Lose erection during penetration

Let me get this straight.
You were a virgin until last weekend you did it with two Thai prostitutes?

Well, if they gave you oral and hand work, I'm not surprised that intercourse might have been a let down.

Generally, the intensity of those two actions are far more intense than the lubricated and receptive vagina. That's one reason why many men prefer a BJ or hand job to intercourse...and consider it "not having sex".

I must point out that if you had unprotected sex with a prostitute, you've just had sex with all her prior partners too. Not the best of choices. But what's done is done.

If you want to experience the joys of sex, you'll probably find that it's more rewarding with someone that you are involved with emotionally. The casual partner who you are paying is only interested in getting you off, getting you off her, and moving onto another paying customer. Not the best way to learn how to respond to another person.

Always use a condom if you're going to continue this behavior. And yes, condom's do deaden the experience... but they are essential to protecting both you and your partner.

Think about it.

Hi, thanks for the reply, but I actually came here for information and advice on losing my erection during penetration not moralistic and frankly condescending preaching.

OK, fair enough.
Let me try again.

You don't indicate if you used a condom in your two contacts.
A condom usually does lessen the sense of freedom or intensity of the stimulation.

You indicated that the oral and hand job were very stimulating, but when it came to intercourse, you could feel only the first few inches, then nothing. Except, that you might have felt something unpleasant that you hit upon.

It's possible that you were making contact with her cervex, the bottom of her uterus at the end of her vagina. I know that when I had sex with her riding me, I felt my penis "nudge" something deep inside. My point is, I couldn't tell what it was, only that the sensation was different than I had experienced before. SHE had to tell me what it was. (She thought it was her cervex.)

The vagina is designed to be self-lubricating. So, it will feel different than a hand or teeth. It's possible these two girls' anatomy is slightly different than we westerners experience, but I'm guessing here. They may also have been "worn out", having had many customers before you.

Another possibility is that the girls have placed a stone or IUD inside themselves, as a method of avoiding pregnancy. This is a crude way to avoid implantation of a fetus, but some cultures still do it.

If you are concerned about loosing your erection, I would change up the order of your sensations... that is, after minimal direct touching of the penis, if she is ready for intercourse, then I'd move directly to that. Your penis won't feel as numb from overstimulation, and you might enjoy it more.

A second option is to wear a penis ring for less than 15 minutes while you thrust in intercourse. This would help you maintain your erection, but after a short while, though you are hard, you begin to loose feeling. I wouldn't recommend this route until you've had several more experiences, and are more comfortable with the whole intercourse thing.

Hope this was more helpful.

Hi, thanks for the reply again. I did wear a condom (see para. 2 above) and I think the condom may have been partly (or entirely?) to blame - it kind of felt weird, uncomfortable, desensitizing.

When I say the head of my penis felt like it was touching something, I don't mean it was banging into anything inside, it was just rubbing/touching the inside of her vagina which was a sensation I'm not familiar with. When I masturbate nothing touches the head, just the foreskin.

The reason I suspect this may have been [part of?] the problem is that when I received a HJ I felt ready to come pretty quick, but when I got a bj, even though it felt amazing, I felt I could probably last a lot longer and I think the reason for that was that there was physical contact with the head - something touching the head seemed to somehow give me more endurance.

I'm only 5.5 inches and probably not the widest so when I went inside her in missionary it felt like only the head was going in and maybe an inch or two of the shaft. This was really not very pleasant for me as I'm used to all the stimulation coming from something tightly gripping most of the shaft only. Also it didn't feel that tight - which may be was my fault for being small or hers for being big? I dunno if it was her though, because she was only a small girl, 5ft tall or so.

I lost my virginity When I Was 15 Years Old ( last year ) and i had sex with a prostitute, i had problem with an errection. It Wouldnt' errect.... If it would At the moment of penetration after 10 seconds i lost my errection fully!
Yesterday i had sex with another prostitute and the problem persisted but i erchieved a full Errection Quicker than Before..
But When We Went To Penetration i lost my errection again. My penis is 13-14 cm. Whats wrong? I don't have problem with errection
When I masturbate. :| but the prostitute felt worn out both times i think.
Could it be the prostitutes fault that i didn't feel the Tightness of her p***y or is my pens too small?

i HAVE BEEN IN EXACTLY THE SAME SITUATION

Boy..there is nothing wrong in what you are experiencing and in fact everyone would experience the same. I lost my virginity when i was 19 to a pro. I couldn't come in her and as soon as i started penetrating her i would loose erection. During masturbation i have never lost erection. The reason is when you penetrate her, Condom doesn't give a direct touch to you penis and most of the time it also depends on how tight the vagina is also no matter how beautiful the pro is you will not get attracted to her and also there is no life in the whole play and foreplay is very much important to men as it is to women. So after my first experience i went to 10 different pro i couldn't come for at least 5 of them. For two of them i noticed that i hadn't had enough food that day not sure even if thats contributing. Anyways don't think that there is something wrong in you or your sexual function. Its perfectly normal. After doing it to 10 different pro luckily i got a beautiful girlfriend. we didn't have intercourse but we did foreplay. I had erection for about an hour continously and i realised how sexually active i was that day and i had almost turned into a beast. after the experience i had with Pro i almost considered myself an impotent until i realised what was causing the problem. Having sex with someone whom you are emotionally attached makes all the difference..

Same problem i face. but what u can do is indulge more time in foreplay and when ur pennis is hard and erect enough just shake with ur hand , as soon as the semen comes out immediately insert ur pennis deep in to vagina, initially it will pain but on the same time u can fantasise and stroke inside for around 2 to 3 minutes.

Guys,

Several of you have contributed ideas on why you may have lost an erection during your first sexual experience.

Think back to the first time you wrote a bicycle. I'll bet it didn't go  perfectly the first time, did it? I'll bet you had to repeat the attempt several times over a period of days or weeks before you got the coordination down, figured out when to pedal, how hard to pedal, when and how to turn, and how to keep it going, right?

As your first experience with intercourse, you are likely to have experienced masturbation first, which allowed you to experience an intense climax from direct stimulation. But since YOU were stimulating YOU, the feedback was lightning fast. You knew exactly how and went to speed up, or tighten up, or slow down to make it last.  With intercourse, you're juggling a lot of additional factors... how her skin feels, what she's saying, how she's saying it, how your body is positioned, the angle of approach, the way she's touching you, how lubricated you are, and OF COURSE, if a laytex condom is blocking some of the sensation that you've been depending upon for climax before. 

 Also, You don't mention how long it has been since your last climax.  Have you had enough time to restore, recharge, or are you running on empty?

Remember also that a "pro" or Prostitute is paid by the number of contacts she makes, not in the quality of the experience. She's interested in getting you off, and moving onto the next customer as quickly as possible, despite that she may not say that. It IS different with a partner that you are emotionally attached to.  And with no time pressure, and a lot of time to experiement and build upon your and her arrousal, the experience can be vastly different!

Don't worry about if you're normal or too short.  There's not much you can do about that.  But, additional experience and concentrating on  your partner will pay off down the road in big benefits.  One person claimed that women are  not as concerned about foreplay as men.  HOW WRONG HE IS!  If anything, women are even more dependent upon foreplay, whether it is a thoughtful full body massage, or a meaninful dance, a lingering kiss, an unrushed dinner, or a special occassion.  It is how you approach her, how you treat her, and what the emotional tone of the evening is... all these, as well as slow, unhurried sexual stimulation that makes all the difference in how she responds.

So, take your time and continue to "practice" with a partner.  I guarentee that it gets better as you gain your confidence and more experience.

kevin B ...u r great ....u rock !!

Guys,

This is not a moral statement.  Find a woman with whom you like talking with, doing activities, have some common emotional connection before having sex.  Then, focus on her pleasure.  Tell her you want to focus on her pleasure, talk during and ask how it feels and if she likes it.  She will hopefully reciprocate and focus on your pleasure.  Make it a positive. It isn't a judging thing nor a competition.  By focusing on her and her on you, you will find shivering climaxing pleasure together.

Get a couple of books on sexual positions and the Kama Sutra.  The difficult part is "working through" the learning.  We'd only get a couple of pages "studied" at a time.  And this is a good problem to share with your mate.

As for condoms, get monogamous, get tested for STD's, and then use another form of reliable birth control.  Until then, use condoms.

One thing your father won't teach you is you have to trim your pubic hair to be away from the condom or the hair will get entwined with the condom and painfully pull at your pubic hair roots.  You have to pick a quality brand, and of the right size.  Too small results in the problems you read about losing feeling, and too large it slips off and doesn't prevent what it was made to prevent.

Let's forget about WHO you were with. It could have happened with ANYBODY.

Age does not discriminate, erectile dysfunction can happen to any man. Typically it is a health related issue so check your doctor first (heart disease and ED are connected).

ED pumps are highly effective for men who can't get the strong erections they used to, so I'll highlight their use for getting a firm erection for sexual intercourse. The steps for use are quite simple, an easy fix that you can employ while your partner is prepping herself in the bathroom. 

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In order to obtain the best air seal possible, it's highly suggested to use lubricant. Also trim the pubic hair around the base of the shaft. Any air that leaks into the cylinder is going to render the pump ineffective therefore a correct air seal is of utmost importance. As you pump the air out of the cylinder, it forces blood into the penis which makes it become erect. Men will notice the erection is much more stiff then usually, a firming effect that is temporary and lasts until the body naturally makes the erection flaccid again. To prolong the erection, wearing a constriction band is a must. Typically expect about 2-4 minutes of pumping for an erection to occur.

Some men question the safety of penis pumps, it can be unsafe if used past the point where it's painful or after the erection is already firm. You are going to feel tingling and pressure, but it should never hurt. If you cause pain, ruptured blood vessels and bruising are the most common negative side effects.

Herbal remedies are available for sale but nature has created it's own to assist in treatments, however some may interfere with other medications so perhaps a quick visit and chat with a doctor can give oyu the green light on taking herbs. It's advised to visit a doctor for medical check up first because the risk of heart disease is associated with erectile dysfunction and it's very important to be healthy and to know you don't have other medical issues that can cause other ailments you may not know about. ED is often a first symptom of other things, but once you have the OK from your doctor, you are clear to enjoy better sex, anytime you want it.

:-@Wow unprotected is rather foolish and reckless not to mention nasty, you do not know where those Thai girls have been or what has been in them and it sounds like you are ignoring what we are saying, How do you like your clap? Red or Black? Don't worry if you conitnue your course of stupidity your penis might fall off.

That has to be the worst analysis I've ever heard