Is it wrong that i had sex with my 15 year old brother and i am 12?

I tried to put a trollface in here but couldn't... o.O

 

um its super bad that you did that first if its your brother i have no IDEA HOW WRONG THAT IS ITS WRONG IN SO MANY LEVELS I SUGGEST YOU STOP BECAUSE THAT IS REALLY INAPPROPRIATE AND YOUR WAY TO YOUNG TO EVEN THINK OF SEX ZZZZ STOP! IT RIGHT AWAY........

Yes, YOU ARE DEAD WRONG TO HAVE SEX with your brother! It's the most sick thing to do, and your brother can go to jail for what he did with you! I would tell a grown up this is going on. They should know how to take it from there, if they have any decency themselves.

Very very wierd...

Really? That is wrong on so many levels. Just stop, and maybe tell your parent. That would be best

what is wrong with people yes that is very wrong sorry i am so upset i just cant picture that

I know that this question is more than a year old, but for those who may be engaged in a relationship of this kind and are seeking reasonable answers to the difficult issues involved, here are some thoughts:

You will see from the previous responses that society tends to react strongly in a negative way to the idea of siblings having sexual relations with each other. There are several reasons for this, but I would like to offer a non-judgmental, and I hope, reasonable answer that examines what is both good, as well as what can be problematic, with the situation in which you may currently find yourself.

First -- the Pro factors. Societal condemnation is not universal. There are a number of (mostly non-Western) societies in which incest is a routine practice, and is seen as beneficial in many regards. From an anthropological perspective, humans evolved in primitive family groups, usually nomadic, where the exposure to individuals outside the family was limited. As the human being develops and becomes sexually mature and aware, the need for physical and emotional intimacy MUST be satisfied one way or another. It is understandable then, that developing children would either turn to a trusted and loved caregiver (parent, aunt or uncle, etc.) for instruction in handling and satisfying their burgeoning sexual desires and needs, or to a sibling for experimentation and exploration of the fantastic feelings and sensations their bodies are beginning to provide them. In most developed (read: Western) societies, the situation often develops that children are left to themselves for periods of time each day as the parents must leave the home to go to work to support the family in some way. This is particularly true in families (like mine) where one parent has left, or died. Siblings, then -- especially if they are relatively close in age --  will find themselves reaching puberty and sexual interest / awareness at roughly the same time. Familiarity with each other's body and habits through common sleeping and bathing routines, along with a shared life history, can easily lead one sibling to turn to the other for explorations in sexual pleasure. The drive to reproduce is programmed deep in our early animal brains. Sadly, unlike animals with deep instinctual programming, humans have no real instruction manual to help them transition from juvenile to teen to adult sexual behaviors. Left to themselves, young people will often turn to each other to experience their first loving, physical encounters. And yes, I am generalizing a bit, as some sexual interactions may be forced or coerced by one sibling over the other. But the CONSENSUAL explorations of pre- and post-pubescent children are far more prevalent than people may believe, or prefer. It seems reasonable to assume that a young person feeling sexual needs would seek out the partnership of the person who a) knows them best through a history of shared life experiences; b) knows both their good and bad points and still loves them regardless; and c) is least likely to reject them as a partner in sexual explorations, and more importantly, the expression of emotional love as a possible life partner. In fact, to this latter point, there are numerous examples of brother and sister siblings who go on to live as a "married" couple, having and raising children in a truly -- and uniquely -- loving family arrangement.

Second -- the CONS. As mentioned previously, most societies have deeply held strictures against such incest relationships, endowing the very word "incest" with the deepest negativity (with the severest punishment being reserved for sexual relationships between adults and their children). This negative connotation may spring from economic as well as actual medical/ genetic factors. Offspring from closely related individuals tend to muddy the line for property and financial inheritance, although in regards to "royal" bloodlines, incest of one level or another was PREFERRED for exactly this reason ... tight, traceable lineage. However, the GENETIC issues are real, and should not be ignored. Offspring of siblings, in particular, MAY suffer a greater level of genetic abnormalities. Nature seems to prefer a diverse gene pool, to allow for a stronger, more disease-resistant species. But the system, at its best, is rife with the possibilities of genetic problems creeping in, and the results of sibling sexual activity is especially prone to genetic "mistakes" in chromosomal copying, if you will, leading to possible birth defects and increased susceptibility to disease.

The original question here stated that "protection" was being used to prevent accidental pregnancy. That is certainly a wise precaution, assuming that it ALWAYS works. Beyond that, as Shakespeare once said, "Nothing is GOOD or BAD, but THINKING makes it so". If we truly believe that incest is wrong, than it is unacceptable as stated by many others here. So telling ANYONE – no matter how trusted -- the truth of your relationship can be incredibly dangerous. Remember too, that sooner or later, one of you may find an interest in someone OUTSIDE your family bond, and this is entirely normal. However, be prepared for all the emotional turmoil that may bring -- facing the loss of your sibling lover, dealing with the jealousy and hurt of feeling rejected, and having to come to terms with the inevitability of it all. These are the things that can imperil any relationship, incestuous or not.

Finally, I believe that the need for loving intimacy is one of the deepest needs of humankind -- beyond the need for food, water, or sleep. We struggle over and over to find someone who can satisfy this deepest of needs. If we can achieve it -- for even a brief time -- in the arms of our closest family member, then we are to be found fortunate. I would say, enjoy the love and sexual affection you find together, but be VERY careful of ever revealing this to others, even though you will want to share your joy. The risk of condemnation is quite real, and can be life-devastating. Be careful too, as you are being, regarding pregnancy. Negotiating the legal and practical pitfalls of life will be compounded exponentially if you have a child together. Take your happiness and sexual excitement when and where you can, but learn from each other how to be a loving and considerate partner to one another. You'll benefit from that your whole life. Good Luck.