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I have chosen not to be involved with someone simply just so I have a boyfriend. I have recently met a great guy who I could see myself having a relationship with however, I am very self concious about my weight (215lbs 5'5) and how i look "down there"

I have fair skin and i am unable to shave or even wax down there due to ingrown hairs and red bumps coming up the following day. I need to find a way to keep things neat and tidy especially these days, and I am only 24 so I am not looking to go o'natural.
I also am a virgin and feel self concious about the fact that my vulva is on the bigger side, it's not huge but it sticks out a bit and has some cushion, i am just afraid it won't be appealing to a guy.. but what do i know?

This guy really does seem to like me but the fear i have about myself is holding me back from allowing myself to just go with the flow.. not to mention my anxiety is off the wall! I use to be on medication for anxiety but the two i tried really didnt help. I have been off those since May.. I just need some advice, assurance, something to hopefully overcome my fear and will allow me to be comfortable with myself and who i am. I mean how can i be with someone if i can't feel good about me enough?!

Thanks for reading, any help would be great!

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Could you tell us more about this new guy that you have just met? Does he seem interested in you at all? Has he made the first move to ask you out yet? Would you be willing to make the first move if he hasn't yet asked you out? If the answer to at least one of the questions is affirmative, then go for it. Establish a relationship first, and it does not have to be sexual. A platonic friendship between a man and a woman can be just as rewarding in other ways. The two of you can just hang out together instead of going on a formal date. Having platonic male friends also will help you hone your social skills. When you have become more socially competent, "down there" will become much less of an issue.
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I agree with hoseclamps. If he's showing interest in you, go for it. Don't be sexual immediately. Besides, sexual relationships are always more fulfilling once you've established a firm emotional/friendly connection.

Once that's been established and you both agree that you want to move on to the next level, talk to him about your fears. Talking about sexual fears and concerns is highly beneficial prior to engaging in sexual activity. It allows both partners to be more comfortable and also allows partners to know what the other likes/doesn't like and what they can do to improve upon the other's pleasure. If you're afraid to actually state all of those fears, just begin the conversation with, "There's something I want to talk about, but I'm scared to do so." If he's understanding, he'll continue to listen and give you the time you need.

If you continue to have anxiety and medication hasn't been working, have you been to just a psychologist? Sometimes just talking is what you need. If you have, or if that doesn't work, I suggest you try something called Emotional Freedom Technique. EMF is a form of freeing yourself emotionally. It generally works best when you know exactly what your fears are, so I think this could help you. Look up an EMF specialist in your area. Luckily, this treatment generally doesn't last very long, just a few sessions, so if it's expensive, you won't have to go for long. I had chronic anxiety for a long time. I went to one session and that was all I needed. I don't know if it'll work that quickly for you, but I think it could really help.
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he has asked me over more than once.. One time just to hang out and watch a movie.. another time for a party, I was actually the only girl he invited.. other guys brought their gfs so it was interesting. I talk with him about once a day, usually by text. he always tells me i should randomly stop by but i never know when he's home and he's always busy so i have yet to do that.. but we are def friends
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