Anal penetration and Erectile Disfunction

Your answer is no, anal penetration is not associated in any way with errectile disfunction... Using anal toys(in some men and not neccesarily gays or all gays, a lot of straight men use toys too) can stimulate a better orgasim as it applies pressure to thier prostate which is where Mr.Semen comes from... : ) However, on reading that I'm gonna tell ya something... if he's using anal toys and you can't keep him arroused he's either a closet gay or bi-curious wanting to try guys for a change... :/ Yes straight guys use toys too and would never DREAM of having a real penis in there... but honestly, if he's like you said.. addicted to porn and uses or sometimes uses anal toys on himself.. he probably doesn't have an issue getting hard, keeping it and getting off... it's something he is not telling you... If you wanna try to save the relationship I suggest you use the toys on him during foreplay and for intercourse buy him an anal plug... : )

Just don't focus on the gay thing, unless you've wondered it too... but at least talk to him about it.

-Ze Eric

Before you rush to the conclusion of him being gay, ask him what kind of porn he watched - that might give a better answer.

Also, it's possible that he's less sensitive to stimulation since he used to watch a lot of porn. It may be that he needs longer foreplay or enhancements to the sexual play (such as lingerie) to arouse him.

You could also reverse the roles and use a strap-on to penetrate him - which may get him hard, or just make a good alternative to him penetrating you :-)

Erectile dis-function.

If a man who is fixated on masturbation and anal stimulation engages in straightforward sexual intercourse he may well have a problem keeping erect. This may seem surprising but there is a lot of psychology associated with sex particularly for those who have a vivid imagination. This is no reflection on the girl so girls, don't worry that you are at fault.

What can be done? I think a re-education process is the best course. You must make sex as similar to what he is used to. If he likes something up his bum, you must gently manipulate the device while maybe stroking his penis to erection. He will have thoughts while masturbating so you must encourage these thoughts and maybe improve on them. Ask him what he likes to think about when masturbating and follow along with this. For example, if he looks at a scantily clad girl's photo and imagines he would like her to give him an enema and he imagines the device in his bum is an enema tube, you can step in as the imagined girl.

Gradually, he will re-orientate himself towards being stimulated by you and then you can graduate to intercourse while manipulating the thing in his bum.

The situation is this. If a fellow (or maybe a girl for that matter) enjoys anal stimulation while masturbating, anal stimulation will remain a must during any fulfilling sex play. He will always value anal stimulation while having sex as having the anus stimulated will enhance the orgasm several fold. Do not blame or criticize him. It is not his fault, he was born with this tendency and in fact he is quite lucky as his orgasms are being enhanced by anal play. If you love him, go along with the idea and develop ways in which he can enjoy anal while having intercourse with you. You might even try it for yourself but always use something small and thin such as an enema nozzle and insert it slowly and gently if not using lubricant.

It is just erectile dysfunction. He needs to get treated for it. Or in the alternative use drugs now easily available, but after prescription from a doctor.

And if he has anal fantasies, indulge him so long as you are ok with it. For instance, you can make love doggie style, which allows him to imagine that he is actually penetrating your anus, and once he is ready, you can have sex vaginally.

Your answer is no, anal penetration is not associated in any way with errectile disfunction ??????????????? when i did anal for the first time just to try out while masturbating.. and while i cummed i felt aloth of PAIN in my cremaster reflex. now i dont have an morning erection anymore or while sleeping its hard to get turned on and even harder to get my penis hard. will only work when i have to cum... but first i have to get it up and its all phiscial since mind stuff wont work anymore. and im god. i dont want a comment on this. anal is BAD (dopamine-endorfine-endocrine ext.)

For real... any straight guy would love a bit of stimulation back there. I had wondered about it since seeing the movie Road Trip, then bam, a girl who was giving me a great BJ slipped her pinky back there and I started seeing stars and fireworks, I got a bit scared and excited. Boom. I had the craziest O and got C everywhere. It's not for EVERY time, but yeah... wow. Not guay.

If hes wearing a condom, that's the reason right there. If he's not it's because his penis is insensitive to the feeling in your vagina, essentially it's not rough enough for him. Maintaining an erection is also psychological and the first thing a man may thinm when entering a girl is that he isn't pleasuring her well enough, that's why girls who "just lay there" are such a turn off. Guy's like girls who are turned on, who really thirst for the penis. Someone who isn't afraid to moan and take control like she really wants it. But make sure he's comfortable as well.. compliment his penis, guys love that it helps us gain confidence and makes us feel good about ourselves during the act. Tell him you love the way it looks and feels when you hold it. Another thing too, is if he likes anal stimulation perhaps get a buttplug or a small vibrator, you know those little egg shapes ones that have a cord on them with a vibration control thing. That way while youre riding him you can use that to control even more stimulation. You should discuss his and your needs in an open way and maturely find out what it is that turns both of you on. To help you find out if youre both sexually compatible.

well thank you , i thought if i did that to him it would freak him out , and put an end to it all right there ,

thank you for this i thought if i did this it would freak him out and that would be the end of it right there ,

Hello! Yes! I am so happy other people are concerned about this like i am. Soooo the past 3 months i've started to sleep with large toys in me for the entire night. They have gradually gotten much bigger over the months, now as big as 3" diameter (approx slightly bigger than a beer can) and for the first time ever i am starting to lose the ability to get erect, even with no toys inside myself. I'm usually like that for a little shy of a week and then i regain my abilities so there is definitely a relation to the two (i am 26 yrs old btw). Moderate anal play seems to be ok but when i bring out the big boys i become unfunctional. I am straight suprisingly and i have drastically cut down on stretching sessions and durations, i was just hoping to get a more in depth explanation of why that happens. Is that why some gay men are considered "non function " and how is your sphincter and erection related? Is it bc my pelvic muscles have become too loose or is this destroying my kegal muscles?

Me too. I'm 27 and I've been having anal sex for almost 15 years and never had issues until now. 2 years I started using meth and since then I have sex with 5-7 different partners on average a day everyday since then and it's been almost 3 weeks I no longer get hard. Even taking double-triple dose Viagra and cialis and NOTHING. Sometimes I can ejaculate after Jacking off for a long while and maybe 3-4 drops of semen would come out. Nothing like the volume I used to ejaculate and clear cloudy instead of white creamy.

Hey , first of all happy new year, now I got a friend that's 26 and he says that he doesn't get an erection in the morning when he wakes or even if he sleeps with a it's not as hard as it normally would be. What advice can I give my friend. I told him go see a doctor, but he's afraid. 

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It's the Porn! Tell him to stop watching porn!!! The porn may even be the reason he's even trying to put things up his Fart Box... but there is something called Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... look it up if u haven't already... it'll take some time but follow those guidelines of NOFAP NO PMO.... u don't need to use toys on him unless u want to

This is terrible, uneducated advice. Don't pay it any mind.