I had mono and completely lost my libido. It scared me pretty good since that has never happened. The doctor said that happens. I also have performance anxiety, which has killed my libido a few times in the past. So I finally got cleared of being contagious but the doctor said I'd slowly become less symptomatic over the next 2-3 months. Then I started feeling quite a bit better and was even getting my sex drive back after only a few weeks. I finally had sex for the first time with my new girlfriend after a few weeks of being cleared of mono. I had incredibly anxiety that night and by going slow and building up for a few weeks of not being contagious (from the mono), I seemed to have gotten over it. Then I had to go away for work for a couple weeks. When I got back, I got a cold. It sucked and I made it worse by working out way too hard while I had the cold this past week. I felt like I had mono again. No appetite, blah feeling, tired, plus cold symptoms. It could have been the cold, but I can't really tell if it was a mono flare up or not. My gf came over that night after my hard workout while I had the cold and want sex again. I got what I can only describe as an anxiety episode while trying to eat dinner. My heart was racing again and I couldn't even eat or drink anything, plus having to go to the bathroom constantly. I have no idea why this happened? I was sick with the cold and tired and literally had no desire. I was going to tell her, but I though us guys are supposed to be up for it whenever. So I tried to force it. Even when the clothes started coming off I felt nothing when I'm normally all over her. I was extremely fatigued and nervous and haven't been through this before so it was all new to me. She even told me she didn't know what to think and was dissapointed. I felt so bad! Its been 2 days and I feel all blah and no desire. We are supposed to do something tomorrow and I know sex is going to come up. I don't know what to do and I'm pretty upset about it. Seriously, what is going on? I really care about her and don't want to lose her. Especially over something like this. I know when I'm feeling better I'll be back to my normal libido right?
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i have a similar situation and I'd love to hear some helpful answers. Its really tough with the anxiety because the more it affects a situation, the more you think about it and the worse it gets. You tell yourself this is happening and you know its not a big deal and it just doesn't seem to matter. I still get the anxiety reaction where my blood flows into my body and not where it needs to be. Plus, disappointing someone you are in a relationship with early on during intimate moments is a sure fire way to kill your drive and self esteem.
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I'm 3 months in and still not back to normal yet.. I'm hoping this returns back!
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