I'm so glad I've found this thread... Yesterday it happened to me the same situation, I was at my grandmother's house and me and my girlfriend started making out, I undressed her, went down on her, but no friggin erection. I was flacid the whole time and obviously she noticed and we started talking about it. I was angry and embarassed at the same time with myself. The funny thing is that when we left the house and sit in the streets talking she was saying really nice things to me and BAM I've had a boner. So... wtf is happening to me? I manage to have an erection when I'm outside in the streets and can't when I'm near of having sex?
As much of the guys that posted I have problems about my self esteem and while I was making out I was really nervous and anxious, so hopefully next time I'll be more relaxed about it and confident as well.
As much of the guys that posted I have problems about my self esteem and while I was making out I was really nervous and anxious, so hopefully next time I'll be more relaxed about it and confident as well.
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hey guest it is all mental.
you get nervouse when you are about to have sex. this acts as a distraction to your mind and you are unablew to achieve an erection. or if you have one it may cause you to lose it. plus the fact you were at your grandmas house also plays a mental role especially the fear of being caught by someone like your grandma how embarrassing would that be :$ o.O ;-)
when you are away from thoes distracting situations your body is free to express how it feels and you get an erection
the key is to relax and not worry.
that is if you are even ready to have sex in the first place.
i hope this helps some 8)
you get nervouse when you are about to have sex. this acts as a distraction to your mind and you are unablew to achieve an erection. or if you have one it may cause you to lose it. plus the fact you were at your grandmas house also plays a mental role especially the fear of being caught by someone like your grandma how embarrassing would that be :$ o.O ;-)
when you are away from thoes distracting situations your body is free to express how it feels and you get an erection
the key is to relax and not worry.
that is if you are even ready to have sex in the first place.
i hope this helps some 8)
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We had great oral but I fckin couldnt get a boner.I wasted three condoms. Omg i thought I was gay . I had hard on sometimes but when I tried to penetrate it still shrinked.Finally I came in her throat .I wasn't embarrased bcz we really love each other.But I was fckin sad omg.
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Thanks for all these posts, I'm glad I found this site too.
I tried to have sex last night for the very first time with a girl I like. I was hard for all the making out and stuff but once I put the condom on I got soft. I had two beers to calm myself down ( I rarely drink) and we tried again. Better, since my nerves calmed down but still, same thing happened. Unfortunately she's not a very turned on girl so she doesn't do a lot to help me other than lay there and be hot. At least she seemed understanding of my problem. Holy c**p though, I hope I can get over this. My chances to keep trying are few and far between. I hope I'm not developing ED or something. I'm only 29.
I tried to have sex last night for the very first time with a girl I like. I was hard for all the making out and stuff but once I put the condom on I got soft. I had two beers to calm myself down ( I rarely drink) and we tried again. Better, since my nerves calmed down but still, same thing happened. Unfortunately she's not a very turned on girl so she doesn't do a lot to help me other than lay there and be hot. At least she seemed understanding of my problem. Holy c**p though, I hope I can get over this. My chances to keep trying are few and far between. I hope I'm not developing ED or something. I'm only 29.
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I've just had same problem. Was with a v hot girl and getting bj but couldn't get more than a semi. Tried sex but just same, couldn't get full erection. Masturbat*d a few hours before though so I think it was just that.
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I'm glad I found ths site. Same problem here. I was making out with a girl who really wanted it, and I couldn't get things going. It was unbelievably embarrassing.
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ugghhh. this is seriously one of the weirdest siuations in my life! i had sex when i was about 15 and then found a girlfriend when i was 17 and she was a vergin. i rele didnt feel to nervouse with her because i knew she hadnt had any experience her self. so go on and have this wonderful relationship and a crazy sex life( trying almost everything and pleasing her easily) andthen as time went on we split up:( .. but whatever i figured it would be good to get out there and use my prior knowlage on some new women. so in the past month ive had the fortunate and unfortunate opportunity of getting 3 girls into my bed. and and the time i was as confident as ever but the second i go to put it in.my penis is soft. i was nervouse and embaressed and i couldnt see how after all that experience with my girlfriend.. i dont think ill ever a have sex again:(
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Honestly this thread made me feel good again...I just tried to have sex with my gf for the first time we are both virgins. We kissed and I hd an errection but once the clothes came off it went down....I was so embarrassed esp cuz it was her first time and Im sure she expected me to wow her like I do in foreplay ;-)....
Thankfully she was understanding but now she's afraid to try again cuz of what happened....argh....
Thankfully she was understanding but now she's afraid to try again cuz of what happened....argh....
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Listen you all.. This really sucks, and I don't know what to do... Its always happened to me too.. ALways.. It seems it just gets worst and worst. My mind wants sex so bad, I look down? and nothings there.. And she asks me constantly if im hard yet, and I have to say no.. Its so emberassing... I don't know what to do... they say relax, but you can't.. They say viagra is a quick fix, but honestly?? I think If i can get a hold of some.. Ill be straight lmao...
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Wow man I don't get it. I have the same problem, then I got a girlfriend and after like 2 or 3 weeks of trying i got it up and from there on out it was smooth sailing. We went out for about a year and had a LOT of sex with absolutely no problem. Yesterday I went to have sex with a girl and the SAME sh*t happened again. I thought i was done with this, I don't want to have this problem every time I have sex with a new girl. What should I do?!
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damn, same thing happened to me, we had like 1 hour foreplay and i was hard on during that time.. but when we finally decided to have sex, my erection was gone and how hard i was trying to get it back i couldnt.. My gf did not make much effort to help me either lol.. i barely managed to get some erection just enough to put the condom on, but it just kept bending when i try put it in, in the end we both agreed it was not comfortable doing it in the car =D. NExt time hopefully . I think it was just nervousness and setting plays big role, also if the girl is inexperienced too..
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Come on guys this cannot be and ED or anything we are all pretty much virgins that have posted on this site. im 16 myself and the first time i had all ready cummed and tryed to get back up again but could only get semi. so we tried again two days later, during foreplay i was hard right up to the very momment i reach for a condom it goes down. i guess we have to ease up and relax, dont let our nerves get the best of us.
i guess its find of funny, its like our minds are penis blocking us hahah as soon as 'the momment' comes you have been waiting for since you were 12 the one thing you thought you should never worry about just goes soft haha. its just so crazy, im going to relax over it stress is not going to help at all.
its not like this is going to be a problem for the rest of our lives right, just relax.
i guess its find of funny, its like our minds are penis blocking us hahah as soon as 'the momment' comes you have been waiting for since you were 12 the one thing you thought you should never worry about just goes soft haha. its just so crazy, im going to relax over it stress is not going to help at all.
its not like this is going to be a problem for the rest of our lives right, just relax.
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holy balls I'm so happy I found this website. I tried to boink my gf yesterday, and I couldn't stay hard..I felt really embarrassed about it, and each time I tried to shove it in her p***y i just kept getting soft:( I must have tried 10 times(SAME RESULT EVERY TIME) i was using a condom, so that maybe it? also, i have to admit i was pretty f*****g nervous :/ the sad thing is she think im not turned on by her and that i think shes ugly:( thats not true lol all the foreplay and sh*t i get f*****g harder than geodude and then when i try to stick it in her p***y BOOM its gone... ugh im just pissed damn haha but so glad im not the only one with this problem ! such a relief...
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This happened to me last night and im kinda worried. it was my first time and the chick was drunk and we sat in the room for about 2 hours. we made out and i fingered her and everything but when it was finaly time,it was as the smallest my thing ever had been.i tried everything to get it up but NOTHING would work. im still not sure being nervous has anything to do with it cus i really wasnt to nervous
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