Having an affair with a younger man

Well I'm a young guy but I would ask yourself do i love my husband or by boyfriend in the side I would go for younger cause a women has to be pleasures try testing your husband get naked and lay in bed see what he dose

I think you are playing dangerously. Adultery is never a good idea!

Of course he wants you to himself, but he is young enough to be your son. You don't think the relationship would last if you moved in with your paramour, so you know there is something wrong. Your question shows that you do not think the proposed course of action is right.

If I were you, I would not leave, I would stop the extra-marital affair, and start to rebuild married life in a proper way.

You need to get to the bottom of and resolve your marital issues. I think it is sad you have not had a sexual relationship with your husband for many years, but the unresolved issues will go with you. Why don't you sign in and talk about your situation. There are a lot of answered questions.

• Why do you no longer have a physical relationship?
• When did it stop?
• Why did you not have a child until you were 40?
• How old is your husband?
• When did you get married?

If I can help you any more with this, please ask. But you need to take urgent robust action. It is in your hands.

I hope this helps as a start.

It is a difficult situation. And no one likes the affair thing so that's probably why you havent gotten any replies! I am in a similar situation (living with my brother type husband, child in the home, affair with much younger man) and do not know a good answer either. I have been unhappy for so long but was too scared to do anything about it. I have finally come to the point where I need to do it for myself, not for this guy I'm involved with. We have one life. What are we teaching our kids about marriage and family.... to live with chaos, not working it out but okay with less than great? I know for me, I tried everything I could get my hands on or mind into to fix this marriage. I worked on me. But there was nothing in return. He thinks it's "good enough" and that hurts as I lay in bed, alone, sad, wanting to live the life of amazing, and simply can't. It says something when the person you call first about hard things or happy things is NOT your own husband but someone else that means the world to you. Especially when you realize this isn't just some passing, weird, ooopsies, crazy mistake that you got caught up in. 18 months is a long time. But leaving for another person at this stage of life seems crazy to me. I have been counseled to get on my own two feet and live for me and my kids. If he considers a relationship after that, then it is good. But do it for me. I've been told that things are hot now, but in twenty years will it be? I'd love to think so~ but planning for the future is super important. Please be careful.

To me it sounds as though you are is a declning relationship at home, maybe it is time to see another guy if splitting with your partner is innevitable anyways. When I was just a lad in 1989 i had a friend who's house I would routinely stay at on weekends and we would play movies, videogames, drink coke and eat chips all night etc.. His mom who was divorced and recently split with her live-in boyfriend was always hospitable and caring although not flirty or anything like that. Often she would wear pajamas at night while.watching tv or cooking us somethin in the kitchen and although they weren't at all revealing they were tight around her petite body and caused me to become fixated although not to the point where I needed to sneak off to masurbate in the bathroom or anything, just pleasant on the eyes if you know what I mean. Skip forward, one night in mid summer we were out in the backyard where they had a pool and hottub built into deck. She is in the spa, presumably sober, and I am just hanging around exchanging small chat with her. She asls me if I wanted to join her as I was recently swimming in the pool amd had my trunks on. I think nothing of it and drop into the jacuzzi. Some time passes and she says something about ciropractor and her body being stiff. Nothing to elude to her being turned on and she halfway jokingly asks if I know how to massage. I am sitting directly across from her and her head reclines, her feet end up in my lap and I begin to massage. This goes on for about 20-30 minutes and then it happens, erection. Her ankles in my lap she tightens up around my penis and gently but with lots of pressure starts working me with her feet. Still wearing swim trunks I am now guiding her movements and then I drop my shorts down to my thighs, totally free floating in the water although neither of our bodies are visible beneath the water as the jets make it impossible to see through. Within about 15 minutes I did what was to be expected and released my cargo. The orgasm was so intense I instantly fell asleep for a few moments. I wake to her toes massaging my balls, still semi erect it was my first ever footjob and only the 2nd time to have ejaculated with assistance from a female as I was only just about 18 and haven't had much experience with sex or women at that point. Most of my experience was from watching Nina Hartley on VHS tapes and rubbing out to a porno tape I had. Long saga cut short, this broke the ice and moral dilemas aside, the jacuzzi footjob began an 18 month fling that usually consisted of screwing in the nude on the living room floor and couch with the lights on. I still to this day cannot hold my stack for too long without ejaculating during footjobs, and she taught me early how to regulate the deed and hold my wad until peak time of orgasm, as well as deliver 2 or 3 times during paced sex. It was kinky and sometimes lewd but she taught me more about screwing in a year and a half than I could have learned from a girl my own age in twice the time. Eventually I lost touch with her but for years looked for the same sexual qualities in other women. For what it's worth I am glad to have had this sexual relationship with a woman 23 years older than me. As an 18 or 19 year old I couldn't have asked for a woman more versatile, agile, flexible, turned on, happy, and more carefree to be nude. Following this in years after many younger girls wouldn't even get naked unless the lights were off and the wouldn't even admit to ever having masturbated. The older and experienced woman was not ashamed of spreading on the kitchen table or starting without me with a buzzing toy, whereas girls my age would be too nervous to open their legs during penetration which caused unneccesary confusion to me during a time when I hardly knew how my own privates worked, let alone a woman's mysterious but wonderful receptacle parts. To get an older woman now I would need a 65-70 year old.. Too old, however I do still get my jollies watching mature ladies having intercourse as well as solo themselves off on the online dirty videotubes. Older women don't mess around, they know what they like, and while a young guy may be naive about sex,.a good older woman can be a great teacher whether she knows it or not.

hi i truely relate to what you saying ,my husband is controlling ,not sexually active,its less than a minute doing the thing and he is done and me not being satisfied ,we have two kids and its like living with a 50year old man and he is just 36yrs old ,so I ended up having an affair with a 21 year old ,oh my the sex is amazing and we have a strong bond .I love ma 21 year old coz he makes me feel loved and appreciated ,have been asking myself the same question .I feel like women need to be loved and man need to love,what I can say is stick to your marriage ,what if he leaves you for a younger women ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,in my wold I say do it and don't get caught

I'm 48, married and having an affair with a younger man. I feel trapped between my husband and my young lover. Any advice?