I had a bad feeling I might be pregnant

Dear girl

Why have you left it so long to ask? A few days earlier you could have considered EC. You don't give much information!

1. What date was your last period start?
2. What is your cycle length?
3. How old are you?
4. Where are you?

Also, please be more specific on detail.

1. "Me and my boyfriend had sex, last weekend" Which day; what was the date?
2. "he came in a condom and then he rubbed his penis on my vagina"
   1. He took the condom off ... rubbed his naked penis on you?
   2. was it on your vagina (the entrance to it)? or your vulva? where exactly?
3. "then we did it again like 20mins later" - what exactly?
   1. Sex with a condom?
   2. Penis rubbing on you?

However, regarding questions:

1. "Is there a possibtly that I'm pregnant?"
   • If you ovulated 6 days ago, there is just a possibility you might be pregnant.
   • However, you might get pregnant! Implantation is reckoned to occur 9 days (+/-3) after ovulation (if the egg is fertilised)
   • Anytime you have unprotected sex there is the possibility you might get pregnant.
2. "The sperm might have been pushed in?" Semen, which contains sperm, might have been 'pushed in' or it may have swum in with your own fluids.
3. "how long it needs to be before I can [get a pregnancy test]?" a DIY test is best after your next due period has failed to materialise.
4. "Are [abortions] free in clinics?" It depends where you live. But probably not.

And regarding other comments:

1. "if I am [pregnant], I will have an abortion". But think carefully about abortion. Think of the impact physically and mentally.
   • It may impact on your ability to get pregnant later when you want to.
   • Procedures like that are not without risk in the best of circumstances
   • Many regret abortions later. Read posts on here. I read of one girl who fretted that she had killed her baby and now wanted to get pregnant again because she so regretted it.
2. You say "I'm scared to go to the doctor" yet "if I am [pregnant], I will have an abortion ... Are they free in clinics?" Why are you scared of a doctor's appointment, yet would go to a clinic. You appear to have decided on an abortion without thinking of alternatives (like adoption)

Hope this helps as a start. But you need to provide more information for more specific help.

 

I've been scared.
It was the Thursday before we had sex that I ended. So the 22nd of November.
My cycle is usually about 6 days.. Firstly heavy bleeding and then light.
I'm 15, based near Ashford.
The day we had sex was the 24th on the Saturday.
Yes the condom was off and he rubbed it on the entrance, and then we had sex again and used a condom.
We used a condom both times.
What would you advise? Baring in mind I can't tell anyone but my boyfriend. My mum would hate me.

Dear girl

Your cycle would not be 6 days. I think you mean your period bleeding. Then your period would have started 17th Nov. If your menstrual cycle is 28 days (is it?) then you would expect your next period to start 15th Dec. That would mean that you probably ovulated 1st Dec, and your sexual activities on 24th would probably not have been in your fertile days. You are therefore not likely to be pregnant yet as implantation would probably not have taken place anyway. But anytime you have sex, there is the possibility you could get pregnant. I don't think that's likely, but you could always take a test. However a pregnancy test is no good until you are likely to be pregnant (after implementation date). Usually a test would not be taken until after your period has failed to materialise.

As you are in the UK there are sexual health clinics available which are free. Be careful what information you give out over the internet, but four different counties contain the town you mention! If you register and private message me with your county or postcode area (private messages are monitored) I will try and locate a clinic for you.

I hope you mum wouldn't hate you. She might be upset. Are there any particular cultural or religious implications?

You need to think carefully about your lifestyle. You are under 16. How old is your boyfriend? If you want to talk more about this, please feel free to ask more questions, in private if you wish, and I will try and help.

I hope this helps as a start.

I wait to hear back from you.