I need some advice. I've been married for over a year and lived with my man for a year and a half before marrying. I noticed, in the beginning, that he rather enjoys "stimulating" himself in the shower. I'm not talking just beating off, I'm talking hand held shower head on the anus and jerking off. He also has his own dildo's for his own anal use. (he was in prison for 4 years) We can't watch any porn unless it is an anal porn. At first I thought this was sexy. BUT I began to notice we would go weeks without sex, yet he stimulates himself. I have to initiate sex. He doesn't do anything but lay there at first. I have to grab the lube and jump on top if I want sex. He doesn't play with my body AT ALL. We got into a huge argument because I am upset about his need to have his "privacy" to stimulate himself, yet he hardly even touches my skin. He says ALL men do what he does. But, I've been with men in relationships, for longer periods of time..and I have not had this issue. EVER. I am a very sensual woman, I LOVE SEX..all kinds of sex. I don't know what to do about this. It makes me feel as if I'm here for show only..or as a maid. I miss being touched, I miss sex.
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Dont worry, he feels he needs something different... just be open with him and try not to seem as if you need something from him.
He is normal but you may want to show him that you want some pleasure in another form.
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I have purchased a strap on so I could pleasure him that way. This isn't an issue of showing him I want some pleasure in another form. I wish it were that easy. He stimulates himself and I go without. It really bothers me that he has time to touch himself, pleasure himself..yet doesn't really touch my body. He doesn't caress or even touch my breast. He doesn't kiss or hug or anything. We used to do that, all of that. But, now...it's just about nothing. I'm so tired of being ignored sexually while he continues to please himself so he has no needs that I am fulfill.
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