this was the 2nd time me & my boyfriend got intimate,the 1st time he didnt really put it in all the way
1) im extremely scared of experiencing excruciating pain, so whenever he is about to push it in more, i panic, and somehow make it slip out of there...
2) after 10 mins of trying that, i got all nervous & instead decided to go down on him... okay, so i could feel his body responding when i was going down on him, but he didnt really have an "omg this is amazing" expression on his face, & i tried really hard to do different techniques & make him enjoy it. in the middle of doing it, he was like "having troubles? :P" - what the hell did he mean by that..i thought i was doing everything fine? at the end, he didnt even let me finish till he came? why is that? he was like "you suck :)" & he just led me back up to his face? - was he being sarcastic, if so, why would he say that? WHY WOULDNT HE WANT ME TO FINISH?
3) how can i just force myself to take in the pain, cause i dont want to start crying from pain, or turn him off because i cant handle it. after we were done screwing around i told him to get a lubricated condom next time & he was like "you wont even let me go all the way in! xD" i feel sooo embarrassed because i honestly get really turned on & want to do it, i just want to get it over with
all in all, i just feel embarrassed & i just feel as if i sucked so bad & hes going to tell his friends OR hes not going to want to try this again...
1) im extremely scared of experiencing excruciating pain, so whenever he is about to push it in more, i panic, and somehow make it slip out of there...
2) after 10 mins of trying that, i got all nervous & instead decided to go down on him... okay, so i could feel his body responding when i was going down on him, but he didnt really have an "omg this is amazing" expression on his face, & i tried really hard to do different techniques & make him enjoy it. in the middle of doing it, he was like "having troubles? :P" - what the hell did he mean by that..i thought i was doing everything fine? at the end, he didnt even let me finish till he came? why is that? he was like "you suck :)" & he just led me back up to his face? - was he being sarcastic, if so, why would he say that? WHY WOULDNT HE WANT ME TO FINISH?
3) how can i just force myself to take in the pain, cause i dont want to start crying from pain, or turn him off because i cant handle it. after we were done screwing around i told him to get a lubricated condom next time & he was like "you wont even let me go all the way in! xD" i feel sooo embarrassed because i honestly get really turned on & want to do it, i just want to get it over with
all in all, i just feel embarrassed & i just feel as if i sucked so bad & hes going to tell his friends OR hes not going to want to try this again...
- 3 days ago
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If you want to go all the way and enjoy sex you have to relax, you can't enjoy sex if your all tense. Before during and after your first time can be scary akward, confusion, and just flat out weird, but that's all normal I mean your doing something you've never done before! There's no problem with taking it slow at all nor is there a problem with discussing what turns you on or off. Ask your partner what's his likes and dislikes instead of guessing. Your first few times of sex can be kinda fun learning yours and your partners bodies.
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see, the thing is it hurts so bad that its hard not to tense up :/ i truly do try to relax & take deep breaths, but it doesnt seem to help.. it kind of scares me ESPECIALLY cause this is out 3rd time trying!
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You can never have enough lube during the first few times. I know what your going through I had my first child a little over 2 months ago and having sex is like my first time over again, extra lube helps us out a lot and taking it slow.
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thankyou very much & congrats on the new baby :3 but when we were having sex, & i brought up lube, he kind of chuckled & said he didnt have any so im kind of embarrassed to ask :/
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okay, should i put it on before we do anything, or should i just do it in front of him AND how do i put it on if i may ask??
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There's different ways you can put lube on, for myself I put it on both sides of my vagina (down where the penis goes) then use my boyfriends penis to rub it in so that it'll get on him then slowly work it in. If that sounds to complicated, you can just put it on your partners penis rub it in a little then work it in. Tell your partner to put his penis in a little at a time going deeper each time or however feels more comfortable for you. Always add more lube when you need it. Does that make since?
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Oh and do it in front of him. Don't be ashamed to use lube, its a everyday thing for this world. Lube can be a first timers best friend. If you don't mind me asking...is it your boyfriends first time too?
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