I've been married for 18 years. My wife has had an up and down sex drive during that time. A little back ground. The first decade we had five kids so part is very understandable. I also make a very good living and help with the kids and household work on a pretty even scale. In other words I cook (better then her), clean and provide. Anything she wants she generally gets (if we can afford it). Basically, I've gotten to the point that masterbation is easier then trying to engaging my wife sex. She is barely engaged, puts zero effort in, and basically makes it feel like a choir. Bottom line I've reached a point where I don't care or want to even bother. I don't care that she doesn't find me attractive. I don't care if I or she shows any feeling of intimacy or love any more. My only worry at this point is that my kids will pick up on this and stunt their own future relationships.