Sexual Arousal Confusion?

presuming the age of a teenager, thats normal....ANYthing got me hot

Funny how it always seems to be a cousin. My cousin showed me how to masturbate when I was 10. Me and some other cousins used to do it together. Later, there were several of my friends who got together quite often to masturbate ourselves and each other. You've found something that's fun to do and it's even  more fun to share with friends.

Wait until you find a girl to do it FOR you ------ you'll forget all about your old male buddies.:-)

So just have fun, it's all normal.

Thanks! You've helped me escape my OCD fear!

lol njoylife is perfect

I had a friend when I was around that age we used to muck around heaps with each other we would we would lay on each other just as a man and woman would and rub our penis's together not really even knowing what we were doing. Then a few years later when we were 14 he said to me one day "do you remember when we were kids and mucked around" We talked abit about what we used to do and then I asked him if he masturbates and he said no so I ended up giving him a lesson and we both masterbated infront of each other. Then the next morning I noticed he had an erection under his sleeping bag so I ripped his sleeping bag away and flicked it not very hard a couple of time which turned me on a bit to touching his penis so I thought we could watch each other again but he suggested we try doing each other so I rubbed his penis while he rubbed mine until we both had cum. It was great for both of us and we learnt abit to. We never did any thing again after that and I'm straight to this day Iv never done any thing with a guy since and had plenty of sexual encounters with women. And my mate is now married. I think it's good for boys to do a little bit of playing around when there young. I would wait untill your alone with him again and let yourself get an erection and let him notice the bulge in your pants and then say to him somthing like what does he do when he gets an erection. If he says he masturbates then ask him how, if he says he does nothing just say, oh I normally have to play with it to make it go away and hope he asks you how you play with it

It may turn out that you will continue to be attracted to boys as you follow on your journey to your sexual maturity. You may also find that attraction giving way to a fondness for girls. That kind of "split" between your actual desires and your expectations of what you (or others) think you should be feeling is not unusual at all at your age. As you go through puberty, your body and your brain have an awful lot to sort out, and an awful lot still left to discover! Our sexuality tends to focus on different genders as we mature, until it usually settles on one or the other. Of course, it is also possible that you will continue to have sexual feelings for both boys AND girls -- "bi-sexual". I would say, go with what you are feeling at the moment and don't be worried about it. Enjoy the amazing feelings you have when looking at a boy, enjoy your erections and fantasies when you masturbate. Everything is working just as it's supposed to. If you stay with liking (and loving) boys, well, you are fortunate to be growing up in a time when that is ok. Don't let anyone make you feel ashamed or anxious about what you feel. "They" may never understand, and in the final analysis, they really don't matter -- you do! 

It takes courage to speak about such things, and I am proud of you for doing so here. I hope someday you are able to let your cousin know how you feel about him, and that he doesn't reject you for it. Whichever you end up choosing -- boys or girls -- to be the objects of your affections, I think they'll be lucky to be loved by as thoughtful and aware a young man as you seem to be. Try to be honest with yourself and others as you go; be a kind, gentle, considerate and playful lover whenever you can. But most of all, be a good person. There will be hurts and challenges along the way to discovering your true sexuality, but that is only a part of who you are. The rest of you just as important, and just as much fun to explore. Good Luck!