What virginity is differs from person to person. Some people believe that a virgin is someone who has not had any type of sex. Some believe that oral sex and fingering doesn't cause anyone to lose their virginity. Traditionally, losing one's virginity has meant vaginal intercourse. However, what does that say about thousands of gay men and lesbians? If you were born with a hymen, the first time you have intercourse will be an initiation of sorts. You can sort of see it as a right of passage, equivalent to circumcision in some parts of the world, where boys are circumcised as an initiation into adulthood. What if you or your partner are not ready, it can be an experience that borders on Russian Roulette. Anyone who pressures you is not a worthwhile partner, because you risk HIV, STDs, pregnancy, and perhaps a great deal of pain when you have intercourse the first time. Not only is it a physical act, but an emotional one as well. Really the only real reason the have sex with anyone is because you want t feel closer to that person. If it's just sexual pleasure that you're after, you can masturbate. Don't do it just to get it over with. I waited until I was twenty-six and did it with m boyfriend of a year. I should add that I've known him since I was thirteen. We've always been attracted to each other, but went on to meet other people, attend college, work, and start getting our adult lives together. Contrary to conventional wisdom, there are things guys can do to make it easier. He can use a condom, some lube, and go slow. You can pull your labia back so that it is easier to get the penis in. If he can't do those thing the first time, reassess whether you are with the right person.
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6 DAYS AGO I HAD A SEXUAL INTERCOURSE BUT I REALLY DIDNT HAVE SEX THE "HEAD" OF HIS PENIS THE "TIP" WHATEVER YOU WOULD LIKE TO CALL IT...IT WENT IN ME A LITTLE BIT HE DIDNT GET NO FEELING AND NEITHER DID I...I GOT A LIL BIT OF PAIN AND THATS IT. WE DIDNT HAVE ORAL SEX WE DIDNT DO THE "FINGER POPING" THING WE DIDNT DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT. HIS PENIS WENT IN ME A LITTLE BIT..BUT TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT HE DIDNT GO ALL THE WAY IN ME AND I DIDNT BLEED..
AM I STILL A VIRGIN??
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a few years ago like before i started my perdiods i noticed some blood and assumed it was my periods starting but it turned out it wasnt.
could it have been my hymen breaking?
could it have been my hymen breaking?
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im 19 years old and i lost my virginity about 2 weeks ago!! i bled a lot while sex and after it (i thought it wus my period ) but it wusnt cuz then it stopped!!! we didnt use a condom and i wouldnt get my period !! i thought i wus pregnate so i took a pregnacy test it wus negative!!!! and then i finally got my period it wus about 2 wks late and ohh yes it did hurt A LOT!!!!!!!!!!
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im am so happy that all of you are saying these things about the pain and bleeding! my boyfriend and i had sex about 2 weeks ago and it hurt soooo bad. it took us like 3 tries at 3 different times before it actually happend. i didnt bleed the first time but the second time i did alittle. i was really freaked out, i wasnt sure if it was normal and i was worried that somthing really bad was going on. reading all of the posts have helped me alot, so thanks.
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i'm 20. i'm still a virgin.
i've heard that the later u lose your virginity, the more it'll hurt..
is it true?
i've heard that the later u lose your virginity, the more it'll hurt..
is it true?
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Wow i lost mine, i didnt bleed, it burned a bit when i got on him, but other than that there was no pain, Um you should go to your doctor if this dosnt stop after like 3 days.
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I just wanted to let you know that having sex for the first time and not being in control might be a mistake. The girl should be on top and control the insertion at a pace and amount that she is comfortable with Doing it the other way where the guy is in control will more than likely not be as comfortable and possibly painful for you.
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Hey, I'm 18 an lost my virginity a week ago...I did bleed an the pain was uncomfortable, but bareable..I bled for about a day.
I havn't had sex again since, but I want to know if I will bleed again the second time? or if it will still hurt?
I havn't had sex again since, but I want to know if I will bleed again the second time? or if it will still hurt?
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How old you are has nothing to do with whether or not you'll feel pain the first time.
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when i lost my virginity it hurt like hell, i was lucky that my partner and i had talked about the fact that if it hurt too much we would stop, which in the end we did; it didnt help that he was larger than average too.
i was aware that i would bleed and it would but hurt but i was still in for a shock i bled quite a significant amount because i had only ever used small tampons, my partner was actually worried about the bleeding. i have read since my first time that by having the girl on top makes the experience better, but i disagree, the hymen will be broken regardless and it doesnt matter what position the couple are in.
being a nurse i know things that many other girls dont. bleeding is quite natural because the hymen is broken and it can bleed for a few days, however not all girls will experience this; the hymen can be broken during normal daily activities such as horse riding and gymnastics. the next time wont be perfect either but after a few times there shouldnt be any problems.. i hope this answers any questions anyone may have if not let me know..
i was aware that i would bleed and it would but hurt but i was still in for a shock i bled quite a significant amount because i had only ever used small tampons, my partner was actually worried about the bleeding. i have read since my first time that by having the girl on top makes the experience better, but i disagree, the hymen will be broken regardless and it doesnt matter what position the couple are in.
being a nurse i know things that many other girls dont. bleeding is quite natural because the hymen is broken and it can bleed for a few days, however not all girls will experience this; the hymen can be broken during normal daily activities such as horse riding and gymnastics. the next time wont be perfect either but after a few times there shouldnt be any problems.. i hope this answers any questions anyone may have if not let me know..
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I lost it last week. I have been kind of sensative down there, and bleeding. For me, sex stopped hurting the third time (but then again, we did it 3 times in 12 hours, not waiting llike a week between or anything). Bleeding seems to be normal.
And you are still a virgin if a penis has not penetrated you. You are a virgin if you can use a dildo or tampon, you are a virgin if you receive oral sex, or get fingered. There shouldn't be a question whether or not any of you lost your virginity: If a guy gets his penis in you, you lost it.
And you are still a virgin if a penis has not penetrated you. You are a virgin if you can use a dildo or tampon, you are a virgin if you receive oral sex, or get fingered. There shouldn't be a question whether or not any of you lost your virginity: If a guy gets his penis in you, you lost it.
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Wow, I really feel weird talking about this, but I figure being anonymous will help. lol.
I'm 18, going to be 19 really soon. Anyways, I lost my virginity about a week ago. Or at least I think I did.
My boyfriend had a hard time keeping his penis in me, plus I was really nervous, although I was really wet. He is pretty big, and kept popping out every time he tried to thrust into me. He fingered me a lot, and we did the "spoons" position. I've masturbated prior to this night, but I have never fingered myself, so I was really tight and he couldn't stay in me for very long. I felt really awkward because I felt like I was unsatisfying. -_-;
We haven't done it since, because I live kinda far and have to visit him on weekends I'm not working, and also because I'm scared that the next time we do it, it's going to be awkward again. I bled some, after we did it, but not a lot. I suppose that means I won't be as tight... right?
I'm 18, going to be 19 really soon. Anyways, I lost my virginity about a week ago. Or at least I think I did.
My boyfriend had a hard time keeping his penis in me, plus I was really nervous, although I was really wet. He is pretty big, and kept popping out every time he tried to thrust into me. He fingered me a lot, and we did the "spoons" position. I've masturbated prior to this night, but I have never fingered myself, so I was really tight and he couldn't stay in me for very long. I felt really awkward because I felt like I was unsatisfying. -_-;
We haven't done it since, because I live kinda far and have to visit him on weekends I'm not working, and also because I'm scared that the next time we do it, it's going to be awkward again. I bled some, after we did it, but not a lot. I suppose that means I won't be as tight... right?
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