Breaking up issue

Hi Jane! Take away the miles, IF you saw him everyday would you feel the same way? IF so there is your answer! If NOT then you have to think of "are these miles ALWAYS going to be in the way?" If so THERE'S your answer too! IF it is for a short period of time, there's the reason to stay together! Also know that guys are creatures of comfort! So when he stays "too long" it's because he feels comfortable with it! He has is "den" and his "mate" is happy and secure! Where as you ahve gotten used to being independant! It's a BIG deal with couples, we are like night and day! Men usually like alone time and being with you 24/7 and we are like ENOUGH!!!!!!! "Don't you have somewhere to go!!!?" Write down the Pros and Cons! IF the big con is distance, then it's time to look at that! IF it's a WHOLE bunch of think that's a HUGE sign of the "end is nigh!"

You said u don't see him for two weeks and when you do he stays for too long apparently you don't care for him because if you did you would always want to be with him. And for the advice you gave me saying not to go through his stuff he alwYs does it to me.I've done it that one time.and it takes two and no I honestly don't fantise about having sex with other guys. What is wrong with you if you do that that's wrong and you shouldn't be with this guy he deserves better.

Thank you Bambi! I was beginning to worry that I was alone about feeling that way. Anyway, the miles will be there, at least for another year, but prophably more, he does'nt want to move, wich I actually find kinda strange since he has he's daughter here. And there is another problem that I did not mention, he's practically adicted to cannabis, and well... he gives it to me for free, and I tend to get adicted to the feeling of it, because of the feeling of not having to think... If I do break up with him I can't really afford smoking all the time, and I don't know if that is a good or a bad thing.

Hi Jane! You have said 2 things that are HUGE!!! 1. That he is going to be away for at least another year AND he doesn't even want to return for his own child - not a commitment kind of guy is he? 2. I think you are missing the free dope compared to missing him! He is your drug dealer and he IS acting like this! How can NOT smoking dope be a BAD thing? You NEED the dope to deal with the loneliness of being WITH him! and you are thinking more about loosing the FREE dope over the loss of a partner! So come on and get real with this OK? You know the answer = it's ALWAYS been with you - you have to think of it this way! He wont commit - even to see his child! You are more worried about missing free dope than him! And even IF you guys were together, the common bond IS dope!!!! What kind of life will that be for you!? I think you deserve more than this, and I truly hope you feel the same way about yourself! You are NOT a victim, nor being held against your will - as some women are! So love yourself and your future more than this OK?