Ways to be better at sex?

Hi,
I am 69yo and have some experience... I always bring girls to orgasm beginning by oral stimulation of the clitoris, vulva and vagina entry. Often this is enough for getting orgasm and afterwards I can enjoy my orgasm as I like. Some girls anyway need also some vaginal activity to complete the excitation, but orgasm follows quickly.

8) Freddy

havingtroubles,

Please keep in mind, many of us women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm AND we must be very comfortable with you. Some of us have trouble letting go like that. Talk to her, ask what she likes, what she needs.

If you do oral, give the clitoris lots of attention but also the entire vaginal opening. Make it sexy and talk to her that you want to make her cum and no matter what it takes you will get her there. Then each time after that it will be easier for you both.

It takes work and practice.

follow the same oral tips as the above have given. make sure you ask her what feels good and what doesnt. as far as sex goes. once you get in. do normal missionary, but instead of holding yourself up lay on top of her and just thrust with your hips. Dont use any more body movement. the angle of this cause the bottom of your penis to grind against the bottom of her vagina, which im pretty sure is a lot of guys sensitive spots. but at the same time when it hits the bottom its is forced to go up and it hits her g spot, along with the place above your penis hitting her clit. i can put my girlfriend through multiple body orgasms doing this position

I agree with you (moreover you are a woman...).

I would add to my preceeding post that I use to stimulate the clitoris and the entire vulva mostly with my tongue. It takes some time and, not to get tired, I usually don't put my face between her legs but I do it from above.

Most of the girls react with more than one orgasm. Anyway some girls, even though getting much excited, need also a subsequent penetration, usually for a shorter time, to reach orgasm.

Anyway, in my long experience, every woman is a little different and requires a special attention.

Sometimes they ask me whether I am a gynechologist... I had sex last year with a she-gynechologist and she told me I was very professional!. I was very proud of it and had almost the idea of asking her a certificate about this. I am joking, of course!



8) Freddy

It's hard to give specific advice without knowing what you have already tried, but I'd like to add something to what the others have already posted.

They're right to point out that many women need direct clitoral stimulation, but you can't just dive straight for the clitoris and expect her to start responding. Often she'll be overstimulated by the time she's relaxed enough to start climbing Mt. Arousal.

Start out with some nonsexual foreplay, like massage and kissing. Include plenty of romantic talk. Try to change your concept of what the point of sex is and its role in your relationship. Most guys are too goal-oriented when it comes to sex. They can't wait to penetrate and ejaculate.

Start thinking of sex as being more like a conversation. When you start a conversation with a friend or a lover, you don't really have a specific goal in mind. You may have some information to impart, but you don't just blurt it out and leave. You start out with, "hi, how are you?" and the conversation just develops. You don't know when it's going to end or what you might end up talking about.

Try to use this same approach in your lovemaking. The "hi, how are you?" could be a backrub, foot massage or any other kind of nonsexual contact. Start talking about how she's feeling, how her day was, anything that might be bothering her. How she responds to that will tell you where to go from there, so listen. It might turn out that what she really needs is just a good talk. If that's the case, you may have to put your own agenda on hold and just be a good listener and be there for her. In the long run your ability to do this will build more trust, and a deeper kind of relationship will start to develop, and you'll probably find that the sex gets better for both of you.

One important piece of information you left out is whether or not she is capable of bringing herself to orgasm. If you don't know, you'll have to ask her, but this is a delicate subject, so you'll have to wait until the right moment to ask her--sometime when she is in a very comfortable, relaxed frame of mind.

If she is able to give herself an orgasm, try to get her to help you do it. This can be anything from getting her to masturbate for you, if she's comfortable doing that, or just giving you verbal guidance.

If she isn't able to give herself an orgasm, or can't do so reliably and isn't able to help you, go out and pick up a copy of Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women, by Julia R. Heiman, et al. She will need to read this book on her own, but there are several opportunities for you to help her with her "homework."