrong, maybe out dated, may be a hole somewhere, maybe removed wrong, there are many reasons why you could get pregnant from the use of a condom alone.
I suggest that you take yourself to the store ang buy yourself a test. Walk straight up to the counter and pay for it. You need to take responsibilty here. If you think your old enough to have sex (which i don't think you are) then you should be responsible enough to buy your own test, on your own.
In the meantime, if you are going to continue to have sex, you should seek out some birth control. Contact your local planned parenthood.
As far as you being pregnant, you'll have to wait a little longer. Swollen and tender breats are a sign, for sure. I would not put all my securities in a condom alone. Sometimes they are defective, maybe put on wrong, maybe out dated, may be a hole somewhere, maybe removed wrong, there are many reasons why you could get pregnant from the use of a condom alone.
I suggest that you take yourself to the store ang buy yourself a test. Walk straight up to the counter and pay for it. You need to take responsibilty here. If you think your old enough to have sex (which i don't think you are) then you should be responsible enough to buy your own test, on your own.
In the meantime, if you are going to continue to have sex, you should seek out some birth control. Contact your local planned parenthood.
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i'm seventeen, and after reading my post i agree, wasn't very good... was kind of late if you notice. i was tired.
and btw, he is right -- you do need to buy it yourself.. but at the same time, you could ask him and he could do it..
but I think that you need to take responsibility also, don't rely on other people.
and btw, he is right -- you do need to buy it yourself.. but at the same time, you could ask him and he could do it..
but I think that you need to take responsibility also, don't rely on other people.
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Wow 14 IS young.
This is a good guideline to tell whether you are ready for sex, or any relationship intimate enough FOR sex:
1) Do you have a job? That sounds silly, but in reality, RESPONSIBILITY is key to sex. It's also key to what sex could cause, which is a child... which takes money to take care of.
2) Are you ready to get married? I firmly believe that even dating is out of the question until you are in the state of mind (and age) to say "Yes, I'm ready for that sort of commitment". I'm not saying you could get pregnant and then you'd have to marry him. Not at all. But I am saying that if you are in relationship with someone you're really just wasting your time AND his time. Why do we date? To get to know someone and see if they could be a match to spend our lives with. You're 14, this relationship can hardly be considered for marriage yet.
3) Are you ready to have a child? Condoms or not, babies happen. My sister was on the pill, used condoms, AND her husband pulled out, yet she got pregnant with my nephew Ajay (she was married at the time, no need to lie about what happened). Nothing is 100% to keep you from being pregnant except abstinance.
NOW. For my personal story. I had sex for the first time when I was 15. I remember that fear of being pregnant afterwards and that feeling of "THANK GOD!" once I got my period the next month. I can't imagine doing that on a regular basis. I'd dated my boyfriend (who was 6 years older than me) for 2 years before we had intercourse, and I thought I was ready, we had sex ONCE and I knew after that I was NOT ready. That fear alone, and the fact that you're asking us that question shows that you aren't. But it's nothing to be ashamed of. When you're ready you'll know it :-)
This is a good guideline to tell whether you are ready for sex, or any relationship intimate enough FOR sex:
1) Do you have a job? That sounds silly, but in reality, RESPONSIBILITY is key to sex. It's also key to what sex could cause, which is a child... which takes money to take care of.
2) Are you ready to get married? I firmly believe that even dating is out of the question until you are in the state of mind (and age) to say "Yes, I'm ready for that sort of commitment". I'm not saying you could get pregnant and then you'd have to marry him. Not at all. But I am saying that if you are in relationship with someone you're really just wasting your time AND his time. Why do we date? To get to know someone and see if they could be a match to spend our lives with. You're 14, this relationship can hardly be considered for marriage yet.
3) Are you ready to have a child? Condoms or not, babies happen. My sister was on the pill, used condoms, AND her husband pulled out, yet she got pregnant with my nephew Ajay (she was married at the time, no need to lie about what happened). Nothing is 100% to keep you from being pregnant except abstinance.
NOW. For my personal story. I had sex for the first time when I was 15. I remember that fear of being pregnant afterwards and that feeling of "THANK GOD!" once I got my period the next month. I can't imagine doing that on a regular basis. I'd dated my boyfriend (who was 6 years older than me) for 2 years before we had intercourse, and I thought I was ready, we had sex ONCE and I knew after that I was NOT ready. That fear alone, and the fact that you're asking us that question shows that you aren't. But it's nothing to be ashamed of. When you're ready you'll know it :-)
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I was your age when I became pregnant with TWINS!! The decisions you make now can possible effect the rest of your life. I think you already know you're not ready for this kind of relationship if you have to ask. It just breaks my heart because you have now idea how your life can change in an instant. If you're ready to work ten times harder than you could ever imagine to succeed in life . Then I would say "yes" you're ready for this relationship. My children have had to go with out because of the choices I've made. That's not fair. Not to mention I had to do this all on my own. I have had to spend everyday trying to making it up to them and trying to make the best life for my family. Let me tell you 11 years later, I'm only 26 and I'm tired. I missed out on prom, graduating with my class, going away to collage, my 21st birthday, and everything in between. Things that don't seem important. But, I wouldn't know. I'm happy to say I didn't end up a statistic, living off welfare etc. But, it's been so hard and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. There's other things that could be worse than a baby.... Incurably Diseases?? What if you get one of those instead of a baby? Not to mention the fact that when you actually find the man you're going to spend the rest of your life with. What are you going to be able to save for him if you've already done it all before?? I really hope you make the right decision. Hopefully, you get your monthly. Then just think about it! Good Luck!
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oh my gosh,
i wish i can have a girl when she is only 14.
when you really know how to do it and are into it, sex gives you the best feelings. i don't think you should ask when is the time to have sex and whether you are ready or not. you should ask if you are ready to take responsibility for your actions. i think you can have sex at any age when you know how to get turned on and craving for sex. but if you cant or not ready to take responsibility for your actions, consequences will come after the pleasures.
sex is the ultimate pleasure you can have when you can avoid the consequences. i love sex and i never have enough it. i wish i can have it for breakfasts, lunches, dinners, and snacks.
i wish i can have a girl when she is only 14.
when you really know how to do it and are into it, sex gives you the best feelings. i don't think you should ask when is the time to have sex and whether you are ready or not. you should ask if you are ready to take responsibility for your actions. i think you can have sex at any age when you know how to get turned on and craving for sex. but if you cant or not ready to take responsibility for your actions, consequences will come after the pleasures.
sex is the ultimate pleasure you can have when you can avoid the consequences. i love sex and i never have enough it. i wish i can have it for breakfasts, lunches, dinners, and snacks.
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Jean: If what you state here is the unvarnished truth, bless you, your a giant,
your counsel, and insight expresses life lesson respect for this young
girl. I pray she 'hears' you. To your good health. C.Mc.
your counsel, and insight expresses life lesson respect for this young
girl. I pray she 'hears' you. To your good health. C.Mc.
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