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Considering that the anal sphincter contains numerous nerve endings, and that for men, the prostate can also be reached through the anus, it is hardly surprising that many people — males and females of all sexual orientations — enjoy anal sexual stimulation.

Though anal sexual stimulation is now less of a taboo than in decades past, many questions still surround this topic. If you would like to engage in anal stimulation, whether with a partner or on your own during masturbation, you will want to make sure that the experience is both safe and pleasurable.

What do you need to know?

Anal Sexual Intercourse

Research suggests that around 17 percent of men and 15 percent of women engage in anal sexual intercourse sometimes. Unfortunately, one study found that “coercive, painful and unsafe anal sex” is being normalized among young people now, and that couples practicing anal sex also often neglect to use condoms — something that put them at risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

Those who would like to engage in anal sexual intercourse should keep the following tips in mind:

  • Do not pressure your partner into engaging in any sex act that they are not comfortable with; only do things you are both really excited about. If your partner is pressuring you into something you do not want to do, say no.
  • Remember that unless you are in a monogamous relationship and have both tested negative for sexually transmitted diseases, anal sexual intercourse without a condom is risky.
  • Painful anal intercourse can occur when the anal sphincter is not relaxed enough or sufficiently lubricated. Take things slowly, make sure you engage in lots of foreplay and are truly aroused when you get to “the act”, and use a good and safe water-based lubricant.
  • Do not assume that you will get this right in one go. Rather, try experimenting with digital penetration or using small sex toys designed for anal exploration before moving onto penile anal intercourse or intercourse with a bigger toy.

If your experience hurts, stop and try again another day.

Using Fingers And Objects For Anal Stimulation

It is perfectly safe to stimulate yourself or your partner anally using your fingers, as long as you make sure you wash your hands before you start, remove any rings that might be present, and keep the fingernails tightly trimmed to avoid damaging the anal sphincter, the rectum, or the skin around the anus.

Especially designed sex toys such as dildoes or anal plugs are safe choices for anal stimulation, and there are even toys designed to reach the prostate for additional stimulation.

Should you not have access to such specially designed toys, it is indeed safe to use other objects. Here, it is important to keep several things in mind:

  • You want your de facto toy to have smooth edges — nothing sharp or rough that could potentially lead to injury.
  • You do not want to use items with grooves or made of absorbent materials that could introduce bacterial contamination to your body.
  • In order to prevent items from being "swallowed up", you should opt to use items that have a broader base (take your clue from sex toys designed for this purpose!).
Toilet brushes, tooth brushes, and hair brushes are not good choices! No, not even the end that doesn't contain bristles. Anything that might break off, such as glass, candles, carrots, and the like should likewise be avoided, along with porous objects such as sponges.

Using a condom to ensure that your stimulation is as clean as possible is always a good idea. This serves as a handy guide at the same time — any object that would pierce a condom is also unsafe to insert into your body.

Those who are exploring male anal stimulation should know that the prostate is one of the greatest keys to pleasure. This is a  nearly spherical organ which you will find along the side closest to the abdomen.

Other Anal Practices

“Fisting”, a process of gradual penetration where the whole hand is inserted, is certainly a controversial topic, and research shows that it anal fisting rarely takes place in practice, making it more the domain of… certain graphic materials you may encounter.

Should you sincerely wish to experiment with this practice, non-monogamous couples should always keep in mind that it is very important to use surgical gloves coupled with plenty of lubrication, and some suggest, nonoxynol-9 — a substance that kills the HIV virus — on the inside of the glove. Do not use this on the outside of the glove because it is also very irritating to the delicate skin it would be touching.

Here, it is enormously important to cease all activities if the receptive partner experiences any pain. Those who have pain, fever, or severe bleeding afterwards should seek medical advice right away.

While a rare few couples genuinely enjoy this practice, we can’t stress this enough — we are talking about rather an extreme act. If in doubt, don’t do it.

The same goes for oral stimulation of the anus, which may be enjoyable for the receptive partner but can cause the offering partner to end up with nasty bacterial infections.

Bleeding After Anal Sexual Stimulation

Contrary to popular belief, anal intercourse does not loosen the anus. However, because the lining of the rectum is thinner than the lining of the vagina and it does not produce the same level of natural lubrication, bleeding is a risk. You can prevent bleeding during anal sex by using lubrication, going slowly, and being careful. Once again, avoid inserting sharp objects into the anus as well.

People who have hemorrhoids are also likely to encounter bleeding during anal intercourse. Should you have hemorrhoids, delay anal intercourse until they have healed.

Any person who experiences severe bleeding after anal sex, especially when coupled with pain, fever, and general malaise, should seek medical attention due to the risk that they sustained an injury and possible resulting infection.

Anal Sex And Pregnancy

Anal sexual intercourse does not lead to pregnancy — in order to create a spontaneous pregnancy, sperm and egg have to meet inside the female reproductive tract, and that will not happen as a result of anal sex.

However, it is important to note that many couples will engage in many different sexual activities while they are being intimate. Vaginal intercourse, no matter how short in duration, carries a risk of pregnancy. The same holds true for ejaculating onto the female genital area, or inserting hands or objects that contain semen into the vagina. (This is of course not a good course of action for couples who actively wish to become pregnant as the chance of pregnancy is much lower than with vaginal intercourse resulting in ejaculation into the vagina, but the chance of pregnancy is also not zero.)

To greatly reduce the chance of both pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, condom use is always encouraged. For monogamous couples who do not have STDs, another form of contraception, such as an intrauterine device, is another option.

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