Some women do have premature orgasms, defined as orgasms before they want to have one. Some women have premature orgasms on occasion, while others have them all the time. It sounds like it could be a matter of having a hypersensitive clitoris that respond to pretty much any stimulation with orgasm for you, and that you have a very long refractory period after that.
For a woman sex is pretty much over on her part, after orgasm. It sounds like this is really interfering with your sex life. I would encourage you to talk to an OBGYN and see if everything is OK physically. If it is, then seek out sex therapy.
Recently, that and other factors have caused so much anxiety for me that I hardly last 3 minutes anymore. Which has left her not only disappointed but sexually frustrated and depressed.
Just today I've started trying out these Kegel exorcises. However I have found them to be quite painful. Maybe it's cause its my first day... Or maybe I actually injured the muscle at some point, possibly at work. It's not uncommon for me to jump down off a palette of mulch, bag in hand or not, and experience severe cramps in my groin upon landing, too the point where I have to hold myself up against the truck I'm loading or fall down.
I have been trying very hard to work on lasting longer by myself before I get into the sack with hubby. Sometimes it helps if I masturbate a few hours before hubby and I get together. (So much for being spontainious.)
If I can last a while, my orgasm is always better than if I pop off within the first minute. Usually I am left unsatified either way. But trying to "work it out by myself" has actually helped me at least be able to achieve more than one orgasm, whereas before I only had ONE than then I was DONE.
And, there are two different complaints in the posts above.
First, is the complaint that after a very quick climax, the woman doesn't want any more penetration or attention.
Second, is the complaint that the woman craves more stimulation to have more and more orgasms. We call this second condition nymphomania, and it implies that the woman is insatiable. Usually, there is no complaint about this.
However, both conditions may be helped with the use of a vibrator directly on the genitals or clitoris. The theory is that the woman can get as much stimulation as she wants.
In the first case, the thought is that the woman may "toughen up" or become desensitized to stimulation through intense stimulation that she applies to herself in solo sessions. (But as I write this, it occurs to me that a desensitizing cream or men's product to delay climax might have some benefit in this situation. The trick will be to keep it only on the woman, and not spread to the man's organ.)
In the second case, I'm not aware of any therapy to treat this, but I am certain that a sexual counselor or therapist might have a better insight.
As in most cases, a couple can work together to take turns, or assure that the other partner is satisfied before "rolling over and going to sleep."
That's just common sense and courtesy.
Good luck. Let us know what works for you.
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I think i need to state that i am 20 and still a virgin, but when i do have physical contact with my bf or when i masturbate i orgasm really quickly and the problem is that it gets very sensitive that it hurts to touch and i am also put off.
I want to know if this has anything to do with the fact that i am still a virgin and once i have sex it will change?? is masturbation orgasm different than sex orgasm??...and why is it that it hurts and cannot stand my bf to touch me...it is really something that worries me and depresses me because i am sure it frustrates my bf and it will frustrate him if we have sex and this happens....please answer me as i really need an experts view on this...many thanks !!!
Some medical info that you might find useful though..
* The most common way of achieving orgasm in women is by the stimulation of clitoris
* Women can get an orgasm during vaginal intercourse, oral sex (cunnilingus), masturbation, or other types of non-penetrative sex
* Female orgasm may also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples, uterus, or other erotic zones
* At times psychological arousal may be sufficient to lead to an orgasm, for e.g. during dreaming (which may result in a nocturnal emission)
* Stimulation of an internal structure called Skene's gland plays an important part in female orgasm. In common use, this area is referred to as G-spot
"Anal orgasm" is orgasm acheived during anal stimulation, such as during anal sex, or by inserting a finger or a sex toy. Both men and women can acheive anal orgasm. Hence, anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clitoris.
Breast and nipple stimulation
A "breast orgasm" is a female orgasm that is triggered by the stimulation of a woman's breast , even the individual's nipples are stimulated and become erect.
Medical aspects of orgasm
* Orgasm in women lasts much longer than in men
* It is preceded by stiffening of the clitoris and moistening of the vaginal opening
* Just at the point of orgasm, the outer part of the vagina tightens and narrows while overall the vagina lengthens and dilates and also becomes engorged
* This is followed by muscular contractions in the uterus
* During a full orgasm, a woman's uterus, vagina, anus, and pelvic muscles go through a series of rhythmic contractions
At times women can have a second orgasm soon after the first one without experiencing a refractory period. Many women find the subsequent climaxes to be stronger or more pleasurable than the initial one. In some women, the clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax, because of which further stimulation maybe painful.
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