I can't seem to get my partner to cum. I'm usually on top and can cum like 3 times, and I try everything to make him cum? What else can I do? We have only been having sex for like 3 weeks and he has only cum once...and I was on top. I'm not to worried about it yet because it's a new relationship but this is the first time it has happened to me. Usually I'm the one who can't reach an orgasm? Should I be worry or just keep trying. He's a guy so this was very new to me?
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Three possibilities that I see.
One, he's gay. If he's not sexually atracted to you, then its going to be hard for him to cum. You might be the Baddest girl around, if he doesnt like women, hes not going to cum, unless hes fantasizing about men.
Two, there's a size problem, he might be small or you might be too big and therefore the stimulation he needs isnt there.
Three, hes just really good at holding it in. Some of us are very good at control. This can be natural or practice derived. Some people even develop tantric orgasms, where you feel sexual pleasure all throughout your body but never cum.
My money is on gay, even if you can hold it in for as long as you want, why not blow your load all over your girl's face? beats me.
One, he's gay. If he's not sexually atracted to you, then its going to be hard for him to cum. You might be the Baddest girl around, if he doesnt like women, hes not going to cum, unless hes fantasizing about men.
Two, there's a size problem, he might be small or you might be too big and therefore the stimulation he needs isnt there.
Three, hes just really good at holding it in. Some of us are very good at control. This can be natural or practice derived. Some people even develop tantric orgasms, where you feel sexual pleasure all throughout your body but never cum.
My money is on gay, even if you can hold it in for as long as you want, why not blow your load all over your girl's face? beats me.
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I had the same problem with my now-fiancé when we first started having sex. We tried lots of different positions, but nothing seemed to work. To be honest, I was worried that there was something wring with me psychologically. I could cum in under a minute when I masturbated, but having sex with her I couldn't.
When I analyzed everything, I think I was too fixated on performing well, and pleasing her, and I forgot to just relax and enjoy myself. It's ironic because we later found out that me ejaculating inside her often triggers a pretty intense orgasm for her as well, so now when we have sex we both cum together about 90% of the time.
Communication is important. He probably just really cares about you, and cares about what you think of him. A lot ofguys might not show it, but many are extremely self concious when it comes to their sex lives, and he is maybe a bit nervous. One of the best things you can do is encourage him, tell him what you like when he's doing it. A subtle moan or groan might not be enough, but saying, "Yeah, right there" or "don't stop" will let him know he's doing something right. Letting him know when you're going to cum might also ease his mind and let him unload as well.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
When I analyzed everything, I think I was too fixated on performing well, and pleasing her, and I forgot to just relax and enjoy myself. It's ironic because we later found out that me ejaculating inside her often triggers a pretty intense orgasm for her as well, so now when we have sex we both cum together about 90% of the time.
Communication is important. He probably just really cares about you, and cares about what you think of him. A lot ofguys might not show it, but many are extremely self concious when it comes to their sex lives, and he is maybe a bit nervous. One of the best things you can do is encourage him, tell him what you like when he's doing it. A subtle moan or groan might not be enough, but saying, "Yeah, right there" or "don't stop" will let him know he's doing something right. Letting him know when you're going to cum might also ease his mind and let him unload as well.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
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He might be gay, but if he was that gay he wouldn't be able to get an erection and have sex with you in the first place. Many gay men are able to have sex with women too they just choose not to. He is probably really nervous. I know I couldn't cum the first couple times I had sex. Also, is he using a condom? I know I have a lot of trouble cumming with a condom on , never tried the thinner brands though. I know guys use that as an excuse to not wear one but sometimes it is true. Anyway, just make sure he is comfortable and let him know how much you love the sex. I am assuming you like it since you have three orgasms. Eventually he should get used to being with you and he won't have that problem anymore.
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my old lady & i have try many ways to get me to cum but lately it's getting harder for me to cum i'm a heart dietabica & tia patient on many meds for them all . One doctor said it's a catch 22 because of my meds a long with my weight i losted 157 in 18 mos; i don't think so what else can we do we been together for almost 28 years now we still love each other very much help us please
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my old lady & i have try many ways to get me to cum but lately it's getting harder for me to cum i'm a heart dietabica & tia patient on many meds for them all . One doctor said it's a catch 22 because of my meds a long with my weight i losted 157 in 18 mos; i don't think so what else can we do we been together for almost 28 years now we still love each other very much help us please
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does he want you to always be on top of him?? that could be a sign that he likes to be dominated and may mean that he's perhaps homosexual...
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