hi i am 27 year old guy and still a virgin. i am going out with this girl whom i like a lot but she has had sex, loads of times with 2 other boyfriends. I am pretty angry/sad at the whole situation, but since i tend to forgive, how can i forget her past and concentrate on our future?? please reply, thanks
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Who cares about her past. that was before she met you. She didn't know you then, she didn't know you existed. She couldn't save her self for someone she didn't know existed!
She wants to give her body up to you, she loves you. Thats the important thing, and you are holding a grudge because she has past experience?
Listen, a word of advice from me to you: Sex on its own is pretty overrated, you will get to know this, trust me.
Sex is only good when its with someone you really love. THATS bliss. And she loves you. You are a lucky guy. Don't hold ridiculous grudges because "you didn't get there first". Be happy you got there in the first place!
Do you love the girl or not?
She wants to give her body up to you, she loves you. Thats the important thing, and you are holding a grudge because she has past experience?
Listen, a word of advice from me to you: Sex on its own is pretty overrated, you will get to know this, trust me.
Sex is only good when its with someone you really love. THATS bliss. And she loves you. You are a lucky guy. Don't hold ridiculous grudges because "you didn't get there first". Be happy you got there in the first place!
Do you love the girl or not?
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On My Opinion Just Dump Your GF And Have Another One That Is A Virgin Because Maybe Your GF Is Pregnant And Blame You To Her Parents That You Made Her Pregnant. >:(
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Why would she be pregnant just because she has had sex? That advice really wasn't helpful!
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He is 27 years old. What 27 year old whinges to their parents that they are pregnant? they are capable adults.
She isn't pregnant just because she has had sex, how old are you?
Dont dump your girlfreind, she loves you!
She isn't pregnant just because she has had sex, how old are you?
Dont dump your girlfreind, she loves you!
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Hello, Svet!
I had a similar problem in my relationship during its beginning. I had found out that the girl i was with had done "stuff" with some less-reputable people whom i'd known. I was furious at first, grossed out more than anything and extremely disappointed in her. How could she? Why did she? Will she find mistakes when we do something?
It feels a bit like betrayl, doesn't it? Trust me, its normal but something that should be dealt with. Just fight it with your conscience. She did those things before you two were together and you can't judge her on her past for this. Maybe in the eyes of society she has done a bad thing, but if she knows you're still a virgin she won't judge you and even if she doesn't she probably wont. Everyone is different.
I learned to forgive my partner, as she loves me and enjoys the sex. Despite her past she 'says' i'm better than her past and i can't argue if thats what she says. We don't lie to each other often, and i'd rather not know if i sucked.... despite the fact that sometimes i question myself. its normal, but also take into the fact that we're all human.. our pasts are our pasts, but we're with the person NOW. Not then.
hope that helps.
I had a similar problem in my relationship during its beginning. I had found out that the girl i was with had done "stuff" with some less-reputable people whom i'd known. I was furious at first, grossed out more than anything and extremely disappointed in her. How could she? Why did she? Will she find mistakes when we do something?
It feels a bit like betrayl, doesn't it? Trust me, its normal but something that should be dealt with. Just fight it with your conscience. She did those things before you two were together and you can't judge her on her past for this. Maybe in the eyes of society she has done a bad thing, but if she knows you're still a virgin she won't judge you and even if she doesn't she probably wont. Everyone is different.
I learned to forgive my partner, as she loves me and enjoys the sex. Despite her past she 'says' i'm better than her past and i can't argue if thats what she says. We don't lie to each other often, and i'd rather not know if i sucked.... despite the fact that sometimes i question myself. its normal, but also take into the fact that we're all human.. our pasts are our pasts, but we're with the person NOW. Not then.
hope that helps.
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I am sorry but if she felt she was responcible and was emotionally ok with it, then who she chose to share her body with before is her buisness not yours. Those were her choices not yours, your question does beg the statment, how does she feel about you being a vigrin? Second, why are you insecure with who she was with in the past? I am 27, lost my virginity to my fiance who had partners before me. I was and am ok with who he did in the past, those were his choices, I kept my virginity knowing I was not emotionally ready for a physical relationship - my choice. Now we have eachother and we are comfortable enough in our own skins that past 'issues' in PAST relationships are not our current problems. Our past choices reflect and assist in who we are today. If she is a good and solid person, listens when you talk about some boaring topic (Yes girls do that all do) and supports you. Well then your the one who needs to grow up and get over her past. Dont make her feel guilty for what she did in the past either, all you will do is lower her self esteme and loose her in the end.
Be nice
Be nice
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"Maybe in the eyes of society she has done a bad thing"
Sleeping with men does not mean you have done a bad thing, it is attitudes like this that cause problems.
You guys should just be happy these women are choosing to be with you.
Sleeping with men does not mean you have done a bad thing, it is attitudes like this that cause problems.
You guys should just be happy these women are choosing to be with you.
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I cannot stop thinking about this topic and it makes me so angry. Why should she feel bad for her choices let alone why should anyone need forgiveness for having a life before the person they are currently with. Remember I was a virgin until 6 months ago and I would never make my fiance or any past boyfriend feel guilty for that let alone have the urge to be jelious because they have a past. If this is the case, you need to look in side yourself and see why it is you have personal issues and why you are projecting these issues onto your partner. NO ONE should be made to feel guilty for having a past and NO ONE needs to seek forgiveness from a current partner for having one. If you have these issues then it is possible she is not the one for you, you know when it is the one because issues such as these NEVER come to play.
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Thats the point i was trying to get accross!!
Western society today shuns people who have sex and then leave a relationship only to get into another and do the same thing. Its odd how society works. Thus, "Maybe in the eyes of society she has done a bad thing." but in your eyes it shouldn't be that way.
Western society today shuns people who have sex and then leave a relationship only to get into another and do the same thing. Its odd how society works. Thus, "Maybe in the eyes of society she has done a bad thing." but in your eyes it shouldn't be that way.
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