Birth control making you feel like a different person? DONT PANIC.

It's so hard to know who is who on here because everyone is a Guest, lol! But how is the gal who said
"It hurts that I don't feel 100% for him, but I like I am getting better I think?" I think you were the same person who mentioned that you guys have been thinking of moving in together and have been together for 2.5 years?

How are you today, how have you been feeling with your boyfriend lately? It's so hard for me still (I've been off the pill a little over a week), and I'm obsessing so much still (is he the one? have I always felt like this with him and never noticed it? etc, etc, etc type questions racing around in my head) and I am constantly assessing how I'm feeling when I'm with him. I almost feel guilty and hesitant saying 'I love you' back and when he holds me, I am constantly feeling bad for some reason. I am so confused!! I never had doubts about him before this happened...

Hi! I am doing better little and little by day. It really is unfortunate though because the depression and anxiety have dimished a lot, but i still doubt my future relationship. I am very functional, but I just wonder why I keep thinking the grass is greener when I have such a great guy. I'm assuming that I really have to take it day by day still. What I am scared of is this backwards thinking is literally changed or altered negatively my viewpoint of him.

What bothers me the most is that my mind goes into overdrive when I am alone that guys that I know that I think are attractive, and have thought in the past before all of this happened, I assume that I want a relationship now overy my current. It really is annoying but when I think of not being with my boyfriend it really hurts and I just want to be normal again. He is a great guy. However, I am still going to move in with him etc. Not going to let my scared mind tell me otherwise.

Yea I totally understand. I'm in a very hard time in my life right now (in my early twenties), where I don't know who I am at all right now. I realized I went to school for something I ended up really not liking and now I am having doubts about every single facet in my life and it is really overwhelming. I've been in a rut and pretty depressed/anxious because of this, for about 4 months now. Birth control made this a lot worse and I do feel a bit better after being off of it (I've been off for like two weeks). I think doubting my relationship is by far, the worst part about this process because I never doubted it before any this happened.

I agree. I gained 30 pounds in a year and left my boyfriend while on implanon. I am getting it removed in two weeks. After a year of constant hunger and sadness and living at the gym I will hopefully be able to live normally again.

This is amazing to read!!!! I thought I was the only one but I am going through all of this now and reading this makes you think you're not alone thank you so much!

I know I'm replying over a year later. But I just took birth control the last two months and the last 4 days have been hell and I don't know how to explain it other than I just do not feel myself at all I have a reacurring headache my stomach was upset a few days ago I feel like my likes and dislikes are all out of whack and I don't feel normal. My mom and best friend told me my bc probably started effecting me so I'm calling it quits. That isn't worth feeling like I'm someone else every day. Anyways. Thank you for your post and letting me know maybe I'm not crazy!

Hey guys I️ am in the same spot as everyone else. It’s not been 4 months I️ believe without birth control and my depression and anxiety are still through the roof. I️t seems like there is no light at the end of the tunnel from all these feelings. I️ have gotten blood work done for my hormones and everything came up normal besides my B12. Which apparently can make anxiety/ depression even worse. I’m doing everything I️ can to be some what normal. Anything that is calming or relaxing I️ do I️t. I️ try do the things I️ know I️ used to love still. It’s nice to see that I’m not the only one with this feeling, but hoping to see that things get better. Time heals everything right?

this is to nicole is you see this my email is ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** posting of private e-mails is not allowed*** *** all questions should be discussed on our website *** Please read our Terms of Use, my girl has been on bc for about month and a half and we broke up becuase her feelings werent. the same, like she loved me but as a friend shes confused and so am i. i love this girl to death, been togethe a year and 2 months, should i wait it out till she gets off of it or should i move one and also she is on actizen for her acne so she has to be on birth control till it clears up thanks.

Hey there, I'm going through this too and I'm panicking. After my boyfriend and I told each other we were planning on marrying each other, I started taking Microgestin. After a few weeks I started noticing that every little thing my boyfriend does irritates me now. Then I stopped caring about him. To the point where one day he broke down about how I've been treating him and I did not care at all and in fact was repulsed. This was the man who I previously would have done anything for and it used to break my heart to see him in any pain, especially from my own doing. I decided I wouldn't start the second pack of BC because they must be causing this. It's been almost two weeks now and I feel absolutely nothing for him. Half the time he feels like a stranger and I feel no connection to him when before I couldn't keep my hands off him. I'm depressed and anxious all the time, constantly wondering if I fell out of love or if it's the birth control. I'm losing my mind. I used to feel so much love for him. Please tell me this could be from the birth control, I'm really spiraling.

Hey i am a guy and my girlfriend and i are going through the same situation you just have to be patient and be woth your man as much because reading all these stories i have hope because it does really get better my girlfriend was on it for a week till she started to ask me if we would ever lose interest and that our relationship was slowing down when it was the bc that hit her hard instantly i knew it wasn’t a good idea no more she became distant and unattached and even said she was unnatractive to me hear and there and that scared me becase this is the love of my life so i did everything i can right now so that we can get back to Us....it is birth control and with patience and time you slowly get back to yourself your MIND NO but your HEART KNOWS your boyfriend is everything those feelings do come back and the love will restore back to you and you become normal im going through the same she feels the same like everyone had said on this fourm but have faith big patience and with time everything will get back to normal

Your mind at the time will say NO...excuse my typo

Hey! How are you?? I read this- and going through the same thing. It seems to be a reoccurring theme with birth control and relationships. I struggle with the same thing every single day too. I took birth control for 3 months and by far the worst mistake ever. I have been with my boyfriend for about 5-6 months before I started taking birth control- totally in love and plans for the future- seriously no other guy for me- and never attracted to someone so much before in my freaking life- seriously. I stopped taking ADD medicine I was taking for 12 years and Then I started taking birth control like a month later (idk what I was thinking). I started to get worried, paranoid, anxious, feeling guilty for things I didn't need to feel guilty for- just complete emotional turmoil, and the third month I felt so detached to him it was so strange. It was like three months of negative fixation which has totally destroyed me. It's like some bubble had burst. So after that I was like okay no more birth control. And so, since, like everyone else have been dealing with anxiety and depression, relating so so many of these posts like things that never bothered me are in the forefront and like one day I was like "hm do I like his face?" which in turn has started a whole other thing of me obsessing if I like how he looks and which side of his face looks better and how his ears look- it's literally CRAZY- when before birth control I was like WOW I have never been so attracted to someone before.

To anyone dealing with this- it's so important to talk about it. SO message me back or anything like that. Birth control has also left me with basically IBS- I haven't gone to the bathroom normally since September when I started birth control (it's now March). I also haven't been doing anything that I loved to do before all of this- I seriously miss myself. It's hard not to spiral and feel okay when you feel like you're going through an identity crisis. It's been 3 and a half months off of birth control- what's helped me so far has been meditation, getting back into what I love to do, exercise, and seeing a therapist. This has been the hardest thing I've ever had to go through by far because I literally have no idea how this could have happened. I feel as though I'm getting better and then I end up just focusing on the negative things which honestly drives me crazy. I do my best not to fixate (which is so so important) but it's so hard not to. I've heard from so many different women that it literally just takes time but it's so hard to be patient. I would never wish this on someone ever- I hope everyone is doing better!

Hi. I was wondering how things turned out for you. Have you gotten back to yourself yet? Your story is unbelievably similar to mine. I just want to know if there’s any hope for my relationship. Will I get my feelings back? I hate that I ever started birth control. It’s ruining everything. :(

Did you ever get your feelings back for your boyfriend? I’m so afraid that I will never get them back.

Did your feelings for your boyfriend ever come back?