Helloo.. My boyfriend had this problem..
It was his first time but not mine. He was scared im guessing. Weve done oral before and hes had no problem then but as soon as he tried to put it up me , he lost his erection.. But we managed it. We tried again but he has the same problem the second time we had sex. Is there anything i can do to help?
pleaaseee, i feel useless :/
It was his first time but not mine. He was scared im guessing. Weve done oral before and hes had no problem then but as soon as he tried to put it up me , he lost his erection.. But we managed it. We tried again but he has the same problem the second time we had sex. Is there anything i can do to help?
pleaaseee, i feel useless :/
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This happend to me over the weekend. I love my girlfriend. We both are not virgins but we love each other and it was going to be our first with each other. We made out forever and I kept precumming over and over again. We started making out while watching a movie around 6 and then got in my hot tub at 8 then tried having sex at 10. I told her I think we waited too late bc I was fine before but dang i cant stay hard forever. She freaking teases me so much. I love it but dang it was so embarressing. I just dont want her to think Im small. bc her last bf she said was 4 inches. Im at about 8 and I dont want her thinking I cant please her. I was so pissed.
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Wow glad to hear that this is common in other vigrins... This has happened to me and my gf (both virgins) twice now and she was really upset after the second time saying she doesn't want to try again and doesn't want to get naked around me cuz I wont have a boner...
So next time I'm thinking I shud just take a few shots to calm me down, i know alcohol when used in moderation defenitley calms the nerves and boosts confidence bigtime so I'm sure it will work the 3rd attempt.
But the problem I have had that I didn't see anybody else right about is when I had the half boner and she was trying to get it in, I came, for no reason it didn't even get it in and my half soft and unstimulated penis just came, like wtf is that also cuz of nerves????
So next time I'm thinking I shud just take a few shots to calm me down, i know alcohol when used in moderation defenitley calms the nerves and boosts confidence bigtime so I'm sure it will work the 3rd attempt.
But the problem I have had that I didn't see anybody else right about is when I had the half boner and she was trying to get it in, I came, for no reason it didn't even get it in and my half soft and unstimulated penis just came, like wtf is that also cuz of nerves????
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glad i found this site. haha
i had the same problem last night, i was with a girl that i knew for awhile and she got hot and i did too but not fully...
im not a virgin, shes not a virgin neither..
but for some odd reason, i just couldn't get it up fully.
all i know was that i was very excited cause our breaths were very rapid.
but i will try it again with her tomorrow
and hope this doesn't happen again. that will be sooo embarrassing.
i had the same problem last night, i was with a girl that i knew for awhile and she got hot and i did too but not fully...
im not a virgin, shes not a virgin neither..
but for some odd reason, i just couldn't get it up fully.
all i know was that i was very excited cause our breaths were very rapid.
but i will try it again with her tomorrow
and hope this doesn't happen again. that will be sooo embarrassing.
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Thank God im not the only guy out there :-D i dont feel bad at all or embarassed cuz me and my girlfriend have the best relationship possible even tho we are both virgins. at first i was really embarassed and i was nervous of putting the condom on just because i didnt wanna make it awkward and i finally said f**k it and grabbed one and as i was putting it on we was just having a really wierd chat about jessie J cuz we was watching tv lol but whenever we are kissing im hard but when it came to giving her oral and fingering her it went down and was just normal, i almost just got bored lol and then when i had condom on and told her it wasnt hard she did her best to help by getting ontop of me and although this helped it was only brief and then she gave me oral for the first time which gave me a full erection but then when it came to putting it in it was just bending and not going in. i think the reason for having trouble with keeping an erection or just having one is more about being relaxed as i noticed i was really over thinking things while it was happening and next time we try i think ill be more confident. i also think the girl being wet is really important as it makes it should make it alot easier next time i try to have sex i think i will be alot better and if i still have same problem ill be annoyed but theres really nothing you can do and my girlfriend was really understanding but all you guys just need to accept there isnt alot you can do just stay relaxed and try not to think about things and im definatly not suggesting viagra or drinking. my girlfriend is 15 and im 17 and both virgins and i really couldnt be happier :-) 17 still a virgin big deal? not for me :-P
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i know how you all feel it sucks so bad it happend to me twice with the same girl the wierd thing for me is i had a girlfriend for 8 months and had sex atleast 2 a week and now its been 8 months moved on i had sex with my new girlfriend once then two times after that i i had a boner once i went to put it in my boner went away so i tried viagra the 2nd time tho i still lost i need help any advice anyone
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Hi all,
Just wanting to let you know that this is a fixable problem. I had the same problem being at the time a 22 year old male who had never had sexual intercourse. My girlfriend and I went to have sex and I kept losing my erection just before penetration. It was so frustrating at the time and I just wanted to try and try again until I got it. I read online and people kept putting it down to nerves so I kept telling myself this in my head. We tried 3 or 4 times and eventually started to make some progress. On about the third or fourth time I was able to penetrate and we had sex for a while but the negative thoughts came back into my head and I lost my erection. I didn't give up and my girlfriend stayed understanding, patient and was really brilliant reassurring me. I tried to focus on what a great body she had and how much I wanted to be inside her and this helped. I also tried to relax more and just told myself that everything was in working order its just nerves I need to conquer. We lay there and just fooled around some nights with each other and this helped put me at ease. Eventually I was determined I wanted her so bad and things turned out great we had amazing sex. Of course sometimes the problem returns as I am mentally not strong enough to block it out but mostly the sex is great and when it doesn't happen I just become even more determined next time. Don't give up I know it's difficult. It got me really down and I know how you must be feeling. But keep trying and talk to your girlfriend about how you feel it really helps. Fingers crossed, good luck and thanks to everyone on these forums that had advice for me when I needed it. :-)
Just wanting to let you know that this is a fixable problem. I had the same problem being at the time a 22 year old male who had never had sexual intercourse. My girlfriend and I went to have sex and I kept losing my erection just before penetration. It was so frustrating at the time and I just wanted to try and try again until I got it. I read online and people kept putting it down to nerves so I kept telling myself this in my head. We tried 3 or 4 times and eventually started to make some progress. On about the third or fourth time I was able to penetrate and we had sex for a while but the negative thoughts came back into my head and I lost my erection. I didn't give up and my girlfriend stayed understanding, patient and was really brilliant reassurring me. I tried to focus on what a great body she had and how much I wanted to be inside her and this helped. I also tried to relax more and just told myself that everything was in working order its just nerves I need to conquer. We lay there and just fooled around some nights with each other and this helped put me at ease. Eventually I was determined I wanted her so bad and things turned out great we had amazing sex. Of course sometimes the problem returns as I am mentally not strong enough to block it out but mostly the sex is great and when it doesn't happen I just become even more determined next time. Don't give up I know it's difficult. It got me really down and I know how you must be feeling. But keep trying and talk to your girlfriend about how you feel it really helps. Fingers crossed, good luck and thanks to everyone on these forums that had advice for me when I needed it. :-)
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Same thing happened to me last night and this morning :-(. It goes so well when getting oral off her and i can maintain an erection but when it actually comes to penetrating it just went floppy in about 10 secs. I was very nervous because it was my first time, so i had many thoughts going through my mind, which i think puts me off so i lose an erection. Ino she doesnt mind because she has many orgasms through oral which no other boy has gave her before :-D. Hopefully when next time comes, im just going to think positive and do a lot of rubbing and teasing before it which will hopefully help, when the first times out the way it will get much easier :-) because i wont be as nervous. Im also starting kegal exercises which is ament to help a lot in that department.
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me having sex wit my wife is not and issue at all. my john wakes up in no time> yday i was wit this gf of mine. i struggled like hell to achieve an erection. it didnt come. sometime if we r new wit someone, nervous and uncomfortable plus guilty feeling...for sure our penises will lose emotionally.
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yeah.. me happened to me 2 for about half an hour ago... I just wanna go and die or something. fuuuuck, I'm like, sad. Worst part is that it's a pretty big chance that this will slip out among my classmates, and they will laugh about it behind my back..
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im 23, and i tried having sex for the first time 3 days ago. everything was good, and the girl im with know sim a virgin and wants to make me amazing at sex, she wants to be my teacher. she has made me into a decent kisser, and showed me how to eat pvssy well so far. she says i made her cvm already by giving her head, and that encourages me. and when i put it in i came close to cvming and was hard for a while, but for some reason i started losing wood, and couldnt get it back. she then tried giving me head and the bottom of my penis gland (or head) got really sore suddenly and was even painfull. after that it was hopeless, and my penis looked red and swollen. i dont know what went wrong
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Don't worry guys. When I first my husband, he was a virgin but I had had boyfriends before him. When we decided to "get together" it was third time lucky for him. He was so nervous the first time that we got sail up but then the wind died before we could get it into to port. I think the second time was even more stressful for him due to performance stress.
After that we waited a few days to try again and we didn't plan another attempt. The next time we were just watching tv together, kissing touching etc and just let it happen spontaneously. Alot less stress than a planned encounter!! We've never had any problems since that night.
Hope this advice helps guys!
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I had the same problem last night and I feel sh*t about it. Really ashamed. I'm 34yo and my girlfriend is 35. And we're both virgins! Go figure. Anyway, the mood was set with candles, plenty of kissing and touching, slowly removing bits of clothing. No booze, smoking or other recreational drugs to inhibit performance. Tried for 4 hours on and off, but nothing. The best I could do was a semi for all of 5 seconds. And even then, I managed to cum inside the condom. 3 condoms later, we decided to give up and sleep. The following morning, I had a boner when I woke up, but by the time I got her in the mood, it was gone again (condom number 4 wasted). I asked her to give me head and I came in her mouth while having a semi again. Wtf?! I never thought I could cum while flacid. Unlike others here, I didn't feel nervous or anything. If anything, I was excited I was about to lose the big V stigma. She said it's ok and appeared understanding, saying we'll try again, but how am I gonna face her again after my incompetence? I won't be able to even look her in the eyes. We did everything BUT the final act. Shame, that's all I feel. No nerves, no embarrassment, nothing like that. Just shame.
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