whether it will harm or not.

I'm assuming this is a problem because of cultural or religious reasons. Female virginity is a very stigmatized topic so I suggest just acting like it hurts your first Time with him try not enjoying it as for the bleeding not everyone bleeds there first time the hymen can be worn away from basic physical activity like bike riding soccer running basically any sport or work out. If it's not for those reasons be honest with ur significant other don't build your relationship on lies if you're not in danger.