So, my story is: I am an 18 year old male
I had a girlfriend for about a year and we broke up for reasons nothing to do with sex. now with her I had performance anxiety the first 4 times we tried to have sex (till i lost my virginity). It was a very horrible period of my life as I felt like my manhood was stripped from me. However, I thankfully got over that and started having normal sex whenever I wanted. But, during sex I would never climax (we always used condoms). I would to be honest, hardly feel anything close to what I am supposed to feel. I would last around 2 hrs before we got tired and she was obviously over satisfied. I've read many articles and some people say it was the masturbation as I do often over do it. But then again, last night I slept with another girl and I got the two symptoms once again. I could not get hard for long, it was basically up and down all the time for around an hour, and when I managed, I would not feel anything close to what Im supposed to. We had sex on a beach (was not the most comfy of places) and Im not used to one night stands as this was my first. Could it all be in my head since I do not know the girl that well? and what do i do to actually FEEL something?
Thank you so much for you Help
I had a girlfriend for about a year and we broke up for reasons nothing to do with sex. now with her I had performance anxiety the first 4 times we tried to have sex (till i lost my virginity). It was a very horrible period of my life as I felt like my manhood was stripped from me. However, I thankfully got over that and started having normal sex whenever I wanted. But, during sex I would never climax (we always used condoms). I would to be honest, hardly feel anything close to what I am supposed to feel. I would last around 2 hrs before we got tired and she was obviously over satisfied. I've read many articles and some people say it was the masturbation as I do often over do it. But then again, last night I slept with another girl and I got the two symptoms once again. I could not get hard for long, it was basically up and down all the time for around an hour, and when I managed, I would not feel anything close to what Im supposed to. We had sex on a beach (was not the most comfy of places) and Im not used to one night stands as this was my first. Could it all be in my head since I do not know the girl that well? and what do i do to actually FEEL something?
Thank you so much for you Help
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Were you wearing condoms with the other woman? You can get "thin" condoms. They may increase your feeling.
I think that part of last night was that you weren't comfortable and you didn't know the girl well. There is always a bit of "first time" anxiety with a new partner.
There is much more to sex than just the thrusting. Talk to each other, feel each other, just let things happen. Don't focus on the "orgasm" at all. Just focus on each other.
I think that part of last night was that you weren't comfortable and you didn't know the girl well. There is always a bit of "first time" anxiety with a new partner.
There is much more to sex than just the thrusting. Talk to each other, feel each other, just let things happen. Don't focus on the "orgasm" at all. Just focus on each other.
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Yes, I use fetherlite Durex condoms. I hear they are the thinnest in the range. Last night it might have been the first time anxiety stage as you said. I know I will be able to get over the performance anxiety thing as I did before. However I am more concerned about the feeling. Last night I had sex without a condom as she was on the pill and I know her well enough not to be carrying any STDS, (basically, a friend who I knew since I was young, just never did this with her before thats all). I still didnt feel a climax when I managed to penetrate. It did however feel much better without a condom. But it still wasnt enough.. People say it might be the grip I use when I masturbate.. is this true or is it just a myth?
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I'm not sure if it is the grip you use. You may want to back off a bit on masturbating or change your technique and see what happens.
First time with an old friend = anxiety.
Maybe you could try some different positions.
First time with an old friend = anxiety.
Maybe you could try some different positions.
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Actually I did realise, I was able to get hard when she was on top. Otherwise it would just flop down again for me. I will back off with the masturbation, well try at least. Hopefully I can test it soon enough!
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