bleeding a few days after losing virginity

after reading about everyone else's bleeding and all, I don't think I wan to lose my virginity, I'm keeping it for as long as I can! I'll just be like Elizabeth I.

Thankyou for all your honest descriptions of the bleeding and pain from having sex for the first time.

I'm 24 and Sarah is 22 and saving sex till I get married in 9 days!!! Me and my fiancee are both virgins. We've read a book by Lahaye "The act of marriage" that's given us amazing advise. I've read that the PAIN can make sex miserable for the women... and it can be avoided.
1. Lubricating the penis before incertion is very important... many women don't produce enough vaginal fluid to prevent what feels like road rash.
2. Also, Lahaye mentions that forplay is very important for up to 15minutes before sex... if the woman is tense (not relaxed) then the pain is so much worse. She should be as relaxed as possible. During foreplay... rubbing her clit until the inner skin (labia) is swollen and the hood is covering the clit. This is verrry important for the women to enjoy love making.... it'll stimulate the clitoris (the organ of intense pleasure).
3. The man should be on his back for couples having sex the first time. This allows the woman to be incontrol of the thrusts and know what she can handle.
4. Orgasim is not likely going to happen the first time. You should make goals like:
-first- the man should gently rub her clitoris until orgasm is reached
-second- reach orgasm while having sex (at different times)
-third- reach orgasm from sex at the same time (the man and the women experience it the same time)

I'm praying that me and my soon to be wife will have all kinds of joy giving ourselves to each other on our wedding night. I need to be understanding that sex will be painful the first time for her, and that my orgasm can be reached other ways. And remember that she should be relaxed NOT tense to enjoy sex the most.

Saving sex till marriage is worth it!

There is a way to make this process less painful. But it’s not easy. The key is to mix pleasure and pain. This is for men who want to make it as pleasant as possible for girls, who decides to loose there virginity. And what you are about to read is all from personal experience.

I am not very experienced, but I never had sex with a virgin before. I knew that most women feel pain at this point, but I figured, that if I’ll prepare her body with a help of good foreplay and if I’ll make her orgasm at the same time as I’ll penetrate her – the pleasure from orgasm will overpower the pain. So it did. She still felt the pain, but it wasn’t all that unpleasant.

How to make her feel orgasm when she never had sex before? I knew that only small number of women feel orgasm just from intercourse, so it was all about clitoris stimulation. Oral sex is the best at this point if you know how.

Hope that helps

This has been wonderfully helpful. I'm still a virgin and i'm 18 so i've been feeling a lot of pressure lately, none of my friends are virgins and a few guys have been tailing after mine. I have felt like i was the only one that was left but hearing that others are still waiting till a good age truly comforts me. To be honest i was just talking with one of the guys tonight and he said loosing it doesn't hurt but for the first few minutes, and i'm glad i decided to read about it first. hes a good guy dont get me wrong but honestly men just cant understand what this is for women.
Also not to be out of place but John_k you have given me hope to kind men in the world. it honestly brought me the most comfort our of all the posts was to know men like you are around.
Thank you.

hi I`m 18 and me and my friend were playing just for fun and she pushed the marker into my ovary and when che took it out it was alittle bloody and after when I cleaned myself it bluid abit and after few minuts it was done I`m scare that if I lost my virginity.it burns alittle when I go for pee but it doesn`t heart at all thanks.

I'm 19 and a virgin. I'm proud of it.
This may sound lame for others but I also never had a boyfriend.
It's not so much a big deal in my culture if you don't have one.
Although 19 is also old enough and most of my friends are in a relationship too. Not to be conceited or anything but I'm one of the most popular girl in school. I'm saying this to tell you that's it's perfectly okay to wait :-)
Pressuring yourself would get you nowhere.

It will only happen once.

It's a matter of choice. Good luck :-D

I've had sex a couple of times. The first time I bled but not a lot and it wasn't painful at all. The 2nd time I didn't bleed and I had sex last night and I noticed blood on my guy's leg. I realized I was bleeding so much that we decided to stop. He thought there was something wrong with me. But then he told me that he probably which he broke my hymen which he assumed wasn't broken the last time I had sex. I'm still bleeding but not as much as last night.

I'm 23 and I lost my virginity about 3 weeks ago, and yeah it was really painful, and he was a little above average, I had to ask him to stop. There was a lot of blood, I bled for two days after that, and when I went to pee it burned like crazy. When I start healing it itched a little. It took me about a week to fully healed. I haven't had sex but that one time. Hopefully next time would be better.

I was reading through some posts and I noticed that Someone mentioned being worried about pregnancy but her boyfriend had "pulled out". Just wanted to mention that "pulling out" is not a very effective way to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Its too easy for a stray swimmer to get in! Find a better method of birth control, or at least use a condom.

Ive had sex with a virgin before who didn't bleed when we had sex. I used my fingers on her alot (don't mean to be so descriptive) weeks before we had sex, which may have streched her enough to where she didn't bleed during sex. So if you have had something inside of you before, it may have gradually streched you, which is why some women don't bleed thier first time.

For those who bleed analy, your anus is so close to your opening, it may have just made tiny cracks in your skin on the perineum (area behind vagina and in front of anus) when you had sex, making it dry like chapped lips. Try vaseline to keep the skin moist and it should heal.

I am 24 years old and it has now been 5 days since I lost my virginity. I have to say that many of these posts have helped me in understanding all of the new things going on with my body. I also had some light bleeding/spotting for about the first 4 days after. It's also good to know that I might be late on my next period so I don't panic. However, even though there is a lot of new things going on with my body, I find myself thinking more of the emotional changes going on within me.

It has really been difficult dealing with the fact that I gave something so precious away to a guy who isn't committed to me through marriage. I didn't intend for things to happen that way but they did and I cannot take it back now. For those of you who have not experienced sex yet and are curious, don't be overly anxious. Believe me, it will be worth waiting for. As for me, I plan on saving the next time for my husband. It's just not worth the agony of wondering "what if I become pregnant, will he be there" or " does he really care for me" or "did he use me", etc. I really hope this has been helpful to some of you ladies! :'(

I'm a 16 year old girl, and me and my Bf are planning to have sex soon. He does know I'm a virgin, but I want my first time to be special, so we agreed to make me pop with a dildo, if that is possible.

Is it possible to make my real first time painless??

I lost my virginity two nights ago. I'm twenty-six and have known my boyfriend since I was thirteen. We talked about our first time together, which was my first time period, a lot, before we attempted intercourse. I pretty much knew it would be painful because going to the gynecologist was and because I've met no one who has said that their first time wasn't painful, which contradicts what many experts post about how many women do not have pain during their first intercourse. (We need those women, who did not have pain, to get on this board and post.) I've met women who can still recall and are angry about the pain they felt the first time, because they felt their husbands and boyfriends acted selfishly. One even told me that she managed to wiggle free of her boyfriend and run out of the room with blood trickling down her thighs. That why it's so important to choose to be with a guy who really loves and cares about you and who doesn't have sexist notions about sex.

Any way, my boyfriend told me before hand that he'd take care of the birth control; he would buy lube... I told him he'd have to be gentle because my hymen was still intact. He seemed to be struggling with that a bit. So I looked at him and said, So you're just planning to screw me to death. He looked startled and then told me that he had been with a few women, but really didn't consider himself to be all that experienced and was concerned about his control. He told me that he wouldn't be screwing me--not to think of it like that. He was just sort of scared too. I told him that I already knew it would hurt. (He couldn't even get two fingers in.) But he did try to stretch me beforehand, and I did orgasm during our sex play. Because I had just had an orgasm I was really relaxed when he started penetrating, but it still really hurt, really bad. I did reach down and push my labia away from his penis--one side at a time, and it went in. And I did bleed. As for how gentle he was, well, he got up on his palms once, but when he saw the look on my face and heard me scream, he climbed back down to his elbows, so that he couldn't move in and out so much. After it was over, we showered together. I had to put on a pad, and I eventually fell asleep in his arms. The next morning, he made me breakfast and promised me better sexual experiences in the future. I had sex with him because I've been with him for a while. I love him and really feel that he loves me too, and because I wanted to be CLOSER to him.

I'm sore. Walking and sitting are painful, but I have spent the last few days, on and off, just cuddling on the couch with my boyfriend. I'm glad I waited as long as I did and chose a good partner. Young girls often don't have the luxury of spending nights with their partners, cuddling, and often don't have enough knowledge of theirs or their partners' bodies to know what feels good or how to lessen any negative reactions their bodies may have. I knew enough, at least, to ask my boyfriend to go slow. I knew it would hurt less if I helped him get his penis in and I knew if he ignored my request to go slow we would never have intercourse again. He knew how not to get me pregnant, and that it wasn't a one night stand and that there would be other, better times, so he was patient.

P.S. Many guys have heard that it hurts women the first time and believe there is nothing they can do about it. Well, they can help you to become really aroused, take responsibility for the birth control, and go really slow. Also help him get his penis in. It'll hurt a lot less.

Don't loose your virginity just to get it over with or because you're being pressured.

If you bleed the second or even the third time you have sex, it is because your hymen was not completely broken the first time.

If you have anal sex, do not allow your boyfriend to put his unwashed (use antibacterial soap) penis into your vagina, unless he wore a condom during anal sex and uses a new one when having vaginal sex. Going from the anus to the vagina without washing or changing the condom first will cause a pretty good vaginal infection to develop.