My Girlfriend is 15 years old. I'm 17, we have not had sex as I respect the fact that she wants to wait till she is 16. But, she wont pleasure me in anyother way other than like clothes sex sorta thing. Yet, I'll rub and finger her and im quite happy to lick her out but... She wont do anything to me??
What do I do? This may seem a bit selfish but... I need to be pleasured aswell... x
What do I do? This may seem a bit selfish but... I need to be pleasured aswell... x
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This whole sex thing is a real b***h, isn't it? :-) The important thing to keep in mind here is that, for both of you, this is mainly an emotional issue, not a physical one.
You have to keep in mind that she's going to be very uncomfortable about the issue of sex right now. The best thing you can do right now is to respect her wishes and let her explore her sexuality at her own pace. Once she's ready she'll definitely let you know. And I'm sure you'll both have an extremely pleasurable experience because of it.
And for you, you're going to be dealing with some really bad sexual frustration. Welcome to the club. :-)
I know how difficult it can be to deal with the frustration that builds when you're fooling around but not actually getting to the "good stuff". All you can think about is just having sex *NOW*. No matter what. But that's a feeling you need to learn to keep under control. Go and masturbate in the bathroom if you need to. Nothing at all wrong with that. (Just try to wait until after she leaves, otherwise it might make *her* feel bad that you went and did it. And explaining *why* it would make her feel bad would take another 9 pages so I'll skip it.)
Don't get yourself all worked up until you're feeling like you're going crazy. Otherwise you'll end up getting angry and saying things that you don't mean which will end up ruining your day and hers and putting a major strain on the relationship. (Not to mention that it'll make it much less likely that you'll actually get laid!)
So, basically, just take it slow. Once you're both ready it'll be great. But if you're not both ready it'll be a pretty awful experience. It's not all about having sex. It's about having GOOD sex. :-)
You have to keep in mind that she's going to be very uncomfortable about the issue of sex right now. The best thing you can do right now is to respect her wishes and let her explore her sexuality at her own pace. Once she's ready she'll definitely let you know. And I'm sure you'll both have an extremely pleasurable experience because of it.
And for you, you're going to be dealing with some really bad sexual frustration. Welcome to the club. :-)
I know how difficult it can be to deal with the frustration that builds when you're fooling around but not actually getting to the "good stuff". All you can think about is just having sex *NOW*. No matter what. But that's a feeling you need to learn to keep under control. Go and masturbate in the bathroom if you need to. Nothing at all wrong with that. (Just try to wait until after she leaves, otherwise it might make *her* feel bad that you went and did it. And explaining *why* it would make her feel bad would take another 9 pages so I'll skip it.)
Don't get yourself all worked up until you're feeling like you're going crazy. Otherwise you'll end up getting angry and saying things that you don't mean which will end up ruining your day and hers and putting a major strain on the relationship. (Not to mention that it'll make it much less likely that you'll actually get laid!)
So, basically, just take it slow. Once you're both ready it'll be great. But if you're not both ready it'll be a pretty awful experience. It's not all about having sex. It's about having GOOD sex. :-)
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As a woman too. Just another thing to remember. We are fussy. Its an area we see as a toilet thing too. You as male put this out of your mind an it becomes only a sexy area. We still remember, an no its sexy too. Hope you understand what i mean.
She is very young an might not know what to do. She might be worried she cant do it.
EG... She may think she cant keep it going an make you cum... It dose make your arm ache.... ha ha
Also the thought of putting something in your mouth can be scary too. It might taste funny, what if i gag.
You might need to talk about these things. Make it fun, Have a laugh. You do it show her.
Make sure you drop into the conversation, that you have showered recently. We are alot more fussy than men on the whole. :-S
She is very young an might not know what to do. She might be worried she cant do it.
EG... She may think she cant keep it going an make you cum... It dose make your arm ache.... ha ha
Also the thought of putting something in your mouth can be scary too. It might taste funny, what if i gag.
You might need to talk about these things. Make it fun, Have a laugh. You do it show her.
Make sure you drop into the conversation, that you have showered recently. We are alot more fussy than men on the whole. :-S
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Don't understand what you are trying to say? :S Sorry.
The thing is though. She might not be able to do it... So why does she not look it up like? Cus I have had to... That's what I dont understand. But as you can see from my perspective it is boring... Really boring.
Thing is, I'm comfortable and confident with her. I could tell her anything but I have said to her before like "Will you suck me off or w.e" and she's like.. I don't know she just hesitates or w.e? I mean she hasn't even like tossed me off... Don't think she knows how to but I mean, I wouldn't mind showing her or w.e but I think the thing is... Is the cum. Cus She was like rubbing my penis through my boxers ansd she was like that and I like showed her how... and she said like it will go in my face... lol
So I think the thing is that she is hesitant about the cum.
It is so sh*t. I mean even when we have like clothes sex or w.e she wont like me cum I have to tell her like... when I'm going to so she can get off. Because I have cummed on her before like on her trousers bu t I have had my boxers on aswell and thes worried about becoming pregnancy etc... The only way around that is by using a condom but...
I understand where you coming from but If I'm making the effort so should she. x
The thing is though. She might not be able to do it... So why does she not look it up like? Cus I have had to... That's what I dont understand. But as you can see from my perspective it is boring... Really boring.
Thing is, I'm comfortable and confident with her. I could tell her anything but I have said to her before like "Will you suck me off or w.e" and she's like.. I don't know she just hesitates or w.e? I mean she hasn't even like tossed me off... Don't think she knows how to but I mean, I wouldn't mind showing her or w.e but I think the thing is... Is the cum. Cus She was like rubbing my penis through my boxers ansd she was like that and I like showed her how... and she said like it will go in my face... lol
So I think the thing is that she is hesitant about the cum.
It is so sh*t. I mean even when we have like clothes sex or w.e she wont like me cum I have to tell her like... when I'm going to so she can get off. Because I have cummed on her before like on her trousers bu t I have had my boxers on aswell and thes worried about becoming pregnancy etc... The only way around that is by using a condom but...
I understand where you coming from but If I'm making the effort so should she. x
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Listen dude, she is 15. She is young and inexperienced. Sex is all so new to her. She may feel freaky when the "cum" issue comes up. Don't push and don't badger her. Don't ever make her feel like she has to do something sexual to keep you and your attention. Some girls at her age feel shy because they are not sure of what to do. Stop being so insistant. Eventually she will come around, it may take a while. If you care enough about her, you will stick around. She already told you that she wanted to wait until she was 16, can't you just go with that? If your not getting any satisfaction from her, take care of business yourself. You are a child and there is so much more life ahead of you. Stop fretting because you can't gets yours, you will get more than you know what to do with one of these days.
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First off I just want you to know that I'm not forcing her to do anything, and I have no intentions of either. How you can call me Insistent I don't know because I'm not demanding anything?
A realtionship has to work on both parts... you need to co-operate with one another in order to make a relationship work. At the moment I feel that she lacks confidence in her self; like you say she feels shy and does not feel comfortable in that area; which is fair enough.
I think it will grow in time, as we become slightly closer to oneanother. But Like I say I can tell her anything. But, I don't feel that she can. So... It will come in time.
Thanks for the Advice. But I disagree on me being Insistent. Not going to go into it any further.
A realtionship has to work on both parts... you need to co-operate with one another in order to make a relationship work. At the moment I feel that she lacks confidence in her self; like you say she feels shy and does not feel comfortable in that area; which is fair enough.
I think it will grow in time, as we become slightly closer to oneanother. But Like I say I can tell her anything. But, I don't feel that she can. So... It will come in time.
Thanks for the Advice. But I disagree on me being Insistent. Not going to go into it any further.
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quote]Don't understand what you are trying to say? :S Sorry.
The thing is though. She might not be able to do it... So why does she not look it up like? Cus I have had to... That's what I dont understand. But as you can see from my perspective it is boring... Really boring.
Thing is, I'm comfortable and confident with her. I could tell her anything but I have said to her before like "Will you suck me off or w.e" and she's like.. I don't know she just hesitates or w.e? I mean she hasn't even like tossed me off... Don't think she knows how to but I mean, I wouldn't mind showing her or w.e but I think the thing is... Is the cum. Cus She was like rubbing my penis through my boxers ansd she was like that and I like showed her how... and she said like it will go in my face... lol
So I think the thing is that she is hesitant about the cum.
It is so sh*t. I mean even when we have like clothes sex or w.e she wont like me cum I have to tell her like... when I'm going to so she can get off. Because I have cummed on her before like on her trousers bu t I have had my boxers on aswell and thes worried about becoming pregnancy etc... The only way around that is by using a condom but...
I understand where you coming from but If I'm making the effort so should she. x
bbfeet9, Reading back on my post I can see what you mean. I can see the way my point has been portrayed. It seems a bit like its all about what I want and not thinking about what she might be thinking or going through.
So... I just want to say the way I have written it is not how I mean it. It is hard to say/ask things in text, because things can be portrayed soly the wrong way. I did not read it through. So I understand.
But I'm really not like trying to seem as though she has got to do something. It would just be nice, so that im not just trying to do things on my own. By her doing something to me will make me feel closer to her and feel more like... I just feel im putting things in and recieving nothing back...
But I do understand your points, I just don't like to be told that basically I'm a prick because that's how I thought you were making me feel. x
The thing is though. She might not be able to do it... So why does she not look it up like? Cus I have had to... That's what I dont understand. But as you can see from my perspective it is boring... Really boring.
Thing is, I'm comfortable and confident with her. I could tell her anything but I have said to her before like "Will you suck me off or w.e" and she's like.. I don't know she just hesitates or w.e? I mean she hasn't even like tossed me off... Don't think she knows how to but I mean, I wouldn't mind showing her or w.e but I think the thing is... Is the cum. Cus She was like rubbing my penis through my boxers ansd she was like that and I like showed her how... and she said like it will go in my face... lol
So I think the thing is that she is hesitant about the cum.
It is so sh*t. I mean even when we have like clothes sex or w.e she wont like me cum I have to tell her like... when I'm going to so she can get off. Because I have cummed on her before like on her trousers bu t I have had my boxers on aswell and thes worried about becoming pregnancy etc... The only way around that is by using a condom but...
I understand where you coming from but If I'm making the effort so should she. x
bbfeet9, Reading back on my post I can see what you mean. I can see the way my point has been portrayed. It seems a bit like its all about what I want and not thinking about what she might be thinking or going through.
So... I just want to say the way I have written it is not how I mean it. It is hard to say/ask things in text, because things can be portrayed soly the wrong way. I did not read it through. So I understand.
But I'm really not like trying to seem as though she has got to do something. It would just be nice, so that im not just trying to do things on my own. By her doing something to me will make me feel closer to her and feel more like... I just feel im putting things in and recieving nothing back...
But I do understand your points, I just don't like to be told that basically I'm a prick because that's how I thought you were making me feel. x
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I never said that you were pushing yourself on her, it was just food for thought. And NEVER would i call you a prick. So now you are reading into things that aren't there.
I understand how frustrating this whole growing up thing can be. I was 15 once and i was scared sh*tless of sex, and because i was so inexperienced and basically stupid, i got pregnant. I had an abortion. She may be afraid that if she takes it to the next level for her, you may want to take it further. I don't know. Have you discussed birth control with her? She must come from a solid family background and it seems that her morals are quite high, which is a good thing. But once a relationship gets boring, if something doesn't pull it back together, you may as well call it a wash. This little girl is just not ready to advance on. So, if you can't deal with this, then maybe you should think about stepping aside for a while, i don't know. Yes, i agree, it would be fantastic for you if she returned your favors, but in due time. I get it, you give, she takes and doesn't give back, your bored, she's shy and inexperienced, your starting to get slightly impatient as it comes thru in your words.
I understand how frustrating this whole growing up thing can be. I was 15 once and i was scared sh*tless of sex, and because i was so inexperienced and basically stupid, i got pregnant. I had an abortion. She may be afraid that if she takes it to the next level for her, you may want to take it further. I don't know. Have you discussed birth control with her? She must come from a solid family background and it seems that her morals are quite high, which is a good thing. But once a relationship gets boring, if something doesn't pull it back together, you may as well call it a wash. This little girl is just not ready to advance on. So, if you can't deal with this, then maybe you should think about stepping aside for a while, i don't know. Yes, i agree, it would be fantastic for you if she returned your favors, but in due time. I get it, you give, she takes and doesn't give back, your bored, she's shy and inexperienced, your starting to get slightly impatient as it comes thru in your words.
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I haven't talked to her about Birth Control as she wanted to wait till she was 16 to have sex. She has once said to me before after I got her aroused that she wanted sex and then about 10 seconds later she said that she doesn't so there is obviously something playing on her mind. I just wish I would know what... x
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She may have been aroused and lost it because her standards kicked in.
Something must have clicked in her head and at the last minute she decided against it. I am sure it's not you. I has got to be something going on inside her head or maybe her heart.
Something must have clicked in her head and at the last minute she decided against it. I am sure it's not you. I has got to be something going on inside her head or maybe her heart.
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