I'm a 25 year old male, and I have never had issues with sex or erections until about 6 months ago. Up until that point, even when I wasn't in the mood, it only took one touch from my girlfriend at the time to get me perfectly hard and I would stay hard for hours. I used to masturbate regularly, 2-3 times a week, because I always felt the need to and I loved doing it.
Recently though, I've been feeling quite empty and emotionally neutral towards everything in life, and I have noticed that I have almost stopped masturbating because I simply don't feel any need for it, and even when I try, I often just give up before finishing because it feels like nothing. I just met a lovely girl who is extremely sexy and I never even dreamed of ever having a relationship like this. It's a dream come true. Except I don't feel the urge for sex and for that reason I usually can't get hard. I do get hard with her randomly for a few minutes at a time, but it almost always goes away. I don't feel turned on, but I do find her extremely sexy and beautiful.
I have no porn addiction and I never masturbated excessively or with a death grip, this is not an overstimulation issue. Actually for the past 6 months I have not watched porn and I did not really masturbate more than 'biologically necessary' (once or twice every 2 weeks).
I exercise daily, eat very healthy, am fit, and fairly stress-free. I have plenty of free time and I have many hobbies, though I am steadily losing interest in them. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. I don't do any of the things that are bad for one's mental wellbeing. I have almost everything in life that I need or even want, good friends, family and now a great relationship. I have a job, money, time, energy, I don't feel tired and I can do difficult things without much mental effort. I like getting up in the morning and I don't feel sad or depressed. People aren't noticing anything odd about me, but I feel completely dead inside, as if I had died 6 months ago yet my body continues to live the life I used to have without me being there.
I really feel like nothing can change how I am, and it's making me lose hope in life. I have no idea what caused this, nothing traumatic happened in my life, so there's nothing that I can think of to change.
Any ideas about what I can do?
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It sounds like something happened six months ago, whether you realize it or not. Your libido is not a switch that is just turned off. As far as I see it there are three possible answers for what is going on.
1. You have low testosterone or some other health issue you don't know about. It's a good idea to get a full blood work up to eliminate anything physically wrong with you. Even though you say you are healthy you should still have a physical once a year.
2. You lost love. I've known of men with the libido of a stud horse lose it when that certain someone is no longer there. Which plays into
3. Depression. It comes in many forms. Losing interest in things you like to do and feeling dead inside are two symptoms of it. You don't necessarily have to feel sad all the time. And wanting for nothing doesn't prevent it. You may not think people notice but the ones closest to you will know something is not quite right. Whether or not they say something. I recommend a professional or at least someone who knows how to deal with these feelings. I necessarily don't recommend drug therpy as it seems doctors are all to ready to give you pills and send you on your way but it I don't discount it either. I've seen them help.
There are plenty of things you can try now to get a little insight into what is going on with you. Try journaling, meditation, yoga, or just plain running. They all helped me.
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