I'm almost 16 and I know I shouldn't be pressured into having sex now that I've read a lot of people saying is worth waiting. I've tried masturbation and fingered myself to know if I'm 'somehow' ready...I can bearly put 2 fingers in and it hurts me really bad when I try it. I do it out of fear for when I get to the time when I have sex and his penis won't fit in me.
Is it normal for it to hurt when you finger yourself?
Is it normal for it to hurt when you finger yourself?
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i lost my v-card when i was 10 and i am happy i did it so early cause now at age 15 it feels great. but im sorry to hear about you
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Ok so here is teh deal. My boyfriend and I decided we were ready today, and made teh move to have sex. We hit a few problems.
1. Condom wouldn't stay on
2. It was kind of hard to get it in & then keep it there
3. He couldn't....keep it up.
4. it hurt like buggery
He's worried, because he was most definately erect when I gave him oral sex and jerked him off. But it wouldn't stay hard once we got it in.
About it hurting, we're not sure if the hymen broke. we dont know if he got far enough in, and even though it stopped hurting after awhile there was no bleeding. I am sore, but no blood at all. We tried with him on top first but cause we had trouble getting his penis in, and then keeping it in, we tried me ontop. It hurt less when I was on top and stayed in longer. We'd really like some advice on this as our mates are a bunch of mickeys who can't be trusted.
1. Condom wouldn't stay on
2. It was kind of hard to get it in & then keep it there
3. He couldn't....keep it up.
4. it hurt like buggery
He's worried, because he was most definately erect when I gave him oral sex and jerked him off. But it wouldn't stay hard once we got it in.
About it hurting, we're not sure if the hymen broke. we dont know if he got far enough in, and even though it stopped hurting after awhile there was no bleeding. I am sore, but no blood at all. We tried with him on top first but cause we had trouble getting his penis in, and then keeping it in, we tried me ontop. It hurt less when I was on top and stayed in longer. We'd really like some advice on this as our mates are a bunch of mickeys who can't be trusted.
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Ok so here is teh deal. My boyfriend and I decided we were ready today, and made teh move to have sex. We hit a few problems.
1. Condom wouldn't stay on
2. It was kind of hard to get it in & then keep it there
3. He couldn't....keep it up.
4. it hurt like buggery
He's worried, because he was most definately erect when we did other things. But it wouldn't stay hard once we got it in.
About it hurting, we're not sure if the hymen broke. we dont know if he got far enough in, and even though it stopped hurting after awhile there was no bleeding. The pain was really sharp and insistant too, but i could feel the pain at teh entrace rather than inside. I am sore, but no blood at all. We tried with him on top first but cause we had trouble getting his penis in, and then keeping it in, we tried me ontop. It hurt less when I was on top and stayed in longer. We'd really like some advice on this as our mates are a bunch of mickeys who can't be trusted.
1. Condom wouldn't stay on
2. It was kind of hard to get it in & then keep it there
3. He couldn't....keep it up.
4. it hurt like buggery
He's worried, because he was most definately erect when we did other things. But it wouldn't stay hard once we got it in.
About it hurting, we're not sure if the hymen broke. we dont know if he got far enough in, and even though it stopped hurting after awhile there was no bleeding. The pain was really sharp and insistant too, but i could feel the pain at teh entrace rather than inside. I am sore, but no blood at all. We tried with him on top first but cause we had trouble getting his penis in, and then keeping it in, we tried me ontop. It hurt less when I was on top and stayed in longer. We'd really like some advice on this as our mates are a bunch of mickeys who can't be trusted.
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since we're on this topic i feel like i can finally tell someone.
i lost mine two weeks ago to my bf who was also a virgin
slight pain during, no pain right after.
but later it hurt to sit. I bleed for about two days.
i hurt for about four.
we didn't use protection b/c he would stay up with it on
but i'm not pregant, i am currently on my period.
i was lucky, many girls aren't.
please think before you say yes
and if you do use protection.
i lost mine two weeks ago to my bf who was also a virgin
slight pain during, no pain right after.
but later it hurt to sit. I bleed for about two days.
i hurt for about four.
we didn't use protection b/c he would stay up with it on
but i'm not pregant, i am currently on my period.
i was lucky, many girls aren't.
please think before you say yes
and if you do use protection.
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i am 16 i don't ahve a boyfriend and i really thiink im ready to lose it!! but after reading some of these im second guessin it... i don't want to bleed alot. and i don't want it to be that painful but i definately want to experience it now i think..
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i am 21 and i have bf for 2 years now
we want to have sex but i am virgin yet but whenever we try i am getting stressed
and i am starting to cry i am afraid that it hurts and i dont want to bleed alot
so how should we do this
i dont want to feel bad when i am doing it? %-)
we want to have sex but i am virgin yet but whenever we try i am getting stressed
and i am starting to cry i am afraid that it hurts and i dont want to bleed alot
so how should we do this
i dont want to feel bad when i am doing it? %-)
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i lost my virginity yesterday and i was wondering what was normal and what wasnt. like now after reading all this...bleeding is normal and bleeding alot is too. and my first time jeeze it hurt alot cause.. he was like.. super huge and he didnt go slow...he pretty much forced it in. but i couldnt help but get a mirror and look at myself, is it normal that is like torn-looking and dark pink and almost purple around the "entrance" ?
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Sex is not just about pleasure. I seriously recommend being in a committed relationship where you two love each other before you even attempt to have sex. That way, it isn't really having sex at all, its making love.
I think you will really regret your decision if you have sex with someone that you don't really care about.
I am 20 and 3 days ago I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 16 months. We plan to get married, and wanted to wait until marriage. However, we recently found out that he is going to be deployed to Iraq in 3 weeks. As you can imagine, I don't know if I will ever see him again once he leaves, so we made the decision to make love together.
It was the most beautiful thing I have ever done in my life and definitely worth the wait. I can't imagine losing it any other way.
I am not telling you what to do, all I'm saying is it is a very serious thing to do and you will remember it for the rest of your life. Please think about what you truly want.
I think you will really regret your decision if you have sex with someone that you don't really care about.
I am 20 and 3 days ago I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 16 months. We plan to get married, and wanted to wait until marriage. However, we recently found out that he is going to be deployed to Iraq in 3 weeks. As you can imagine, I don't know if I will ever see him again once he leaves, so we made the decision to make love together.
It was the most beautiful thing I have ever done in my life and definitely worth the wait. I can't imagine losing it any other way.
I am not telling you what to do, all I'm saying is it is a very serious thing to do and you will remember it for the rest of your life. Please think about what you truly want.
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My boyfriend and i have tried on several occasions to make love, but i am so tight that he cant get his penis in. I find that girl on top is also as painful as girl underneath, but i might try it again.
But is it possible for my vagina to be too small?
But is it possible for my vagina to be too small?
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Having sex is not much fun and feels no good...I suggest losing your virginity as soon as possible so you can feel like **it too...waiting is x rated, I suggest losing it to another virgin. Find a guy that is inexperienced. He will be gentle and cum very quick, It hurts the 1st and 2nd time and no bleeding for a couple days isn't normal and bleeding right away is normal too...so go find someone - if you can that is, and get it on..PS do NOT use a condom.
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Well, I had to answer this one. I am one of those women who didn't really have any pain (or blood) the first time. However, I did wait till I was 24, and my lover was my friend as well, which I think helped.
I would agree 300% that being relaxed with plenty of foreplay first is an absolute must ANYTIME you have intercourse, not just the first time. If he isn't willing to be gentle and slow, then dump him! It is NOT worth it otherwise. It is not something to "get over with", or give in to because of pressure. It is a very special act between 2 people to bring them closer together, not just physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It isn't something casual, because it can be NOT fun otherwise, especially for the woman.
I believe going in with the right attitude (on both parties' part) plays a big part with how you will experience the loss of your virginity. Yes, expect some pain and some blood, but both of you need to be prepared so that it's a good experience for the girl. Sorry guys, but your needs are secondary. I do have to agree that John_K sounds like a great guy, and I am praying their first time will be wonderful! They sound prepared though, and it no doubt will be great. Knowledge is power!
Another point to consider...when you're only 13 or 14, you still haven't finished growing, so don't start doing things too young. Age will significantly enhance the experience. Make sure you know who you are, what you want from life, and what you will and won't accept as acceptable behavior. Do not sell yourself short! Virginity is a special gift...please value yourself and wait for the right person.
I would agree 300% that being relaxed with plenty of foreplay first is an absolute must ANYTIME you have intercourse, not just the first time. If he isn't willing to be gentle and slow, then dump him! It is NOT worth it otherwise. It is not something to "get over with", or give in to because of pressure. It is a very special act between 2 people to bring them closer together, not just physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It isn't something casual, because it can be NOT fun otherwise, especially for the woman.
I believe going in with the right attitude (on both parties' part) plays a big part with how you will experience the loss of your virginity. Yes, expect some pain and some blood, but both of you need to be prepared so that it's a good experience for the girl. Sorry guys, but your needs are secondary. I do have to agree that John_K sounds like a great guy, and I am praying their first time will be wonderful! They sound prepared though, and it no doubt will be great. Knowledge is power!
Another point to consider...when you're only 13 or 14, you still haven't finished growing, so don't start doing things too young. Age will significantly enhance the experience. Make sure you know who you are, what you want from life, and what you will and won't accept as acceptable behavior. Do not sell yourself short! Virginity is a special gift...please value yourself and wait for the right person.
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First off, being scared and tense will ensure that it will hurt and you will bleed a lot. I would suggest some other form of sex play first, probably most easily oral sex or "fingering". Don't go for anal sex...it will hurt much worse than losing your virginity!
I am trusting that you truly love and care about your bf, which will help. I am also assuming he loves you and cares about you just as much. He should not be pressuring you, which will of course make you feel stressed and feel like crying. If you are not ready, he should understand. If not, you should be reconsidering your relationship. It sounds to me like you are not ready, so educate yourself first, before agreeing to anything. It will hurt, and you will bleed, if you are not comfortable with the whole thing.
So get yourself comfortable first, even if you have to pleasure yourself beforehand. If he's not comfortable with that...TOUGH! Although most guys shouldn't care...they're very visual creatures. I am of course assuming that you know what your sexual needs are...like where and how you like to be touched, and how to bring yourself to orgasm. If you can't do it for yourself, you will never be able to help him please you so you both have a satisfying experience. Knowledge is the only thing that will help you with your fears about this...so find out as much as you can.
There are some good medical/sexual manuals out there (that you might only find in an adult bookstore, so don't be ashamed to go in and buy one). Make sure the manual (or any info you find on the subject) uses proper terminology, and you can be pretty sure that the information will be valid. If some of the terms and ideas make you squeamish, then you will have to do something about "toughening" yourself up, because the real thing is a lot..."worse" if you will. If you can't read about, how do you ever expect to do it in real life? Please educate yourself dear. It will make it easier and a lot less scary.
I am trusting that you truly love and care about your bf, which will help. I am also assuming he loves you and cares about you just as much. He should not be pressuring you, which will of course make you feel stressed and feel like crying. If you are not ready, he should understand. If not, you should be reconsidering your relationship. It sounds to me like you are not ready, so educate yourself first, before agreeing to anything. It will hurt, and you will bleed, if you are not comfortable with the whole thing.
So get yourself comfortable first, even if you have to pleasure yourself beforehand. If he's not comfortable with that...TOUGH! Although most guys shouldn't care...they're very visual creatures. I am of course assuming that you know what your sexual needs are...like where and how you like to be touched, and how to bring yourself to orgasm. If you can't do it for yourself, you will never be able to help him please you so you both have a satisfying experience. Knowledge is the only thing that will help you with your fears about this...so find out as much as you can.
There are some good medical/sexual manuals out there (that you might only find in an adult bookstore, so don't be ashamed to go in and buy one). Make sure the manual (or any info you find on the subject) uses proper terminology, and you can be pretty sure that the information will be valid. If some of the terms and ideas make you squeamish, then you will have to do something about "toughening" yourself up, because the real thing is a lot..."worse" if you will. If you can't read about, how do you ever expect to do it in real life? Please educate yourself dear. It will make it easier and a lot less scary.
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after reading all of your posts I can tell that all of you need to seriously need to educate yourselves about sex. And that's fine, most people know nothing about it. But you shouldn't have went and done it without knowing all you could. People bleed after their first time all the time but that means that for some reason you weren't ready for it. -And your hymen broke (not serious and it will heal itself)- Like you felt guilty about doing it or it wasn't that right person. So if any of you bleed or it hurts really bad, stop doing it! Unless you're married with the person, it's not okay.
My friend just lost her virginity yesterday and she's still bleeding and it hurt a lot. I know he is not the right guy for her and I also know she didn't really want to do it. It's complicated but to save yourself from some serious emotional confusion, stop doing the guy if it hurts. It has nothing to do with penis size or your body type or anything. It's whether or not you're ready psychologically.
My friend just lost her virginity yesterday and she's still bleeding and it hurt a lot. I know he is not the right guy for her and I also know she didn't really want to do it. It's complicated but to save yourself from some serious emotional confusion, stop doing the guy if it hurts. It has nothing to do with penis size or your body type or anything. It's whether or not you're ready psychologically.
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hey im 17 and i lost my virginity 2 weeks ago. i was always one of those gurls that thought she was gonna wait till she got married but i think i found the right person. My bf wasnt a virigin, he had sex wid alot of gurls b4 me and i was scared that i might get a STD so i told him get tested b4 we did anything. Thank god he didnt hav nething. the first time i did it it didnt hurt much but thats probably because he fingered me for 4 months b4 we actually did anything so i was stretched out. I was his first virgin so he didnt noe wat to expect. He knew that they bleed after or during but thats it. The first time i was on my back and he did most of the work. We did it 3 times in an 3 hr time period. the first time was for 15 mins and the second was for 1 hr and the last time was for 5 mins. Since then we did it once more and the last time it hurt like hell when he put it in. We did it twice, the first time was like 30 mins and the second time was 1 hr and 15 mins. Afterwords i was soo sore. the next day when i went to the bathroom, after i wiped myself i saw blood and i feel a sharp pain when i urinate. Is this normal?? and is it true that your period comes later?
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