I totally agree with you about the whole "odd" feeling. It's still like that for me a little bit but every month there is improvement. In the beginning I was the same, couldn't get out of bed, took time off work, it was awful. As for my period, I got it back as soon as I got off the pill but it is not my normal period, either extremely heavy or barely even there. I think our hormones are so out of wack. I was told that each month our period is getting rid of any excess hormones. So the fact your not having one is a huge indicator your hormones aren't right. Doctors are so insensitive to these real issue that come with birth control.
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It's great to hear that you are making small improvements because every time I read a post like ours it breaks my heart that things can change so quickly for anyone. I find it so odd that in the beginning it hits like depression and then as time goes on you learn to live with the thoughts and are able to be more hopeful that things will improve. Yes, the oddness is probably the most annoying thing ever. I have feelings of love sometimes but most of the time it is me thinking if I ever truly loved my bf for the whole time I have been with him. I haven't really been out with friends anywhere either. Oddly enough it is pure work, time to myself, and time with my boyfriend. That really feels like the safest way now.
Yes, it is ironic that the doctor will not tell you any of the medical processes that happen after you stop taking the pill regarding how your body adjusts. The mental side effects seem to be prevalent amongst a lot of people, who have no idea what to attribute it to when they go and see that their hormones test normal. Doctors only care about what pill you are taking next...
Yes, it is ironic that the doctor will not tell you any of the medical processes that happen after you stop taking the pill regarding how your body adjusts. The mental side effects seem to be prevalent amongst a lot of people, who have no idea what to attribute it to when they go and see that their hormones test normal. Doctors only care about what pill you are taking next...
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Same goes to you! I've heard so many different time frames and it seems like 3-6 months is really when you get a lot better. Also I know it's a bit personal but how's your sex drive? I'm 19 and it is completely gone. I really miss it
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Non existent! I don't feel attractive either. I had some of it like 2 or 3 weeks ago, but of course I wonder if it was real. Literally feel like I lost all excitement! Before I had all of this, i used to get excited to see my bf.now all excitement and optimism is gone....I hope around the 6 month mark for us!
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Hello guys, I am a guy. My girl the mother of my child is going through what all you guys are going through. But I'm not to sure she has been as lucky as y'all to realize it's the meds. The birth control and plan b pills. It's been about 5 months. And she slowly I can see signs of her coming back but it's horrible! If any of y'all have any advice for me, i'll gladly her you.
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I sure hope my girlfriend heals soon we are at the 5 month Ish mark and I can see hints of the old her but I just don't get why sex drive and love seems to be clouded by this alteration of feelings if you'd like to talk give me advice I'd appreciate it
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Yes this is a common occurrence amongst many women after the pill. Tell her to hang in there and that the feelings are temporary. That's how I make it through.
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Is there any blogs or forums that have helped y'all through? It's weird because like sometimes she will randomly do stuff like she used to and other times she doesn't she is all distant and sex drive no excitement not want to be with me. But I know this has to be it then is when it all started and she had some plan b pills also
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I'm the same way but I'm the guy her feelings are like gone and she is distant! No sex drive when that's al lshebused to wana do I swear she's a differnt person idk what to do
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I just don't get how it can change her feelings and her sexual drive like what if your guy was your best ever? What makes you stop wanting that? Stop wanting a future together? I mean I just pray because she is so confused you can tell how she acts. But it's like idk why this has to be happening to me
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My guy is the best ever., and if he wasn't I don't think I would have been suffering with these thoughts for almost 2 months. In terms of my future with him I used to get excited, and now my brain makes me think that there is none or should not be none. I have no idea why I feel like this. I don't want anyone else, but even at my worst times laying with him makes me feel a lot better and I feel a lot of love then.things or flaws that never bothered me, or I was able to look past, now serve as reasons to end the relationship. They are mostly physical too which is absolutely horrible, superficial and unlike me. No matter how much doubt I have, bf is there for me through thick and thin and knows I love him. We have such a great bond , and it's like my body cannot find the way to even appreciate him anymore. No matter how horrible and convincing my thoughts are, I'm not ending my relationship. I know something is wrong because I have nothing in life to look forward to at all. Nothing excites me anymore either and I can't even go out with friends anymore. No one is perfect, but focusing on anyone's flaws and using them as points to break up are not normal. And I know that.
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I have been going through this for 4 months and I'm slowly getting better. It really really is the pill. As hard as it may be to realize, it is. And the most important thing right now is you have to give her all the support she needs. Sex may be the last thing on her mind but it's not her fault. The hormones that are responsible for our sex drive, love, happiness, all of it is messed up due to this pill. It will come back you just have to give her your time and support
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Girl you sound like me in a nutshell. It sucks so bad. But having your guy there to support you shows a love so much deeper than even we know. And the feelings are not real, if they were we wouldn't get so upset about them. I promise it gets better it's just a slow process
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I hope so! I'm not worried about sex I just want her back. But my point with the sex is that she wanted it all the time from me and then morning after pills and birth control came. And I mean its so crazy to think a little pill could change that. I mean we weren't perfect but we had one thing in common we loved eachother. And idk how long this takes.. so it's been 4 months since you stopped? And what exactly do you mean slowly coming back to yourself how does it feel?
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The worst part is we have a child together that's 4 and it's like it puts that and are relationship on hold. It just sucks. I mean I pray and pray and pray
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