female mutual masterbation with friend...

Id start off asking her if theres anything going on that she needs to vent about or share etc. Id bring that up durring the day sometime.

If she says no...

Id probably wait until the next time you guys are doin ur thing and then say something like, is this whats troubling you...??

She'll be taken aback at hearing it actually mentioned out loud, expect that, but dont let it drop!

I know you have some self esteem issues from what you mentioned about always thinking the fault is yours and all that, but be brave!! You havnt done anything wrong and you dont deserve to be allowed or made to feel as tho you have, she owes you some kind of explantion!!

The sex stuff aside, friends shouldnt just close each other out or suddenly become distant. She has no right to expect this of you... some part of her has to know that your troubled by it. You need an answer, go get it!!

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Wild Orchid wrote:

codedblu wrote:

yeah, i agree with what you say. i think it should stop too, she's actually the one who usually initiates it though. and i do know that never acknowledging something like this probably really bothers her, as it does me, but of course neither want to bring it up. i think it's weird for her to be acting weird about it or distant if she's the one that usually initiates the things we do... ??

That may be why, that shes initiating it and maybe she kinda feels extra odd or embarrassed later,like maybe you dont really wanna, your just doing it so she wont be mad or something. Is there any possibility of her being a lesbian...? There may be a possibility that she wants more and is afraid to tell you or talk about it bc since shes the one that always initiates the intimacy, she feels guilty..... know what im saying?
Im sure you have far more insight as to her personality etc. Just trying to be here for you to bounce things off of. :)
Hang in there!!

:)

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Wild Orchid wrote:

codedblu wrote:

well, i DO think that i'm the one who will have to bring it up. i appreciate your advice, it really helps push me to just get in the mindset that i need to do it and then just do it instead of waiting and wondering if everything is ok. now, this may seem like a pretty basic question... but how do i even start the convo? i'm trying to figure out HOW to say what i need to say to make things better between us not worse... i don't even know what to say to her about all of it...

Id start off asking her if theres anything going on that she needs to vent about or share etc. Id bring that up durring the day sometime.
If she says no...
Id probably wait until the next time you guys are doin ur thing and then say something like, is this whats troubling you...??
She'll be taken aback at hearing it actually mentioned out loud, expect that, but dont let it drop!
I know you have some self esteem issues from what you mentioned about always thinking the fault is yours and all that, but be brave!! You havnt done anything wrong and you dont deserve to be allowed or made to feel as tho you have, she owes you some kind of explantion!!
The sex stuff aside, friends shouldnt just close each other out or suddenly become distant. She has no right to expect this of you... some part of her has to know that your troubled by it. You need an answer, go get it!!
:)

Hey, just wanted to check in and thank you for your advice. i haven't brought it up to her yet, but things between us seem to be much better. but, of course, i still want to talk to her about all of this. i feel ready to do that now, so thanks for the help! :D

my question will be about masterbation and why women after a point in thier lives thier not that interested in sex

me and my sister used to do this all the time when i was 12 or 13 i think that it is very natural and sweet it expresses the feeling yall have for each other and it dosnt make u gay or a lesbo or whatever people can label u allthey want but it doesnt matter

and so why do you think she initiates it everytime? does it mean she's sexually attracted to me or what? i obviously go with it too, so not just putting it all on her, but just not sure why she continually initiates it. maybe she just needs to get off because she's sexually frustrated, and she can do it with me... or i don't know... maybe it's more than that.

its ok to do it but if you feel that its wrong or is wrecking your relationship than talk about it befor, during or after it to her but dont akt like you want to hurt her, just say it softly and slowly

I think you might want to consider how it started in the first place. What was the event that sparked this action.

Me and my friend are both straight and we do pretty much the same thing every weekend we spend the night at her house, and help each other get off (i won't go into detail) it's just a mutual thing we started when we wer like 12 and we're 18 now. Don't read too much into it. Just relax, and enjoy it.