hey im 16 and i have the absolute best boyfriend i could ever ask for. i am a virgin and he's not. i want to lose my virginity but im scared to do it cus i know my luck i'll end up pregnant and i dont want that to happen. we just the other day had so called text sex and it was fun but i want to experience the real thing and im confused on wether i should or not.
here is the catch 22 he really wants to do it i mean like all of the time and i think im ready i just want some advise. so any i can get i would love it. :?
here is the catch 22 he really wants to do it i mean like all of the time and i think im ready i just want some advise. so any i can get i would love it. :?
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Think it through with proper pespective (meaning NOT when you are turned on).
Points to ponder:
-You can only do it for the first time ONCE in your life.
-You have the rest of your life to try everything you can dream of...if you don't have a child to take care of.
-Only have sex when YOU are ready, regardless of how desperate your boyfriend may be. He can get off just as easily with your hands without you having to take a big step.
As always, BE CAREFUL!
Points to ponder:
-You can only do it for the first time ONCE in your life.
-You have the rest of your life to try everything you can dream of...if you don't have a child to take care of.
-Only have sex when YOU are ready, regardless of how desperate your boyfriend may be. He can get off just as easily with your hands without you having to take a big step.
As always, BE CAREFUL!
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As I would say if youre not ready to possibly accept the consequences of having sex - then maybe thats a pretty big red flag that youre not ready to be having it.
You could explore other avenues of your sexuality together- without actual penis-vaginal penetration.
oral sex and mutual masterbation, open up a whole new world, and I would say that thats the next step in a relationship, when you want to be sexual wi th your partner for the first time. And see how you feel- emotionally after that.
No matter what you do always be safe- birthcontrol, and condoms.
here is a funny condom commercial link from utube:
youtube.com/watch?v=V08dpDHp4XU
You could explore other avenues of your sexuality together- without actual penis-vaginal penetration.
oral sex and mutual masterbation, open up a whole new world, and I would say that thats the next step in a relationship, when you want to be sexual wi th your partner for the first time. And see how you feel- emotionally after that.
No matter what you do always be safe- birthcontrol, and condoms.
here is a funny condom commercial link from utube:
youtube.com/watch?v=V08dpDHp4XU
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I agree with the other two replies here.
I also see some huge red flags, especially since you seem torn and not sure. What is the rush anyway? You are young and there is absolutly nothing wrong with being a virgin, in fact one day, if you stay a virgin when you do find your true love or man you will marry, he will thank you and he will have so much more respect for YOU since you had so much respect for YOURSELF...
DO not ever let anyone force you or overly aggressivly try to convince you ANYTHING that you are not ready for.
You can not go back once you go... when you are older and look back, you may just think it was pretty dumb and immature. No one will be impressed and if they are, then they are not the kind of friends you need.
Now if you get youself all worked up and decide to go through with it.. there are some key important things to remember...
Birth control and barrier method protection is a must. You need to protect yourself for BOTH STD and pregnancy. There is NO 100% guarenteed birthcontrol or STD protection other than have not sex to begin with.
Of course you do not want to get pregnant, but also many STD are incureable and you will be a carrier for the rest of your life and have to take meds for the length of your life as well and then when you do decide to have children.. there will be huge complications, all from STDs.
So get on the pill, use condoms, unless you both go to the clinic, get him tested for all STDs and then drop the condoms, but you can not go by what he says 100%.
Then when you go over that bridge, make sure you have good communication, that he takes his time and is not forceful or you may get hurt and also remember many times the first time is not that enjoyable and it takes practice.
*** FYI I stayed a virgin til I met my husband and he was not so I made him get tested several times prior to having sex with him. I was 19/20 years old. I am thankful I waited and he is as well.
I also see some huge red flags, especially since you seem torn and not sure. What is the rush anyway? You are young and there is absolutly nothing wrong with being a virgin, in fact one day, if you stay a virgin when you do find your true love or man you will marry, he will thank you and he will have so much more respect for YOU since you had so much respect for YOURSELF...
DO not ever let anyone force you or overly aggressivly try to convince you ANYTHING that you are not ready for.
You can not go back once you go... when you are older and look back, you may just think it was pretty dumb and immature. No one will be impressed and if they are, then they are not the kind of friends you need.
Now if you get youself all worked up and decide to go through with it.. there are some key important things to remember...
Birth control and barrier method protection is a must. You need to protect yourself for BOTH STD and pregnancy. There is NO 100% guarenteed birthcontrol or STD protection other than have not sex to begin with.
Of course you do not want to get pregnant, but also many STD are incureable and you will be a carrier for the rest of your life and have to take meds for the length of your life as well and then when you do decide to have children.. there will be huge complications, all from STDs.
So get on the pill, use condoms, unless you both go to the clinic, get him tested for all STDs and then drop the condoms, but you can not go by what he says 100%.
Then when you go over that bridge, make sure you have good communication, that he takes his time and is not forceful or you may get hurt and also remember many times the first time is not that enjoyable and it takes practice.
*** FYI I stayed a virgin til I met my husband and he was not so I made him get tested several times prior to having sex with him. I was 19/20 years old. I am thankful I waited and he is as well.
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