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The reason she wants you to tell her a month before is so that she can ensure you have adequate contraceptive and STI protection, and to make sure you know what you are doing. She will find out sooner or later, so I would tell her now. Don't try to live a lie. She may already suspect it anyway. Also, knowing your mental state, she may well want to support you as much as she can. I would have the same concern; being a parent of girls I understand. Try and mend the relationship with your parents - you'll need it sooner than you may think. On the otherhand she may feel sad or angry, but it is best to face up to that now rather than later when things could be worse.
The problem is that it is not just that "intercourse was another way of becoming closer and more intimate with eachother", because intercourse is much more than that. It is a bonding activity, and can detract from the other mental and emotional ways of getting to know each other better.
I hope this helps as a start.
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