Usually when my boyfriend and I have sex, we both start very passionately, but as we move along, I've noticed on my end, if I orgasm before he does, right after I start to become less passionate and start feeling detached and slightly, "not in the mood."
So even though we keep having sex until he orgasms, inside I usually just continue it to please him, while feeling detached... and the same thing happens after masturbation... it's sort of like an on/off switch once I orgasm.
Why is this and what do you think I should do?
So even though we keep having sex until he orgasms, inside I usually just continue it to please him, while feeling detached... and the same thing happens after masturbation... it's sort of like an on/off switch once I orgasm.
Why is this and what do you think I should do?
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That is generally what happends when you orgasam, you feel releaved and relaxed and want to relax lay back and enjoy what you just felt and not want anymore. Same reason if he orgasams before you do its pretty much over, the only lucky part for us that as females we can keep going past when we get off where as alot of guys cant.
BUT if you can change the way our thinking about it then you learn to love it. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years and a lot of the times we tend to orgasam at the same time and always start out passionately and like we havent seen each other in months and if by chance i orgasam before he does we normally take it really slow for a minute or so, usually change positions into a more relaxed position for me so he controlls everything(generally him on top or him from behind) and i just relax, close my eyes and listen to him, and concentrate on what im feeling. I love when he keeps going after i hit orgasam because it throws me into multiple mode, which makes him enjoy how im feeling and sounding, which in return tends to make it better for me again. And when he does finally orgasam it makes it 10 times better for me then it was a first time.
Dont just think of it as "ok i got off im done".. no just relax and enjoy how hes making you feel, make him slow down and have a make out session before starting up again. If he can take the time i make you orgasam before he does then hes doing something right...
BUT if you can change the way our thinking about it then you learn to love it. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years and a lot of the times we tend to orgasam at the same time and always start out passionately and like we havent seen each other in months and if by chance i orgasam before he does we normally take it really slow for a minute or so, usually change positions into a more relaxed position for me so he controlls everything(generally him on top or him from behind) and i just relax, close my eyes and listen to him, and concentrate on what im feeling. I love when he keeps going after i hit orgasam because it throws me into multiple mode, which makes him enjoy how im feeling and sounding, which in return tends to make it better for me again. And when he does finally orgasam it makes it 10 times better for me then it was a first time.
Dont just think of it as "ok i got off im done".. no just relax and enjoy how hes making you feel, make him slow down and have a make out session before starting up again. If he can take the time i make you orgasam before he does then hes doing something right...
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