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If a 16 year old has decided to have sex and has questions about something then I will try to answer her question, I will always recommend safe sex, but the decision whether to have sex or not is her choice.
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Oh and yeah I AM a healthcare professional...
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If they have a baby at a early age, how their life will be after the baby comes? Or if they get an abortion, how they will feel after it is over and how they will feel for years to come? Or if they happen to get a disease, how they will feel? Or how will their future partner feel?
I understand if kids is going to have sex, you need to make sure they know to have a condom at least. But they need to know that condom's can break. If the condom's break, what should they should do and so on.
Sex is fun, but it can bring a lot of pain if your not ready or your body isn't ready. I just think kids need to know all of it, before they make a decision. We adults should be the ones to let the kids know. I have children and I am open with my kids. If one of my kids does make a mistake, I will be there for them. I talk to my kids and I realize many parents do not. I have had talks with my children and I plan on having more in the future.
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would you get angry at first?
would you then support her?
would you allow her to see her boyfriend again?
would you allow her to make the decision about what she wants with the baby?
how would the mother-daughter relationship change from it?
if she wanted to keep it a secret from her father would you agree?
age: 15
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And like crzyfl said this is a place for information to those who need it.
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Those 2 questions the mom brought up are so so unnecessary. This argument about being used for sex - what a load of c**p! Yes sex is a big need in a relationship and each one has different boundaries. Isn't it logical that to have sex one needs to be "used" Not sure why people, especially parents and society cant understand that. The other thing is about her saying " what if the guy walks away from the relationship after having sex" DUH! That could happen with any relationship. Are people really silly and so immature they don't and cannot understand how relationships work? One simply has to look at the divorce rate around the world. Nearly 60% of married couples end up divorced. Yet parents want their daughters to only have sex within the confines of marriage. What a load of holy c**p!
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YES absolutely true. I strongly believe a girl should be able to consent to sex when she hits puberty. That is THE biological sign she is ready for sex. I think we should move away from discussing mental maturity and being "ready" Insisting on mental maturity and being "ready" is so irresponsible and lacking any insight. The only way to make sure a girl does not face issues is to make sure she is "prepared" I keep emphasising this all the time. Being PREPARED is the ONLY thing needed. That way we protect the girl from falling pregnant and prevent her from STDs. Relationships will have their ups and down, relationships will fail. One thing for sure is that sex will happen, sometimes even at that tender age of 12. Trying to stop a teen from having sex is very impractical. Doesn't work. But what we can do is to be RESPONSIBLE and PREPARE them for the event, in case they start having sex early, so problems like pregnancy and STDs can be avoided.
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Remember once a teen has started thinking about sex, she/he will find a way to do it.
The responsible thing is not to tell them not to have sex because that will never work. Teach them stuff and give them skills to protect themselves. PREPARE them for the event. Help them to prevent getting pregnant and prevent acquiring STDs. This doesn't mean encouraging them. It means as a parent you are being very responsible and you have their well being at heart.
PREPARE them for that event.
I started when I was turning 13. It was the most awesome experience. The guy was much much older but he made sure I came to no harm. It was beautiful. It was magnificent. Yes we had a lot of sex. I never felt used. We did part ways after 18 months together.
Now, did I get "used" - you decide for yourself. I didn't give a damn even if I did get used. It was fun, safe and I loved it.
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