Okay, so, im 13. And im like.... aching for sex... is that normal? I havent had my period yet, but i get a clearish, yellowish discharge. What could it be? And when you have sex, just how much pain is it? I've never masterbated before.... and also, if you swallow the sperm, can you get pregnant, or not? And how much do you bleed the first time you have sex? And what does it feel like when he's goin in and stuff?
please help, these are all my questions. Just really need them answered. Thanks in advance! :-)
please help, these are all my questions. Just really need them answered. Thanks in advance! :-)
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Hi hon: You are 13 and your hormones are raging, that DOESN'T mean you should even be thinking about having sex OK? It is a HUGE thing and should be held off till your older and able too handle the consequences.
Due to your hormones raging, it is TOTALLY normal the feelings that you are having right now. You can't get pregnant by swallowing sperm!!! And oral sex IS SEX. And I know that this is quite popular right now, with young girls giving blow jobs and everything, but I will tell you what my 16 year old boy calls girls that do that "GREASY" sure boys will show interest in you if they know you will give them a blow job. BUT let me tell you honey, they will NEVER respect you. They will talk about you like you are filth, and you WILL feel like that too OK? Sex is a HUGE issue, as is STD's and pregnancy right now. So I just worry that your "Natural" interest, will turn into acting out! Because honey it is a slippery slope.
It is NORMAL too think about sex, It is NORMAL too have urges, It is NORMAL too masturbate. And the down side is this hon, IF you start being sexually active with anyone and everyone - It is NORMAL too feel like dirt!! And that feeling honey will NEVER leave you, believe me OK?
At 13 you have your whole life ahead of you, and I want it too be on YOUR terms, and not too be degrading for you. I want you too walk through Junior and Senior High with your head heald high, and your self intact. I wont give you a sermon about being a virgin or not. BUT virginity IS on the rise!! And I TOTALLY support that. Your virginity is the ultimate gift to someone. NOT a stranger, not someone you are in love with - this week. This if for someone that loves you and cherishes you. Because sex changes EVERYTHING! How you feel about yourself, your body, your partner, and how he feels about you.
Having 2 boys I have taught them - as much as I can - that they HAVE too respect their girlfriends. I have talked too them about sex and that they NEVER push it on any girl and hold off till they love them! My eldest son, has had MANY "girl"friends, who turned into "Friends with benefits" I was disgusted and appauld, that 1st my son would take advantage of this and the girls that I have known all their lives were doing WHATEVER it took to keep my son and his friends an the THOUSANDS of other boys around the world as friends!!!! I talked too them so many times about cherishing and valuing their bodies. Loosing your virginity is a HUGE thing honey. It can totally take you too another place, and you can't return.
This is not saying that Making Love isn't wonderful, when it is your time!!! There is bleeding and a little pain, but when you are in TRUE love and there is tenderness you can deal with it together.
And also honey, be careful on these sites asking questions like this OK? On here there are moderators that will watch out for "Dirty replies" but on others I'm not too sure. And there are guys out there that will make you feel like dirt OK? So bide your time and be TOTALLY sure and In LOVE!!!
All the best hon!
Due to your hormones raging, it is TOTALLY normal the feelings that you are having right now. You can't get pregnant by swallowing sperm!!! And oral sex IS SEX. And I know that this is quite popular right now, with young girls giving blow jobs and everything, but I will tell you what my 16 year old boy calls girls that do that "GREASY" sure boys will show interest in you if they know you will give them a blow job. BUT let me tell you honey, they will NEVER respect you. They will talk about you like you are filth, and you WILL feel like that too OK? Sex is a HUGE issue, as is STD's and pregnancy right now. So I just worry that your "Natural" interest, will turn into acting out! Because honey it is a slippery slope.
It is NORMAL too think about sex, It is NORMAL too have urges, It is NORMAL too masturbate. And the down side is this hon, IF you start being sexually active with anyone and everyone - It is NORMAL too feel like dirt!! And that feeling honey will NEVER leave you, believe me OK?
At 13 you have your whole life ahead of you, and I want it too be on YOUR terms, and not too be degrading for you. I want you too walk through Junior and Senior High with your head heald high, and your self intact. I wont give you a sermon about being a virgin or not. BUT virginity IS on the rise!! And I TOTALLY support that. Your virginity is the ultimate gift to someone. NOT a stranger, not someone you are in love with - this week. This if for someone that loves you and cherishes you. Because sex changes EVERYTHING! How you feel about yourself, your body, your partner, and how he feels about you.
Having 2 boys I have taught them - as much as I can - that they HAVE too respect their girlfriends. I have talked too them about sex and that they NEVER push it on any girl and hold off till they love them! My eldest son, has had MANY "girl"friends, who turned into "Friends with benefits" I was disgusted and appauld, that 1st my son would take advantage of this and the girls that I have known all their lives were doing WHATEVER it took to keep my son and his friends an the THOUSANDS of other boys around the world as friends!!!! I talked too them so many times about cherishing and valuing their bodies. Loosing your virginity is a HUGE thing honey. It can totally take you too another place, and you can't return.
This is not saying that Making Love isn't wonderful, when it is your time!!! There is bleeding and a little pain, but when you are in TRUE love and there is tenderness you can deal with it together.
And also honey, be careful on these sites asking questions like this OK? On here there are moderators that will watch out for "Dirty replies" but on others I'm not too sure. And there are guys out there that will make you feel like dirt OK? So bide your time and be TOTALLY sure and In LOVE!!!
All the best hon!
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Thank you so so much. For your time explaining everything to me :-) Again, thank you
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Your welcome hon! Just remember - ALWAYS - that the person you should think of 1st is YOU!!! You don't have to do anything for anyone - other than go too school like your parents tell you. ;-) 8-| If I can stop 1 more girl in this world from feeling like she's dirty, or being talked about like she is nothing then I will try my darndest too.
A very dear friend of mine, was sexually active at a young age. She felt and was treated like dirt. Eventually she met a guy that made her feel "special" turns out he had a plan for her, and the next thing I know she was on the streets as a prostitute. She was a prositute for YEARS! You know why hon? Because she never felt valued, she felt that this was her life and how others thought about her, so she might as well get paid for it!!!!! :-( :'( And my own personal experiences are VERY similar too hers. You will hear things from others that they had sex with so and so, and it was great. And you will see them "Getting guys" but what you don't see is there inner heartbreak and KNOWING that they are just there for others pleasure! It does them in! So I just want you too be one of the growing numbers of kids out there who are holding off. Because it DOES change EVERYTHING.
Be solid in yourself hon, know that you are the most important person! And have faith in yourself, when you are strong people follow you and look up to you. And they will NEVER even try pressuring you into something. They will only try it on the weak. Good luck hon!! And ALWAYS think highly of yourself OK?!
A very dear friend of mine, was sexually active at a young age. She felt and was treated like dirt. Eventually she met a guy that made her feel "special" turns out he had a plan for her, and the next thing I know she was on the streets as a prostitute. She was a prositute for YEARS! You know why hon? Because she never felt valued, she felt that this was her life and how others thought about her, so she might as well get paid for it!!!!! :-( :'( And my own personal experiences are VERY similar too hers. You will hear things from others that they had sex with so and so, and it was great. And you will see them "Getting guys" but what you don't see is there inner heartbreak and KNOWING that they are just there for others pleasure! It does them in! So I just want you too be one of the growing numbers of kids out there who are holding off. Because it DOES change EVERYTHING.
Be solid in yourself hon, know that you are the most important person! And have faith in yourself, when you are strong people follow you and look up to you. And they will NEVER even try pressuring you into something. They will only try it on the weak. Good luck hon!! And ALWAYS think highly of yourself OK?!
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