Okay, so here is the situatuion.
My girlfriend and I have both decided to not have sex until we are married, which is going to be a good 5 years off.
Now, when we say no sex -- at this time this means no "seeing each other naked and touching". (By the way, this is very hard for me -- advice)
So what we have done is really get into kissing, and leaning into each other, and I've pinned her against a wall and pressed my pelvic area against hers hard, as we were having sex -- except, with clothes on (if that makes sense). And she stats to get into it, and move and breath heavy.
I assume this is because she likes it, she says she likes it when I ask. But, can she have an orgasim like this? How would I know? Are there any other good ways I can pleasure her without taking her clothes off?
My girlfriend and I have both decided to not have sex until we are married, which is going to be a good 5 years off.
Now, when we say no sex -- at this time this means no "seeing each other naked and touching". (By the way, this is very hard for me -- advice)
So what we have done is really get into kissing, and leaning into each other, and I've pinned her against a wall and pressed my pelvic area against hers hard, as we were having sex -- except, with clothes on (if that makes sense). And she stats to get into it, and move and breath heavy.
I assume this is because she likes it, she says she likes it when I ask. But, can she have an orgasim like this? How would I know? Are there any other good ways I can pleasure her without taking her clothes off?
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Hi there.
From what I've read, you two have agreed to not have sex until you are married. I assume you two are probably young teenagers. Let me tell you that the chances of you both not having sex before marriage is slim, unless of course, you have an iron will. If 2 really don't want to have sex before marriage, don't put each other in situations in which you would have the opportunity to have sex, among other things.
Having that point made, I'll tell you that what you both did, moving your pelvic area against hers, is called dry humping. Pretty fun and interesting to do I might say. The thing is, from my experience, it's fun and feels okay, but it really doesn't produce much pleasure because the penis is pretty restrained.
To answer your question, whether she can have an orgasm from dry humping or not, depends on her. It it is possible, it depends on the person and their sensative spots. You would know if she had an orgasm if she produced a liquid dischard from her vagina after a sustained period time of dry humping.
Now, other ways to pleasure her that I know of can be massaging her breasts/nipples (I've read somewhere that some females can actually get an orgasm from this), kissing her neck, nibbling/breathing on her ears, feeling her up basically (rubbing your hand up her body, running your hands through her hair, around her neck, etc.), and rubbing her vagina outside her clothes (since you noted you want to do all this with her clothes on).
Basically doing anything that takes place before or during sexual intercourse is going to turn you both on and steam things up. It just creates that sort of emotion.
Anyways, have fun and good luck! Hope my advice helped.
From what I've read, you two have agreed to not have sex until you are married. I assume you two are probably young teenagers. Let me tell you that the chances of you both not having sex before marriage is slim, unless of course, you have an iron will. If 2 really don't want to have sex before marriage, don't put each other in situations in which you would have the opportunity to have sex, among other things.
Having that point made, I'll tell you that what you both did, moving your pelvic area against hers, is called dry humping. Pretty fun and interesting to do I might say. The thing is, from my experience, it's fun and feels okay, but it really doesn't produce much pleasure because the penis is pretty restrained.
To answer your question, whether she can have an orgasm from dry humping or not, depends on her. It it is possible, it depends on the person and their sensative spots. You would know if she had an orgasm if she produced a liquid dischard from her vagina after a sustained period time of dry humping.
Now, other ways to pleasure her that I know of can be massaging her breasts/nipples (I've read somewhere that some females can actually get an orgasm from this), kissing her neck, nibbling/breathing on her ears, feeling her up basically (rubbing your hand up her body, running your hands through her hair, around her neck, etc.), and rubbing her vagina outside her clothes (since you noted you want to do all this with her clothes on).
Basically doing anything that takes place before or during sexual intercourse is going to turn you both on and steam things up. It just creates that sort of emotion.
Anyways, have fun and good luck! Hope my advice helped.
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It sounds like you've both agreed not to get burned, and now you're asking for suggestions on how to play with fire. Is that about right?
First you need to get to the heart of why it is that the two of you do not wish to have sex before marriage--if that's really the case--and, in light of those reasons, whether it makes any sense for you to have any kind of sexual contact at all. I'm not saying it's not possible to have a philosophical position that permits one without the other, I'm just saying that, from where I sit, I can't clearly see what it would be.
Let me put it this way:
Let's say you were married and both of you took vows to be faithful and not have sex with other people. Would it be okay with you if your wife engaged in the kind of activity you're engaging in with some other guy? Would she be okay with you doing this with another girl? I mean, is genital contact, if not actual penetration, the only thing you need to avoid in either case?
I think these are the kinds of questions you should be asking yourself before you start asking others for their opinions about how far you can wade into the surf before someone says you're swimming.
First you need to get to the heart of why it is that the two of you do not wish to have sex before marriage--if that's really the case--and, in light of those reasons, whether it makes any sense for you to have any kind of sexual contact at all. I'm not saying it's not possible to have a philosophical position that permits one without the other, I'm just saying that, from where I sit, I can't clearly see what it would be.
Let me put it this way:
Let's say you were married and both of you took vows to be faithful and not have sex with other people. Would it be okay with you if your wife engaged in the kind of activity you're engaging in with some other guy? Would she be okay with you doing this with another girl? I mean, is genital contact, if not actual penetration, the only thing you need to avoid in either case?
I think these are the kinds of questions you should be asking yourself before you start asking others for their opinions about how far you can wade into the surf before someone says you're swimming.
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I truly admire that you guys don't want to have sex before marriage... when i was younger i wanted to take that path too. however, when i grew up and found the right person for me - as you did - i changed my mind ... for a couple of reasons.
Firstly, because i was extremely turned on all the freakin time!, Second was because i was worried that he would cheat or see porn... i hate it when he sees porn till today!
Think about it properly before you restrain yourself from sex... because if one of you doesn't keep your word then, for me, the relationship is strewed!
Best of luck... although you seem to have a will of iron!
Firstly, because i was extremely turned on all the freakin time!, Second was because i was worried that he would cheat or see porn... i hate it when he sees porn till today!
Think about it properly before you restrain yourself from sex... because if one of you doesn't keep your word then, for me, the relationship is strewed!
Best of luck... although you seem to have a will of iron!
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