I have posted on here before but I am still having the same problem. I decided not to go to a gyno because the town I live in is far too small and news spreads quickly but any suggestions from anyone are welcome and desperately wanted.
Ok so my problem is that I feel no pleasure during sex. I have tried almost every position there is and still nothing. Oral sex is great, anal sex i like but I realised that I only like it because I have my back up against his chest and he has his arms wrapped around me and I can feel his heart pounding through my back. That is the real turn on for me, not the actual penetration itself.
It used to take ages for him to be able to get his penis inside my vagina because when he tried to go straight in I would hurt. he said it felt like he hit a wall and couldn't get in. It was suggested that I may have vaginismus at some degree but we soon discovered that if he kept rubbing the tip of his penis against my clit I would open up easily and he could get in and finish the job.
Once he is inside though I feel nothing. I can feel his physical presence but nothing else. I have been faking ever since but I think he is catching on that something is wrong. He always wants me on top but I cant seem to balance if we're in a bed so I refuse unless we relocate to the bench press. I find it easier to be on top when we're on the bench press because my knees are parallel to my hips and my feet are flat on the ground, giving me more control and balance. He loses his mind when we do it like that.
I realise my problems are probably stemming from performance anxiety as I really want to rock his world and also from my own self esteem issues as I know he has been with many girls, most of whom are much prettier than I. I think my issues are a mental thing and I really think that if I can get over my hang ups that I will finally feel some pleasure. I think this because once I decided that he can enter my vagina straight away without any stimulation of my clit, he was instantly able to do so and there was no pain and I wasn't dry anymore. Everything was perfect except for the part where i got no pleasure from it.
I think the sex with him will be absolutely amazing because his stroke is like a lightning quick jackhammer that never quits. I always feel so bad when we have sex because I know he is doing everything he can to stop himself from cumming until I have so I fake it to give him relief.
No suggestions of masturbation please because i find it as repulsive as anything and will not do it.
I'm so desperate people. Please help me!
Ok so my problem is that I feel no pleasure during sex. I have tried almost every position there is and still nothing. Oral sex is great, anal sex i like but I realised that I only like it because I have my back up against his chest and he has his arms wrapped around me and I can feel his heart pounding through my back. That is the real turn on for me, not the actual penetration itself.
It used to take ages for him to be able to get his penis inside my vagina because when he tried to go straight in I would hurt. he said it felt like he hit a wall and couldn't get in. It was suggested that I may have vaginismus at some degree but we soon discovered that if he kept rubbing the tip of his penis against my clit I would open up easily and he could get in and finish the job.
Once he is inside though I feel nothing. I can feel his physical presence but nothing else. I have been faking ever since but I think he is catching on that something is wrong. He always wants me on top but I cant seem to balance if we're in a bed so I refuse unless we relocate to the bench press. I find it easier to be on top when we're on the bench press because my knees are parallel to my hips and my feet are flat on the ground, giving me more control and balance. He loses his mind when we do it like that.
I realise my problems are probably stemming from performance anxiety as I really want to rock his world and also from my own self esteem issues as I know he has been with many girls, most of whom are much prettier than I. I think my issues are a mental thing and I really think that if I can get over my hang ups that I will finally feel some pleasure. I think this because once I decided that he can enter my vagina straight away without any stimulation of my clit, he was instantly able to do so and there was no pain and I wasn't dry anymore. Everything was perfect except for the part where i got no pleasure from it.
I think the sex with him will be absolutely amazing because his stroke is like a lightning quick jackhammer that never quits. I always feel so bad when we have sex because I know he is doing everything he can to stop himself from cumming until I have so I fake it to give him relief.
No suggestions of masturbation please because i find it as repulsive as anything and will not do it.
I'm so desperate people. Please help me!
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Maybe you are not emotionally attached to him. Correct me if I'm wrong but it doesnt sound like you love him. It doesn't sound like you believe he loves you either. I have heard of not being able to cum, but never not having any pleasure at all. Whenever you can go to a gyn out of your hometown do it. If there is nothing physically wrong then its psychological.
Maybe he should slow things down a bit. Jackhammer sex does not sound appealing to me.
Maybe he should slow things down a bit. Jackhammer sex does not sound appealing to me.
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