We are guilt ridden! Fancy not being able to put up with a little old 90 year lady for a week end. My husbands mother sends us crazy. I think she is past helping at 90 but we are slowly going insane putting up with the repeated questions, same old story 4 times in the 25 minute journey to our house and then again for ...hell I have lost count! Nothing adds up to me. She lives on her own, goes out everyday to the shops by bus and taxi, manages her own pills etc but insistes on repeating herself. I got angry at her last night. Every time the cyclone warning came on she thought it was coming for us. No amount of explaining would stop her and in the end I said "Ask me again and I will ignore you Grandma. This is the last time I am going to tell you blah blah blah." She remebered not to ask again! Maybe I should get angry earlier!! We only have her once a fortnight but we are so churned up before she gets here that we are a mess. Pill popping the answer? :-S
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hi there and im sorry for you for what ure are going through you and your husband. At that age a person surely starts to suffer from which is called a problem like Dementia like forgetting simply tasks , where she /he was yesterday what kind of food she/he ate where he/she's living like she/he still thinks that he/she is living in his/her childhood hometown , his/her name. You should be very careful and search for help of a good psychiatrists because your grandma needs help dear very soon indeed. This can be very dangerous for help so get help dear and tell me hows going Dementia isnt something you should joke with .
Best regards,
Gil
Best regards,
Gil
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Instead of thinking how this affects you, think about what your mother has been going through - you can walk away from her dementia - she's known her memory was going, she knows she gets confused, she knows you get angry and that only heightens her stress and dishevelment....Is there something physical that's causing her stress too? Xanax maybe that should only be used for 4 months or some other drug? When you can stop thinking about yourself and put your own ego in "neutral", everyone will be better off....she's no different than a mentally challenged child...grow up, it's time for you to be the adult....my mom's 90 and has dementia and I've learned that my frustration reigns when I think about me and not her.... Rick
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