my bf fingered me it hurt and i bled

I don't know if this will help, but when I was with my very first boyfriend and he fingered me for the first time the same thing happened to me.  Like you, I didn't say anything to him or tell him to stop. The second time, it happened again, as well with a little less bleeding.  If it's your first time being fingered in general, your cervix will be, in other words, smaller. The more he fingers you, and uses more than one finger, it will stretch.  From personal experience though, I would say something to him.  Let him know that it hurts you.  It could be something he may be doing.  He may be using too many fingers, causing your cervix to stretch, which would cause it to be sore and tender.  He could also be going a little to deep inside of you which does hurt.  Also, his finger nails could be too long, which could cause tearing, which would make it bleed.  If it hurts next time he fingers you, I would just let him know, or else it won't feel good.  If he knows, then he can adjust what he is doing to make it feel good for you.  From my experience, guys tend to like to know if they are making you feel good.  It gets them going, which in turn makes it better for you.  My boyfriend now will periodically ask me if he is hurting me or if he is going to deep, because the last thing that he wants to do is hurt me.  But he wouldn't have known that if I didn't say something to him when it did hurt.

Hope this helps at all. :)