When you started the whole adventure of trying to conceive, you probably thought you were going to get pregnant within a few months. The first month, you may have been waiting for morning sickness to show up a week after your ovulation. After a couple of tries, you wonder why you are not pregnant yet. Then, after a year, you may start to get really nervous. What do you do after you have been trying for a baby for over a year?
Why is it taking so long?
One in ten couples in the United States are diagnosed with infertility either female infertility, male infertility, or both. Most people who are hoping to start a family have read about these statistics. Few go into the adventure of trying for a baby thinking they will be a part of those infertility statistics. After a few months of trying to conceive, the optimism that made you so sure you were going to conceive right away will have worn off, however. You'll be worried about all kinds of things, and you may think that you will never, ever get pregnant. It may help you to know that half of the couples who originally struggled with fertility problems eventually get pregnant and have a baby, whether it happens naturally or through fertility treatment. Infertility, these days, is defined as not getting pregnant after a year of unprotected intercourse. That is where the key lies. If you have consistently been trying to get pregnant for a year, it is time to consult a doctor. The same goes for women over 35 who have been trying for a baby for six months. Have you been doing everything in your power to increase your chances of getting pregnant, though?
Increasing your chances of conceiving
Many women reading this post, looking for tips on how to get pregnant, could well be insulted at the mere suggestion that not getting pregnant is somehow their "fault". I'm not saying that relaxing will get you pregnant. If you have read a lot about fertility, the menstrual cycle and getting pregnant, you can skip this part right away. If you are not sure what to do to increase your chances of conceiving, read on. Both male and female fertility is affected by lifestyle factors. For women, nutritional deficiencies, being underweight or overweight, smoking and drinking alcohol, or leading a sedentary life all negatively impact the chance to get pregnant. Men's fertility suffers from many of the same things, and testicular overheating also causes potential problems. Taking multivitamin and mineral supplements is a wonderful idea for both partners in a couple hoping to get pregnant. Eating well is important, but so is having regular sexual intercourse. The female fertile window lasts around five days, so you need to make sure you have sex at the right time in order to get pregnant. Ovulation-detecting tools such as an ovulation calendar, ovulation predictor kits, and fertility charting all help. The other option you have is to have sex every two or three days throughout the whole month, to make sure you have the fertile window covered. Have you done all of that? Then it is time for the next step.
Talking to your doctor about infertility
After either six months or a year, you can head to your family doctor to discuss your fertility struggles. At this first appointment, you will generally be asked many questions. Expect questions about your menstrual cycles, ovulation, how long you have been trying to get pregnant, general medical history, and more. If you have been charting to conceive or tracking your cycles in some other way, then bring this information. If you have irregular cycles or other symptoms, describe them in as much detail as possible. After that first fertility appointment, you may get a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist, who can assess your fertility more seriously. Male fertility testing, including a sperm analysis, is usually the simplest way to get the process started. At your first appointment with an RE, be prepared to be asked many questions but also prepare your own list of questions about the whole process of fertility testing and your chances of getting pregnant in the future.