I had sex for the first time a few weeks ago, me and my boyfriend tried again last night but it hurt so much I had to tell him to stop. However when he fingered me I felt uncomfortable but there was no pain. I tense up aswell because I expect it to hurt which doesn't help.
Im confused to whether my hymen has broke or not? Surely I would feel more pain during foreplay if it hadn't?
Im confused to whether my hymen has broke or not? Surely I would feel more pain during foreplay if it hadn't?
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Dear Ashhh
You may have had your hymen broken, and that is where the pain is from, read on and you will find some answers to questions you have and do not ask.
I wish to start out with this; the most important topic, could you tell your & his parents that your are pregnant?
If you are not on birth control at this moment, you may wish to think about it, Birth control can be a diaphragm (by a Dr. only)& jelly , the jelly alone, (found at the same place as water base lube) condoms for him & the jelly for you, and with girls, birth control pills, may be a longer time to wait if you wish go on the birth control pills now. you can go to a family planning clinic and without parents knowlege or permission, get on the pill,for fee or low costs.
Now about you;
Your vagina it is a group of muscles that normally collapse, and stretches to accommodate your tampons, sex toys, a male penis, and a baby’s body at birth. and the hurting may be from hitting your hymen, a small piece of skin that covers the vagina openning, and when most girls break them, in sports or horse riding, gym (or just doing the splits that is a :-| for you, to stretch) they bleed and may have pain for hours to days, masturbating and breaking the hymen is not what you wish for and have to tell your mom about!!!! so be slow and gentle with it, & it will open further over time.
Now if you have read any of this other posts, you will have some to a lot of pain & bleeding from tearing, ripping and enlarging your vagina and more if he gets to "rough" on you these first few times, by his depth of penetration and too fast of rhythm. So have some water based lube, the ones you find in the hygiene isle some old towels around, some plus to super plus tampons to change about ever hour. until the next night, or the bleeding stops, a complete change of clothes, (and wash out your other ones in cold water). and take pain pills (aleve works the best)
as required
Now for some schoolin' while your out of school;
Sex Lab 99
http://www.luckymojo.com/faqs/altsex/vulva.html
You will need a full length mirror & a large hand mirror, Now lock your bedroom door, and strip down naked; looking at all angles of yourself in the full mirror, note your breast and pubic hair areas, in the crotch, under the arms, & on your legs.
Next; sit down on your bed and spread you legs, look at yourself, today is the exploring day, the crotch area, feel around and move skin around, this is called the vulva region, pubic hair covers this area, this will grow fuller with age. It has the Labia’s, major -larger outer “lips” & minor –smaller inter “lips”, these may be different in size with you. The Mons and the clitoral hood cover up your clitoris. (a very small pinnacle)
The vagina opening is close to the bottom of this area, inside the vagina, is your hymen, a membrane or thin layer of skin, you may not be able to see, but once it is broken, it stays that way, parts may still be attached or a remnant but not in encompassing (coving) the entrance. Have a go at; inserting your fingers into your vagina, it is a group of muscles that normally collapse, and stretches to accommodate your tampons, sex toys, a male penis, and a baby’s body at birth. I hope this is a big help, and do go see the blog sexapeal, for some more information about yourself.
Ask if you need any other information.
RT
You may have had your hymen broken, and that is where the pain is from, read on and you will find some answers to questions you have and do not ask.
I wish to start out with this; the most important topic, could you tell your & his parents that your are pregnant?
If you are not on birth control at this moment, you may wish to think about it, Birth control can be a diaphragm (by a Dr. only)& jelly , the jelly alone, (found at the same place as water base lube) condoms for him & the jelly for you, and with girls, birth control pills, may be a longer time to wait if you wish go on the birth control pills now. you can go to a family planning clinic and without parents knowlege or permission, get on the pill,for fee or low costs.
Now about you;
Your vagina it is a group of muscles that normally collapse, and stretches to accommodate your tampons, sex toys, a male penis, and a baby’s body at birth. and the hurting may be from hitting your hymen, a small piece of skin that covers the vagina openning, and when most girls break them, in sports or horse riding, gym (or just doing the splits that is a :-| for you, to stretch) they bleed and may have pain for hours to days, masturbating and breaking the hymen is not what you wish for and have to tell your mom about!!!! so be slow and gentle with it, & it will open further over time.
Now if you have read any of this other posts, you will have some to a lot of pain & bleeding from tearing, ripping and enlarging your vagina and more if he gets to "rough" on you these first few times, by his depth of penetration and too fast of rhythm. So have some water based lube, the ones you find in the hygiene isle some old towels around, some plus to super plus tampons to change about ever hour. until the next night, or the bleeding stops, a complete change of clothes, (and wash out your other ones in cold water). and take pain pills (aleve works the best)
as required
Now for some schoolin' while your out of school;
Sex Lab 99
http://www.luckymojo.com/faqs/altsex/vulva.html
You will need a full length mirror & a large hand mirror, Now lock your bedroom door, and strip down naked; looking at all angles of yourself in the full mirror, note your breast and pubic hair areas, in the crotch, under the arms, & on your legs.
Next; sit down on your bed and spread you legs, look at yourself, today is the exploring day, the crotch area, feel around and move skin around, this is called the vulva region, pubic hair covers this area, this will grow fuller with age. It has the Labia’s, major -larger outer “lips” & minor –smaller inter “lips”, these may be different in size with you. The Mons and the clitoral hood cover up your clitoris. (a very small pinnacle)
The vagina opening is close to the bottom of this area, inside the vagina, is your hymen, a membrane or thin layer of skin, you may not be able to see, but once it is broken, it stays that way, parts may still be attached or a remnant but not in encompassing (coving) the entrance. Have a go at; inserting your fingers into your vagina, it is a group of muscles that normally collapse, and stretches to accommodate your tampons, sex toys, a male penis, and a baby’s body at birth. I hope this is a big help, and do go see the blog sexapeal, for some more information about yourself.
Ask if you need any other information.
RT
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