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Hi Mike, I am glad I found this post, as I just went through this with my best friend and her husband. Her telling me that he isn't supportive of their efforts, him telling me that she makes it into a "job" (and not a sex one.) (Talk about feeling like a double agent! lol) I will tell you what I told them, hopefully some of it will apply to you as well. I don't know how long you two have been trying, if this is your first month, I would say to you, that if you're burnt out already then maybe you need to reevaluate whether or not this is something you really want. I say that only because honestly Mike, there are couples out there who have been trying for a year, two years or more before ever going to see a specialist, month after month of taking temps, lunch break quickies, ovulation kits, planned, timed, certain positions only sex, for a really long time, and I'm sure those couples have their moments of just really not liking or enjoying sex at all, but continue to do it...(no pun intended) for the simple fact that they both desire a child so intensely, that it's all worth it. However, if you and your wife have been at this for a while then it could be that you need to sit down and voice your feelings to her, let her know that when sex is made into a "job" for a man, there are performance pressures. Sex is a natural part of a relationship, and supposed to be spontaneous, not on a rigorous, rigid schedule, so when a couple is trying to conceive, this can become, monotonous and frustrating, for both partners. This really boils down to a communication issue, & I'm almost certain that if you asked her if she was experiencing any emotional blows from not being able to conceive a baby as easily as millions of other women out there, (some of which neither want a baby, or have no business being a mother) yet run around getting pregnant (some multiple times) seemingly without much effort at all, just to turn around and terminate the pregnancy (some multiple times) while your wife struggles with a basic function that makes her feel like a woman, I'll bet she would tell you she too is feeling the stress of not being able to perform for you. There has to be dialogue, this will be your second baby, so you've obviously achieved this before & most likely will again, but probably not as effectively as you would if you talk to one another about your needs, and quite possibly the need to take a break from the schedule and just be a little more spontaneous around the ovulation time. Couples going through this have proven time and time again that when they stopped stressing about it so much, they conceived almost immediately. I hope this was helpful, & I wish you and your wife the very best of luck.
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