CAN'T GET AN ERECTION WHEN IM WITH MY GIRLFRIEND

In all the years I have been active sexually, I have found the same problem. I can't get hard so easily. But it is accomplish-able, each of you will find your own nuances. For me its virgins, they always manage to get me hard very quickly, without fail. It also helps if they are younger than 21 and trim and taut bodied. It is a tall order I know, but in the name of getting a real erection it sure is worth it. And even if I have to walk to the ends of the earth to achieve this ....well I have yet to shy away from a challenge. In my case, my quest for a good sex life has taken me all over China, Japan and South Korea. Only the best female specimins the world has to offer can solve my qualms. Hope you can find your solution too. Good day.

Fudge im having the same problems just cant get it up it use to just respond by it self or i could stare at it and it would arise now im having to go thru extra trouble its been  about a week or two just turned 21 the 13th of last month blah i dont know whats wrong but this is bothersom to me

This just happened to me tonight. I was so mad and fustrated.my girlfriend and I have been going out for over 6 months already. Btw sorry I'm late on the reply. But it just gets me mad when this happens. It's probably happened at least four times now. We're both Virgins and were both 15. But when she gives me a ha****b I can barely get hard. If she blows me I'm a little harder than a ha****b. I seem like a failure -_- were planned to have sex and we have condoms and stuff already, but I just don't wanna get to the point ad were about to do it and then I can't get hard on our first time having sex. I'll feel so bad. I can get fully erected if masturate. I just don't understand. If we start making out and for playing I'm hard or when my hands are down her pants I'm a little hard. Any suggestions for the first time her and I do it. Anything will be helpful, thank you! Let me know ASAP!

Tryskull, i know this is REALLY late but I'm only 14  and i had the same exact problem last night.  i was soooo embarrassed and i thought my girl wud hate me forever.   whenever we make out i get a boner no problem   but once we were both naked (I'm a virgin she isn't) in bed it was impossible to get a boner. I'm 6-8 inches hard when i have a complete erection. We were at my friends house in his room with the door locked in the dark   and it took a few minutes just to get semi hard as she was giving me a hand job and i fingered her simultaneously. that seemed to be the only thing that worked and right when i went to put the condom on i wud get soft.  i used to jerk off 4-5 times a week but iv been sooo tired at night later cuz high school is kicking my ass    I'm in all honors classes (no I'm not a nerd) and i have hw everyday   and i think that might be stressing me out.  anyway i just continued to finger her and still nothing    then my friends parents knocked on the door and we both whispered "f**k:O"   and his dad was yelling "if u don't open the door in 2 minutes I'm breaking it down!"  and we were scared sh*tless and of course her bra got stuck to the floor   but thank god we got changed and out in time    and after a while we learned the parents didn't care     so thats my crazy sex story    hopefully today will be better  lol:)

This post changed my life. Thanks a ton.

Same problem, exepct i'm ALOT younger .. i've had sex before but it was hard to get hard, i'm somewhat religous and then theres my rents saying don't have sex, but i've been with this girl for quite some time and i don't ask to have sex when she hits me with the demanding statment "i want to have sex" i want to please her and it makes me angry and frustrated this has happened 2 other times and it's not fair. due to my youngness there isn't anyway of me getting none of those pills, i use protection but i'm hesitent i don't know how to get rid of my fear/hesitance please help.

Not having the problem as much anymore but it's still there

hey, i searched up this topic after a few nights ago i started losing my hardon with my girlfriend who i recently started goin out with. basically im at uni and been seeing this gurl and everytime i would be hard when wer jus messing around as usual sometimes id be hard all the time with her sleep next to her , still hard and wake up still hard(morning glory). but recently  when we wer tryna go for it as she is a virgin i started getting really nervous because all of my close uni friends and house mates literally f**k daily so ther like get it on with,  and that doesnt help at all. so i sat down and thought what the problem was cause im not a virgin and although im not a pro, this just wudnt happen. i realised yeah one factor is that im nervous cause shes not a s*** like the gurls you f**k in secondary so i kinda need to give her good sex especially her first, the other factor is i spent everyday with her the only time im not with her is when i go to work, the rest of the time we eat together go out together , study together and sleep together, and i started getting used to being around her naked obviously without doing anything sexual so when it comes to sex my mind is like you see her like this daily so i wont put it up.  The last thing guys, please please please dont make the same mistake as me, from a young age i started watching porn, still do occasionally but it messes you up, stop watching it, seriously STOP, im stopping now cause i noticed after i wank i can never get it up with her, so basically to try and get back on track ive started gettin back in the gym vigourously(apparently working your leg muscles makes you turned on the next day) sleeping more is important,  drinking and smoking(weed) less and actually eating alll my vitamins and vege's its hard doing all that as a student  aswell as pretty much anyone whether in school or proper adult life so do a few of those things, and yes i know we all wana be with our women all the time cause ther so damn hot but GUYS wouldnt you rather stay away from her for a few days maybe a week with minimal contact , do your own thing have fun see friends do sports and when you see her next hopefully youll be so hard when you f**k her vag shell feel it in her mouth hahahaha anyways goodluck lads. thanks for this uplift

Understand your frustration, I am 66 and sometimes experience same problem especially after giving prolonged oral.

My tips are as follows: stay healthy, don't smoke, cut out alchohol, try to relax and if down try giving her a massage i have found that it some times helps to arrouse tha old fella.

Happened to me too I coudnt get a erection so i just took of the condom and fingered her then got hard but the condom messed up :/ 

I came on here with the same problem, I'm 16, thankfully after reading an entire page of comments and suggestions i can now take serious note as to what everyone has said:) thankyou

that is true about the porn porn is for people who caint f**k at all if you dont got no std's or nothing then dont watch that stuff...it just took me to finger this out now i been doing my own thing not thinking bout my penis i let that to me old lady to make it hard my hands is made to touch her her hands is made to touch me. the only time these hands is touching this man down there is when im pissing or puting on my rubber. fuq porn fuq jacking (f**k ho3s) 

I have had the same problem.I am 30 y/ and happened to me the first time the last week man.I didnot have a girl friend for the last 2 years, and i tried it with a model last week and my penis wouldnot get hard.I do not think it is ED because i can get aroused when I watch porn and my penis gets hard as hell and i can masturbate too easily

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hey, i too am 16 and ive started a sexual relationship with my girlfriend. im having almost the same problem as tryskull as in im the same age, circumcised and used to masturbate frequesntly. since starting my relationship a month ago ive given up porn and dont masturbate as often. but when im with my girlfriend i cant get it up. its fine when im one my own but when im with her be it kissing, touching it, even giving head, i get nothing. i dont want to have to resort to a medicinal solution but i really need help. also im very comfortable around her so i cant see and physical or mental problems that could be causing this. PLEASE HELP :)

Im 17 me and my girlfriend have ben dating for about 3months never done anything sexual but iv never had an erection when im around her but she is attracted to me and im attracted to her i wanna now why i cant get ab eraction around her even when where at school i dont get an erection around her why is this?