Can't cum with my boyfriend, ONLY when i masturbate

I had the same problem for 6 yrs and I thought it was from me playing with my self for so long but that's not true , I recently got with a new guy and for a yr now out of the couple guys I was with I never got off by sex but now my new man can make me fun like 11 Times in one night and it was the other guys assent big enough and couldn't hit my g spot so

Simple ur just not into it.. If your into it like ur suppostoo then you would have no problem .. i know this for sure very experienced its not about the touch at all its about ur feelings if your aroused and so forth 

you may be like me so you have to f**k your boyfriend back, i mean while you are having sex hunch him while he is inside this makes my boyfriend come faster and ull fing ur spot quickly..

I have had this problem all my life with all partners... I've only once orgasmed and it was after a one off drug experimentation. I thought something is wrong with me but it is perfectly normal in women so DON'T WORRY. I find all this jib jab about just clear your mind... Stop worrying... ALL USELESS. I'm not worrying I'm not obsessed with cumming as I accepted I don't a long time ago and have always masturbated. How ever after a year with my perfect man I've started to feel like having a sneaky rub after a night of passion with some faked squealing is deceitful. Trouble is my body produces the 'evidence' and I'm in habit of making the noises now so he's oblivious but I'm not really getting the feelings... Until last night... Top tip ladies. Make sure you enjoy lots of kissing beforehand to get a tingle in your mingle then after a bit of missionary, let him do you doggy and stimulate your clitoris at the same time. I came harder than I ever have with toys / fingers and then was able to cum after in another position without my help. I think this is the road to achieving orgasms with my bf :) yippee xx Best of luck. And remember we're perfectly normal xx

i have this same problem...and my boyfriend gets upset when i masturbate, so now i feel guilty when i do. i feel so sexually unsatisfied and it's not like i try to hide that from him. i tell him all the time i only have clitoral orgasms but he INSISTS "oh, you'll cum from just penetration eventually." his brilliant reasoning? "my ex said the same thing  but i got her to cum from just sex. 

i've come to realize it's just as mental as it is physical. he makes me feel real good sometimes when we have sex but it pisses me off because, in between, he never plays with me. he says he feels bad and like it's pointless because he doesn't make me cum. i tell him "you never will if you don't try." he seems to agree and understand  but i'm starting to think i'm never going to reach orgasm with him and i'm VERY sick of having to sit him down once a month and tell him "you need to make me feel good/i'm undersexed." we have VERY different sex drives...

he's gone down on me maybe 3, 4 times since we first had sex months ago. my biggest issue is that i COULD cum from him giving me oral but he just reaches a point where he gives up because i take a long time. i got really close one time, but i felt so rushed.. i was thinking too hard about it and it just wouldn't happen. he acts like he's doing me such a favor when he goes down. i can tell he doesn't enjoy it at all and the fact that he doesn't want to make me feel good is really, really getting to me. 

i love him, i wouldn't trade him for the world but i'm so sexually frustrated! it's fine if he can't make me orgasm yet. maybe we'll get there some day. but he gets upset when i masturbate. he gets offended when i make myself orgasm because he can't. it's not my fault. i've given him clear directions but he just never listens and insists "we'll get it someday". i want to orgasm TODAY, i can make myself orgasm TODAY! but now when i do, i feel guilty. i can't even touch myself anymore without feeling ashamed. 

love ruined sex for me

I feel your frustration though... If I walked in on my girl or any female fondling herself

I know that the last thing I would be is upset. I'd be more inclined to strip down and join the party!

 

 Don't think there's anything at all with a women with very high sex drives. You should all move out to Australia, we could surely make you feel a lot more content with the amount of sex you were getting! 

 

If you are really not getting enough that is :/

There is nothing wrong with you. As women, we let our guards down completely only when we our by ourselves. I am a 33 year old women, and though I have had many sexual partners, only VERY few got me off. We, as women, tend to focus more on pleasing our partner, so our minds are not as intuned to an orgasm like when we are alone and are just thinking of us. It is simply mind over matter.

That is absolutely not true that only a partner can give a g spot orgasm. I do it all the time! It awesome!

Wow I don't have a bf but I do masterbate and I think that ur bf or husband should put his thing all the way inside of u and rub ur clit then once u start moaning don't stop it. U may feel u want to srop him but even if u do or steam to him to stop make sure he doesn't. After that  let him finger u and rub ur g spot hard but not too hard while rubbing ur clit.  Don't let him stop. After a while u should cum.

I can't either.. I tell him that cum but I haven't and I don't know how to tell him that I ddnt. I am pleased with what he does though

Have him use the toyon you !

I had the same issue up until a few months ago. We tryed many different poisitions and techniques. What helped me achieve this result was watching porn together so we were both turned on and showing him how to do it. That was the first time I had ever experienced what all the hype of an orgasm is. 

Funny. I'd be embarrassed to leave that comment if I were you. Good thing you have a common name:)

How? I want to know what it feels like!

This happened just a minute ago. He got mad at me and left me in the bedroom and told me I'm not attracted to him when that isn't the case. I mean I'm pregnant that May be a reason but it's not that I'm not attracted to him because I am.