ok so im slightly freaking out. i just had sex last night we werent planing on it and at first there was no condom when he stuck it in but i made him pull out to put a condom on. the pulling out hurt more than him putting it in. when he tried to put it in again it hurt so bad that i was crying. i know i tensed up because of the initial pain but i dont know how to get over it. He did everything right. he went slow and there was a lot of foreplay before hand and everything but i dont think i can do it again when i think about how much it hurt. im still sore and tender. the good news is there was no blood. any advice for getting over my fear of how bad its going to hurt or how to make it hurt less.
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Hi dawn! The pain - for now - is the least of your worries, due to the fact that you had unprotected sex after penetration, I am worried that this could have caused pregnancy! Was your boyfriend a virgin? If not has he been tested?
As far as the pain goes - our brain is our biggest sex organ! So since you are tense, EVERYTHING stops and you aren't lubricated and become dry, so when he inserted his penis it was skin (VERY sensitive skin) rubbing raw and dry against other skin! So bascially a rug burn!
You NEVER have unprotected sex honey! I am now concerned that you are PREGNANT! Or worse have an STI?!!! When is your period due?
As far as the pain goes - our brain is our biggest sex organ! So since you are tense, EVERYTHING stops and you aren't lubricated and become dry, so when he inserted his penis it was skin (VERY sensitive skin) rubbing raw and dry against other skin! So bascially a rug burn!
You NEVER have unprotected sex honey! I am now concerned that you are PREGNANT! Or worse have an STI?!!! When is your period due?
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he didnt com so i know im not pregnant and as soon as i realized there was no condom i made him get out to put one on. he inserted it and like 30 seconds later i made him put a condom on. he has been tested and is clean or i would have never put myself in that situation. i am also not ovulating right now so i know im ok. the pain is the part that worries me. at first it was fine and when i made him get out to put the condom on it hurt when he pulled out. when he had the condom on and tried to go back in it hurt so bad i started to cry and get tenser. is that normal for it to hurt coming out?
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It is normal, because it hurt with the bare skin on the bare skin =- thus burn, then with the latex being rubbed against your vagina and your brain was already sending out defenses - by knowing that THAT action hurt! So yes it would be normal to hurt like that!
The thing you need to know is that as long as there was penetration WITHOUT protection then you CAN get pregnant! An egg lives anywhere from 12 - 48 hours and sperm can live upto 5 days! So there is a HUGE window of time that you can get pregnant! And women can ovulate at different times each month! You coul still be pregnant, even if it is 1 second doesn't matter, all it takes is 1 sperm getting through! So please don't think for one minute that you CANT be pregnant! MILLIONS of girls/women are shocked every month because they thought the same! You can get pregnant the first time, you can pregnant from 10 seconds of penetration etc. You need to realize that!
I would give yourself a few days to recover and then IF you decide to do it again, you will need lubrication! As your brain will be on defense mode and make it hurt again!
The thing you need to know is that as long as there was penetration WITHOUT protection then you CAN get pregnant! An egg lives anywhere from 12 - 48 hours and sperm can live upto 5 days! So there is a HUGE window of time that you can get pregnant! And women can ovulate at different times each month! You coul still be pregnant, even if it is 1 second doesn't matter, all it takes is 1 sperm getting through! So please don't think for one minute that you CANT be pregnant! MILLIONS of girls/women are shocked every month because they thought the same! You can get pregnant the first time, you can pregnant from 10 seconds of penetration etc. You need to realize that!
I would give yourself a few days to recover and then IF you decide to do it again, you will need lubrication! As your brain will be on defense mode and make it hurt again!
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