Getting pregnant during perimenopause at age 45

I need a lot of encouragment. I am 45 and I want to get pregnant. I maybe in my premenonpause.

Hi, I can understand how you feel , I am 45 and has been trying to get pregnant , however I do think  only a miracle can make that come true. I have come to terms with it now and I am ready to move forward.I wish if I could offer more but I just want to be honest.

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I am going to be 46 next month and 8weeks blessed....I am freaking out but as you I'm leaving it in Gods hands this gives me comfort...I have 4 my oldest is 23 imagine that my baby is 9 and she always told us we planned it all wrong because we didn't give her a baby brother lol...pray and stay positive

Hi Bedfordgirl Have just read this post, I am the same age as you were in this post and fsh vertually the same. Docs said unlikely I will fall pregnant as in the menopause, hot flushes every night, no period as I was on a pill where it stopped my periods completely, but doc said to try for 6 months anyway for a baby....it will be my second, my partner has no children and we would love one togeter. Would you mind telling me how you go on with your hormone levels and if you did cncieve, fingers crossed for you tat you did :)) x

Hi Tamarina, I am 43 now and still trying to concieve. To answer your question about how I handle my hormone levels I have been listening to my body and trying to controll my hotflashes through diet, exercise, cutting down my tea and coffee in take to once a day and it seems to help. I also got a cooling pillow online that helps with the hotflashes at night and I don't wake up through the night as much, it regulates your body temperature and stays cold. I have also noticed my periods are back but not regularly about every 3 months so I still makes it hard to figure out when I am ovualating but I will never give up and I know in my heart it is a matter of time no matter what my doctor says. But i have never concieved before and due to circumstances in my life and because I was on the pill for so long starting later in life is causing my body to fight harder. Good luck and hear is too starting over , may we both find happiness in our new lives. Let me know how it is going for you. Bedfordgirl

I am 44 years old (45 in 3 months) and would give my right arm (or more) to have another child. I already have a wonderful nine year old, but it wasn't easy conceiving him, so it may never happen for me again. However, I am very open to adoption, and always wanted one of each. In fact, I was adopted. I can tell you from personal experience that adopted kids are very special, and in some ways are even closer to their parents than biological kids. I was so close to my adoptive father (though I never refer to him that way) that he wrote a children's book about me (fantasy/adventure), for me, which is now one of the most famous/popular books of all time.

Five years after I was adopted (because my mother was unable to keep her pregnancies), my parents welcomed a biological brother to the family (medicine advances very quickly). Still, the bond with my parents is closer than anything - perhaps even closer with that of their biological child. As my father once said..."my Angel...you are extra special, because you were chosen". :-))

Adoption will bring you as much joy as having your own...trust me.

Hi, I just read your post and want to know if you still wanting to get pregnant?

I am 45 years old, 9 days late, feeling nauseous... wondering if it's mind games.

My husband and I have been married for almost 14 years and he has never been married before that and never had children.  He did adopt my son, who is now almost 24, but we both have always desperately wanted children together.

Every month for 14 years I have wondered if maybe I was pregnant... and then my period would come.  I went through a time of it being late and off....but I was never pregnant.  So, it's like I play mind games with myself every single month, even though I don't want to do it, it just happens... "am I pregnant?"  then the period comes.  Sigh.

Last month I had a mammo and ultrasound and found they found a small lump in my breast, very small, but wanted to test it.  I was scheduled for a biopsy for yesterday.  My period was due 9 days ago and never came...still hasn't.

I thought it was due to a bit of nerves about the biopsy, but I really wasn't very nervous at all.  I fully expected once that was over for my period to start.  Still nothing and now I'm feeling a bit nauseous (could it be mind games?)... I don't want to take HPT because I don't want to get excited about he possibility of being pregnant and then let down.  Almost like I don't want to know, but I WANT it to happen.  

Sigh.  

If you are usually regular, and your period is 9 days late, it could be you are pregnant, or you could be slowing down towards the menopause. You don't want to take the test because you don't want the excitement and then get let down, but if you took it to prove you are not pregnant, then there would be no test 'let-down'. You get the question in your mind anyway, then the period becomes the let-down. So take the test, and be sure. If you are slowing down, and your periods become further spaced, you will always be wondering.
I hope this helps

God is the only one who can do the impossible. Forget about what the Doctor told you and keep trusting the most high God. He will do a miracle in your life. Let the Doctor apply his/her science and allow the Holy Spirit to also perform His Miracle. God has promised and would never fail. With God all things are POSSIBLE. He can do GREAT MIRACLE in your life. God is the only one who can turn your tears into joy and fill your mouth with laughter. Very soon you will forget about all the negatives and smile for VICTORY. JESUS can fix your problem. Blessings.

Thank you for your reply.
As it turned out, I was pregnant, took a HPT on Mother's Day and it immediately showed positive. I was very excited, hubby and I were both head over heels excited (and a wee bit nervous, lol). We believed this was our little miracle that we had prayed to recieve for so many years. Sadly at 6wks I miscarried, I was absolutely heartbroken. However, it has given me new hope!! I have really kicked in to a lot of natural supplements for the both of us, (CoQ10, B12, Evening Primrose, Vit C, Vit E, Prenatals and Maca Root Powder daily).

I'm glad you have renewed hope, even though you miscarried. Keep praying.

Well Ladies,

All I can say is that I too was having perimenopausal symptoms, along with fibroids and many cycles where I didn't ovulate, yet still had periods. We haven't used birth control for the past 5 years. I am 48, and have 5 children , ages 20, 17, 14, 12, and 7. And now I am pregnant again! Very shocked, but happy and believing for the best. Only 5 weeks along so far. Didn't really think it could happen, especially without trying or using medical intervention. So don't give up hope for those who want a child! It is rare, but apparently not impossible. Best wishes to all of you!

How exciting for you! Congratulations!! I know what you are feeling with the "shocked but happy", as that is how I felt too. I do hope that all goes absolutely healthy and perfect for you and your little one. What a blessing! :)

Thank you. Have been having some spotting off and on for the past 5 days. Dr. said it COULD be sign of miscarriage, but it also could be nothing at all. It's not unusual for women , esp those with fibroids to have some bleeding. It's not getting worse, and no cramping, so I'm staying positive, praying, and believing for the best.